[Guest]

Ok friends,

Here is a big struggle for me. Since my relapse with dp/dr, everyone seems unreal to me. This is the worst for me when I feel this way about my husband. I don't feel here, it all seems like a dream, so how do you connect with your partner on an intimate level when you feel that way?

Do any of you relate to this? Can you connect, become intimate, kiss, make love, or even just snuggle without thinking how odd it feels? I used to find the most comfort in snuggling up to my partner and watching tv, but now I'm so out of my body awareness that I don't really feel like I'm there. It makes me terribly sad

Love to all

 

[Guest]

Well I definitely can tell you that you're not alone. A lot of times when I'm with my husband, he seems like a complete stranger to me, like I can't reach him. I spend a lot of time alone because of this. The thing is, I fell in love with him and married him long after I had gotten DP, so I guess I've always been a little distant from him. A lot of times when we are intimate, I also think about how odd it is, how wierd it is that he's my husband.. I get very numb sometimes when he tries to reach out to me...

Sometimes it is great between us though, when I don't think about it. I know it's hard to do, but somehow you just have to try and expel those thoughts.. just be. Try not to think about it... And even though I feel so distant from him, it is still comforting to know that he's there, even if I don't always recognize it. I don't know if this advice helps, but at least know that you're not alone. I struggle with my relationship all the time..

 

[dreamcatcher]

Can totally relate to this, its bloody hard to be close, intimate or anything in this state, my partner is very understanding but its still a strain. I like to know my partner is about and i know hes finding it hard but its hard to have a relationship when all your feelings have gone and your living with a stranger

 

[1A]

Ok friends,

Do any of you relate to this? Can you connect, become intimate, kiss, make love, or even just snuggle without thinking how odd it feels?

Hi,

I can relate completely. When I'm with my girlfriend, I'm just too hypervigilant and spaced-out to really enjoy much of anything. I wish I had some sound, quality advice for you -- in all honesty, I'm looking for recommendations myself.

Kind Regards,

Jeff