[jc]

im still in weekly therepy and theres one symptom that arises that no-one seems to understand (albeit one girl in the group)

now i describe this as my 'dp' but it goes more deeper than just feeling unreal...for instance if i have to drive anywhere that is out of my safety zone which i did while driving my dad to london one day...i got out of the car and realised or had a fleeting thought that i wasnt in my 'zone' and my mind just crept inwards and even more inwards ...it was horrific it was like the mind retreating and me thinking 'what the fuck do i do' you cannot run away from yourself...

having said that i did calm down and went on my way,but how many of you have had this experience where you are facing a situation that scares you so much that the mind retreats inwards...with dp i find that it is more mental than physical...before i would panic and feel anxiety but it would be physical now its all in the head which scares the crap out of me sometimes

 

[terri*]

Hi JC,

Well, it definitely is the "head" part that can be a challenge to overcome. I think you have learned to work well with the physical aspect, what with breathing and exercising. Now you have to do that with your mind. Reverse the negative thoughts.

Acknowledge them then move past them as quickly as possible. ie...I am out of my zone. Oh shit, I am out of my zone. I am okay. I can be out of my zone. What's that you said, Dad? Soon you will be going...I am out of my zone. That's okay, I've been out of it before without a problem. Then it will simple be...I am out of my zone. Screw it.

Seriously, if you don't mess with your mind so much, it will pretty much accept what you feed it. Don't feed it negative, scarey thoughts.

JC, I know you can get past this. I really know you can.

terri*

 

[Guest]

I agree with Terri.

When I spontaneously happen to be in places that would normally make me anxious, I don't experience DP/DR but if I know that I have to go to those places and have time to think about it and wonder whether or not I'll have bad DP/DR there and whether or not I'll be scared etc. etc. etc. then I certainly am a mess by the time I get there!

It's all in our heads and we need to change the negative thought pattern that we absorbed so much over the months or years.

 

[jc]

thanks terri
its not easy,i do it on a daily basis,i do seem to have the panic attacks under control,its just as you say change the thought processes

thanks
jc