If you found the love of your life; someone who you consider your soulmate and are sexually attracted to, and you won, let's say, a fity million dollar lotto jackpot. No more worries about where your next paycheck has to come from or making rent/mortgage payments. You can do what you want and when you want it make your friends and family verry happy. Do you think that your depersonalization symptoms would susbside? In other words, what influence does the daily conundrum of making a living, or attending a university, and trying to find that perfect relationship have on depersonalization symptoms....
Winning the lottery, finding love, and depersonalization
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I reckon i would be ok with just the lottery win as then i would not need to interact with the world as i could just live in my multi-million pound underground bunker like a bond villian 
I have found that nothing really changes my derpersonalization. I have the most loving and caring man in my life who is wonderful to me. Treats me like a queen, has been there every moment through the living hell of this illness. I am not rich by know means but I am financially stable, have a beautiful home with a beautiful garden, basically I lack for nothing and it does not change the depersonalization at all. The one thing that all the love and kindness I recieve from my soulmate is the comfort and loving help when the days are hard to cope with.
If love could have cured this illness I would have been well a long time ago. A good post.
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If love could have cured this illness I would have been well a long time ago. A good post.
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·Well, those things would make all the difference in the world to me NOW, lol....I can TASTE it.
However, they would have done nothing for my symptoms when I was under their sway (maybe made me feel a little worse, in fact, because I would have felt so bad knowing how good I WOULD feel if I was not in hell)
However, they would have done nothing for my symptoms when I was under their sway (maybe made me feel a little worse, in fact, because I would have felt so bad knowing how good I WOULD feel if I was not in hell)
interesting. The reason I posted this is to see if there's anything that can give a glimmer of hope, not nescessarily materialistic in nature. A lot of people are searching for that one thing, or a safety zone that will make them feel better or make them feel something. Winning a $50 million lottery should ignite some emotions.
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I think that if something like that happened, you'd probably get pretty happy, but if you weren't constantly busy with the money and your new relationship, I doubt the DP would go away completely.
With the state of isolation that I'm currently in, a loving and understanding relationship would go very far in my opinion. When I'm around people my symptoms subside and even if they don't totally dissappear I have a more positive outlook on them and they don't bother me as much.
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·I read somewhere (maybe this site?) that small moments dp/dr are a natural defense mechanism and can occur in things 'such as winning the lottery' and things become unreal.
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I remember when my pony had her baby. I couldn't really accept the fact that I had to "share" her with her baby. Things seemed unreal because it didn't seem like my pony having a baby was possible. I think that kind of thing is normal though. That happened before I even developed DR.thinwhiteduke said:
The property deal that went belly up a couple of years ago has put us under a lot of financial stress. We lost a lot of money and are still paying huge mortgages. It has totally destroyed our lifestyle and freedom of choice. My wife is very much stressed, angry and frustrated with our life and that puts a lot of stress on our relationship which means more anxiety, DP and DR. Winning the lottery wouldn't be such a big deal for me but it would make my wife happier, lessen the stress and in turn make my life better. Yes - that it would be nice
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I think to a point, they can help you out of a hole..you can attend school, learn interesting things about yourself via classes and friends, travel with the lottery money, meet new people, depend on your love.
But I think that if the original source of pain isn't dealt with, then all those things wouldn't mean too much to you, DP or not. Even someone with just depression or anxiety would have a hard time truly appreciating those things.
But I think that if the original source of pain isn't dealt with, then all those things wouldn't mean too much to you, DP or not. Even someone with just depression or anxiety would have a hard time truly appreciating those things.
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I think the most important thing is inner peace and security. As we can see all too often, so many rich people are unhappy and those with only a little are very happy. It all comes from really knowing and being comfortable with yourself (for the most part), and learning to deal well with and accept your emotions without harming yourself or others.
peaceboy23 I agree with you. Even though the suffering is great with dp the inner peace I feel knowing I have someone who truly loves me and is there for me through the good and the bad means everything to me. I feel very rich knowing my soulmate and I can meet any storm together.
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I am the one person who actually thinks that winning a Big Lottery jackpot would cure my DP. Most of my worries seem to be financial. When I was a kid growing up, I did not need to worry about money. I knew my parents would be there to support me and I would not end up on the street. But guess when the Anxiety and subsequent DP hit? It was when I was 19 years old after my Dad had died. Now I was suddenly a step closer to living my fear of being on the street. I had only one parent left to go before my nightmare came true. All the fears of supporting myself after school started to hit. Nobody to fall back on if things didn't work out. Yes I had my Mom.... but for how much longer???? Yes..... I truly believe that 95 percent of my DP has to do with finances. It's a constant worry every day of my life.
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I agree to an extent. If I had won the lottery when I was in the throes of DR, I'm certain it would have made it worse for some stupid reason. However, I am pretty sure that finding true love would have decreased it. In fact, female distraction helped a great deal in the past, and I'm not just taking about sex. Mostly, but not all.
But like Janine said, if it all that happened to me now (DR/DP free), I'm sure I'd be fantastically happy. Well, for a while anyway - before the grenades of self-destruction go off. Because, in a way, in the past I have had all three of these things, loads of money, ultimate dream girl to marry etc, etc. Everthing was hunky-dory for a while........ :shock:
But like Janine said, if it all that happened to me now (DR/DP free), I'm sure I'd be fantastically happy. Well, for a while anyway - before the grenades of self-destruction go off. Because, in a way, in the past I have had all three of these things, loads of money, ultimate dream girl to marry etc, etc. Everthing was hunky-dory for a while........ :shock:
Milan - I've had two seperate experiences of DR (and only fleeting experiences of DP), both brought on by acute panic due to drug abuse. In each case, the DR faded over about a year. I have been left with occassional panic attacks and latent anxiety, but no DR/DP for years and years. As for how I recovered.....I have no idea. Sorry.
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