Weird triggers?

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nonamenomad

Discussion Starter · 8 d ago

Hi all. I hope today isn’t miserable for you.
I’m sure everyone has triggers that can make you feel bad or being DP/DR on badly. I was wondering if anyone’s was the same as mine just because it’s so odd. I mean I guess this whole entire thing itself is but lol. Anybody else’s get extremely worse in nice weather? The sun shining especially, blue skies, too bright, warm I just hate in general? Those days are the hardest for me to get out of my house without feeling like I’m dying or can’t breathe or terrified. I hate the sun. I wish it would rain and be gloomy most all of the time. It’s not as scary. It’s comforting. Isn’t that shit? Can’t even enjoy nice days anymore from this pathetic plague called DP/DR. I’m so sad. I’m so tired.
Reply if you’d want, no hard feelings if not.

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Pauline Maxwell

· #2 · 8 d ago

nonamenomad said:
Hi all. I hope today isn’t miserable for you.
I’m sure everyone has triggers that can make you feel bad or being DP/DR on badly. I was wondering if anyone’s was the same as mine just because it’s so odd. I mean I guess this whole entire thing itself is but lol. Anybody else’s get extremely worse in nice weather? The sun shining especially, blue skies, too bright, warm I just hate in general? Those days are the hardest for me to get out of my house without feeling like I’m dying or can’t breathe or terrified. I hate the sun. I wish it would rain and be gloomy most all of the time. It’s not as scary. It’s comforting. Isn’t that shit? Can’t even enjoy nice days anymore from this pathetic plague called DP/DR. I’m so sad. I’m so tired.
Reply if you’d want, no hard feelings if not.

WOW that's weird. I was going to mention weather to you on my post! It's the gloomy not rainy days that really mess me up. Couple of weeks ago it was a beautiful day and I felt great walking my daughter's dog on my own. As I turned to walk home a huge black cloud was coming and on came full blown DPDR. I know why it happens to me. A couple of my worst childhood abuse days were gloomy and I remember watching the sky from my bedroom window instead of thinking what was happening to me. I needed the DPDR then but definitely don't want it now!

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NoDevils

· #3 · 6 d ago

There are at least three possible dynamics going on there, maybe simultaneously.

1. A.) Our bodies go through rhythms where we might feel more stress when the sun begins to rise. Your neurotransmitters are preparing for a day of survival, especially if you're stressed. B.) If we spend a lot of time sheltering ourselves from the outside world, we'll lose our acclimation to it, resulting in apprehension. C.) Some people are just not wired for bright lights or loud sounds.

2. When a person is in a low mood for a long time there can be an inversion where birthday parties are sad and graveyards are happy. A bright sunny day might just be too sweet in a sickly kind of way. This can also become an enduring pattern outside of depression or mental illness. Think of Edgar Allen Poe or a friend you've had who seemed to enjoy gloom. Everyone is like this to an extent, plus rainy days don't need to have negative connotations; they nourish plant life and allow for moments of emotional reprieve. Can we say responding poorly to rain is any better than responding poorly to sun?

3. When our brains haven't fully processed or moved on from something we can be struck by reminders. "Hey, do you want to come over for Thanksgiving?" Oh no, my ex and I always loved Thanksgiving. I don't mean to characterize this as silly. "Nice" weather probably means a lot to people on an instinctual and personal level, as do other types of events. Sometimes these reminders are only vaguely conscious. We might not realize when something is triggered in us

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