[university girl]

Yep, it?s true! After meeting on this site and then months of daily talking, *Alex (from Australia) and I (from Canada) decided to meet. We will not disclose the location but have fun guessing. I am now pregnant and we are engaged........... Haha. Just kidding. We did have a good time and we got along very well. I had such a great time with Alex that, for the most part, my DP seemed to take a back seat. It was nice feeling near normal for a week or so. This only goes to show how much of this disorder is self-controlled. I have never met a person with such a love for life. It?s remarkable that he can be so positive, so hopeful and so generous despite his condition. Going to meet Alex was likely the best thing I could have done for myself right now. Alex has begun to change the way I think about things. He has also (unintentionally) made me question certain aspects of myself. A few of our opposites are so different that in many instances they seemed to have a balancing affect (at least for myself). This leads me to how I found being with another DPer. The immediate, in depth understanding was great. I love not having to try to explain how I?m feeling. We had many instances where we were both ?out of it? in public and being able to laugh about it was great. It is comforting knowing there is a person there who not only understands, but does not misinterpret or look down on me for my repeated wacky episodes. There were, however, times when our anxieties would build off of each other. This only seemed to happen while we were driving around in our rental car. Alex had to learn how to drive on the other side of the road. That was interesting...... I have to give him credit. He did do a good job. I am just a stress ball. As for how well we got along, I must emphasize individual differences here. The way Alex and I interacted is unique. It cannot be expected that any two DPers will get along the same way. I am naturally anxious whereas Alex is more easy going. Two DPers who are both naturally anxious may have a difficult time together or they may have a good influence on each other. It really depends on the individuals. Some words of advice?. When you meet people online, make sure you are yourself completely and let the other person know you expect the same. Do not have expectations of any sort and be careful. Keep things open, honest and real. This is what we did and it worked out amazingly.

 

[Guest]

Thats good to hear, have a great time. There should be like a yearly meeting for all dp sufferers

 

[Martinelv]

Yes yes yes, that's all lovely. Now, what we all really want to know is - did you rock the kasbar ? Ride the carnal carousel ? Eh ? Eh ?



No, seriously, happy for you.

 

[JAG]

We need to have a DP international convention. Janine will probably organize it. How about London or the Big Apple.

 

[Guest]

London

Works for me :lol: Don't think I could get to USA :?

 

[Sunshine Spirit]

Hi UniG!

What a fabulous post! Congratulations to you both. It's wonderful news. I hope your relationship and happiness will continue to grow for the rest of your lives.

I've been a member of a Depression Alliance group for a few years now. When I first went to the pub with a crowd of them, most of them said they believed it's better to date somebody who also suffers Depression, rather than somebody who's never suffered from it. They said it helps because your partner can totally understand what you're going through. I told them I believed this would be a bad thing for the majority of depressed people, because if both parties were having a really tough time at the same time, then they'd probably drain each other dangerously.

However, I think that this would be a good thing for a small amount of people suffering from depression, and also a good thing for MOST Dpers (I'm a strong believer in fate.).

I think your advice to other Dpers, who might also eventually think about meeting up, is spot-on. Maybe someone should start up a Dp dating agency?! :lol:

All the best, UniG.

Lesley Ann

 

[Guest]

We need to have a DP international convention. Janine will probably organize it.

Dear JAG: I am so sorry to learn of your recent deep delusional state. I hope you get better soon, and recovery (in your case with these psychotic delusions) may require Haldol or another major anti-psychotic medication.

grin

I'd almost rather have DP again than organize any large event!
Love,
J

 

[JAG]

hahaha Janine. :lol: That is SO insensitive! :shock: However, excellent comeback.

 

[*Alex]

Hey everyone, thought i'd post here & explain how things felt for me. Thanks for all your good wishes although some are a little scary .

Before Dp I didnt even own a computer, and the thought of meeting someone through the internet was not my cup of tea to say the least. In saying that, meeting Uni-g was a wonderful experience. As she said, we knew each other quite well beforehand and were honest with eachother, so there were no nasty surprises. Having said that I would cringe everytime someone would ask us how we met (and this happened many times) and Uni-g would blurt out "oh, we both have a rare mental disorder and met on the internet" but I embaressed her much more often so it was ok.

It's obvious from Uni-g's post that we got on like a house on fire so I dont really need to go over that except to say that having that instant understanding of eachother was amazing. She is a wonderful person. Another thing that was amazing was just how much better we felt away from home, on holidays and together. I dont know if it's just distraction but there were times when Uni-g said she almost felt normal again. There is so much peripheral crap we add on ourselves with this disorder that its unbelievable - a lot what you are feeling is self inflicted.

Anywho, Uni-g is a great girl or as we would say down here a "top bird" & "a good sort" so anyone on this site thinking of meeting another member, be it same sex or otherwise, dont think, just do it. It will open your mind to matters invoving Dp and also broaden your mind by travelling, but be warned there are places on this earth where not only do they drive on the wrong side of the road, but the steering wheel is actually on the wrong side inside the car! Crazy....I know.

Alex

P.S. We should have an annual DP/DR Convention. That's a great idea. Janine get cracking.... we can have it in your hometown. They dont have that whacky driving on the wrong side thing there do they?????

P.P.S. Martin, unfortunatly, there was no rocking of the kazbar as Uni-g has aspirations of becoming a nun.

 

[Phill]

Hey Alex, just wondering, where abouts in Australia are you? I'm about 1 hour from Sydney.

 

[Sunshine Spirit]

I thought I'd share this with you...

A few years ago, I went to the Algarve on vacation. My partner drove us around for the first day, as he was very experienced from driving all over the world.

The following morning, while he was still sleeping, I decided to drive into town on my own. I've always been an extremely confident driver, so I wasn't in the least bit nervous that it was my first time for driving on the wrong side of the road. I simply thought, "Just do everything the opposite way."

Well, I was absolutely bloody brilliant! I drove almost four kilometres, going through three T-junctions, confidently steered around five roundabouts and finally, parked up perfectly. "Yes! What an expert driver I am!" I thought, as I locked the car.

Then, looking to my right, I stepped out to cross the road... and nearly got run over!!!!!!!!

 

[*Alex]

Hey Phill, I'm in Sydney, one hour away would most likely put you in the gong or around Katoomba or on the Central Coast, my avatar is from the Central Coast.

Sunshine Spirit, I always do that when I'm overseas its amazing I'm alive. I also have been known to hop into the wrong side when catching a taxi and being surprised by there being a steering wheel there!......the taxi drivers generally dont like that. I'm a bit of a retard though

Alex

 

[Phill]

Alex, it actually puts me in the southern highlands near mittagong, nice part of the country.

 

[university girl]

A nun?! Hmmmm.... not so sure about that one Alex. I forgot to tell you guys that we visited an ancient temple where Alex and I made and left offerings to be healed. I left one offering for myself and one for all of you guys.