[widescreened]

what would you do if you woke up 2moro 100% recovered?how would you react,celebrate?what long term goals would you have careerwise etc?and finally,how different is your answer to your lifeview before dp/dr kicked off

 

[agentcooper]

i am only derealized (with slight depersonalization) for 2 weeks out of every month and i really only have a couple really bad days out of those 2 weeks. it's really wierd...when i'm feeling really dred, i always think to myself "i can't wait till i feel better...i'm going to appreciate life SSOOOO much more...etc". but then, after my dr goes away, i feel better and normal but i sort of forget how awful i was feeling the day before. i think that a lot of people have very similar experiences...

also, i never let my dr/dp affect my life goals...even when my dr was severe, i always tried to keep working towards my goals. i think that is one of the reasons i handle my dr fairly well now. i would suggest that you not let this illness hamper you.

but i do know that it is easier said than done...so i hope this post doesn't come off sounding insensitive.

 

[widescreened]

Cheers for that.i keep myself on target with goals and constantly try to make my work interesting by getting new gigs.

 

[Sojourner]

What kind of gigs, WS?

 

[widescreened]

i play the piano in hotels and restaurants.some afternoons but mostly in the evening.Its been steady work for the last few years and suits me a lot better than teaching.What u do?

 

[Guest]

Nothing, just ENJOY it!!!! 8)

 

[Sojourner]

i play the piano in hotels and restaurants.some afternoons but mostly in the evening.Its been steady work for the last few years and suits me a lot better than teaching.What u do?

*I* want to do that!! I'm a student of piano and an editor (developmental editing and copyediting of books, journal articles -- technical and general).

 

[Rektchordz]

id get as drunk and stoned as possible ...........................................................................................JOKE! probably go have sex with my girlfriend HAAAHAHHAAHAH im soo immature

 

[Mule]

go round to my ex's and get her back, and go anywhere i couldnt before, and fucking ENJOY IT :lol:

 

[Rektchordz]

now when i read that.. its sounds like i dont have sex cus i have dp, what a stupid thing to say jamie bad baby

 

[Guest]

I'd wake up and eat a bowl of lucky charms.

 

[sebastian]

go round to my ex's and get her back, and go anywhere i couldnt before, and f--- ENJOY IT :lol:

Why? So she can leave you again when the going gets tough?

Sorry. I don't know your situation, but just wanted to vent my own anger on the subject of female capriciousness.

Oh, don't mind me...

s.

 

[Mule]

go round to my ex's and get her back, and go anywhere i couldnt before, and f--- ENJOY IT :lol:

Why? So she can leave you again when the going gets tough?

Sorry. I don't know your situation, but just wanted to vent my own anger on the subject of female capriciousness.

Oh, don't mind me...

s.

very true man. she left me i think for the dp related behaviour, but she was there alot of the time too man.
seems we're in the same boat there.

 

[Guest]

That?s funny... the first thing I would do also involves my ex, but there are two voices in my head (not literally - I mean two different opinions) - one is Sebastian?s and the second is Mule?s lol.
Anyway, the first thing I would do would be saying "I won?t be happy like this ever again, even if I?d live hundred years" or something like that.

 

[eclecticsheep]

people how do you manage to play the pianno and for people indeed!!
i have a terrible problem with playing the guitar and the cello after this shit happened...!
do you have dr i know a friend with dr that doens't have a problem with music as well

 

[widescreened]

I have dr more than dp.It is very hard to improvise sometimes when you start to analyse the shapes of the keys and your hands and existential issues in general.BUT,heres a few tips for you;
Learn blues and jazz scales and riffs and throw them in irrespective of the musical context.apply them to all pieces you play and in all keys(or as many as possible).Youll get better at choosing the right riffs and scales to use with practice.Practice with your eyes closed and breath and relax.Your muscular memory will lock onto some riffs more than others and throw them in when your dp is stronger than normal.Music is too much of a gift to walk away from just because of dp/dr.In a way music's kept me going,and i make a very good living at it.

 

[sebastian]

That?s funny... the first thing I would do also involves my ex, but there are two voices in my head (not literally - I mean two different opinions) -

That's funny. Only on a mental health forum would someone actually have to qualify this. :lol:

I know what you mean about the ambivalence toward the whole thing. Part of me would want to make it like it was before, but things change when they cross that line. The mark of a truly wise man is someone who has the strength to resist their natural impulses and not fall into the same sorry trap again. I say that as if i know what i'm talking about. :roll:

s.

 

[Rektchordz]

yo i have really bad dp/dr and i have no problems at all playing guitar, thats all i pretty much do, i dont have any probs making riffs etc either, i produce digital music for 2 of the biggest record labels in the uk breakbeat scene i must be doing something right peace

 

[eclecticsheep]

thank you for answering me in my post about music, especially you widescreened!
the basic problem to me is not that i cannot compose but i have difficulty
in playing my pieces with emotion and clarity in sound!!
also thank you for your advice i think i will follow it...
I understand what you mean by saying that music is too much of a gift to walk away from it...
since this *** started I kept trying as hard as a could to play hoping that one day i would again be able to enjoy music! but it's been 3 years and I'm getting tired playing with no satisfication.I've almost given up. only in my mind i keep all that music meant to me and made me feel and i hope.
my guitar teacher knows about this and tries to make me relax.. but i've almost given up...

at least since you people have dp and still can play maybe there is hope for me.. maybe it is because of the depression I am like that...
i only wish....

ps. what i mean about getting no satisfaction I play with blind ears and people say that i play beautiful but i don't understand- anything of what i play

 

[enngirl5]

Well, I agree with what someone else said. I try to still make it a point to accomplish my goals while I have dp/dr/anxiety. Somewhere deep down inside me, I know that I'm not really going crazy, and I can't stand the thought of waking up 20 years from now having wasted my life waiting for the anxiety to go away or waiting for myself to "go crazy." Because I know that is exactly what will happen if I give up now. So I go to work and do my internships and do what I need to do that needs to be done now or never. Other things I put off, which I shouldn't, like dating, relationships, social stuff, travelling. So if I woke up tomorrow dp/dr/anxiety free, I'd probably go get a plain ticket and fly around the world and see everything that Ive always wanted to see. Yep.