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Yep, it?s true! After meeting on this site and then months of daily talking, *Alex (from Australia) and I (from Canada) decided to meet. We will not disclose the location but have fun guessing. I am now pregnant and we are engaged........... Haha. Just kidding. We did have a good time and we got along very well. I had such a great time with Alex that, for the most part, my DP seemed to take a back seat. It was nice feeling near normal for a week or so. This only goes to show how much of this disorder is self-controlled. I have never met a person with such a love for life. It?s remarkable that he can be so positive, so hopeful and so generous despite his condition. Going to meet Alex was likely the best thing I could have done for myself right now. Alex has begun to change the way I think about things. He has also (unintentionally) made me question certain aspects of myself. A few of our opposites are so different that in many instances they seemed to have a balancing affect (at least for myself). This leads me to how I found being with another DPer. The immediate, in depth understanding was great. I love not having to try to explain how I?m feeling. We had many instances where we were both ?out of it? in public and being able to laugh about it was great. It is comforting knowing there is a person there who not only understands, but does not misinterpret or look down on me for my repeated wacky episodes. There were, however, times when our anxieties would build off of each other. This only seemed to happen while we were driving around in our rental car. Alex had to learn how to drive on the other side of the road. That was interesting...... I have to give him credit. He did do a good job. I am just a stress ball. As for how well we got along, I must emphasize individual differences here. The way Alex and I interacted is unique. It cannot be expected that any two DPers will get along the same way. I am naturally anxious whereas Alex is more easy going. Two DPers who are both naturally anxious may have a difficult time together or they may have a good influence on each other. It really depends on the individuals. Some words of advice?. When you meet people online, make sure you are yourself completely and let the other person know you expect the same. Do not have expectations of any sort and be careful. Keep things open, honest and real. This is what we did and it worked out amazingly.