[Guest]

This is probably in the wrong column...

I'm sorry to everyone I've offended here...

http://www.voicelessness.com/essay.html

http://www.voicelessness.com/narcissism.html

I think this is me to a 'T'. Especially,

The Four Questions: Who am I? Do I have any value? Why doesn't anyone see or hear me? Why should I live?

Ahh... voicelessness...

"If I asked you what children need in order to be psychologically healthy, you would probably answer: love and attention. Of course, you would be right--love and attention are essential for every child. But, there is a third psychological need critical to the emotional well-being of children: "voice."
What is "voice"? It is the sense of agency that makes a child confident that he or she will be heard, and that he or she will positively impact his or her environment. With this sense of agency comes the implicit belief that one's core has value. Exceptional parents grant a child a voice equal to theirs the day that child is born. And they respect that voice as much as they respect their own.

HaHa.

I've got nodules on my THYROID gland...
8)

The critical factor is whether they ultimately acknowledge their core problem: that as a child they felt neither seen nor heard (and/or their self was fragile as a result of trauma, genetic predisposition, etc.), and they unconsciously employed self-building strategies to survive.

Oh Dear... my Mum treated me the way SHE was treated... er... TERRI where's that leave me now...

In the latter situation, their depression is profound--like cotton candy, their robust false self dissolves, and one is able to see an accurate picture of their inner sense of worthlessness.

Yush... cotton candy depression, this was me earlier this year... When everyone IGNORED ME and kicked me in the teeth...
Oh well guess I'm WORTHLESS.

Voicelessness & powerlessness feel great...

 

[dreamcatcher]

interesting articles ghost.....i think i am voiceless

 

[Guest]

interesting articles ghost.....i think i am voiceless

Why the boxing gloves? Did you make that?

 

[dreamcatcher]

yes i made it.....its a wee-mee and its wearing gloves as i myself go boxing.....its great stress relief...punching the crap out of someone

 

[dreamcatcher]

double post......oops

 

[berlin]

ghost, this identifies one of my greatest worries that my children 'catch' mental illness from me. I sometimes think that this huge responsibility is what Im hiding from, Im not up to the task Ive set for myself.

I respect my boys but we are all the product of someone elses parenting, (that includes our spouse, another variable to try to control).

I dont doubt my parents loved me I now recognise that even without trying- them just being them affected me. Me, possibly too sensitive for their relationship which became a family.

Does this make sense to you?

A skill learned in childhood was one of the first statements I was given about dissociation. Its been a puzzle but as I investigate things become clearer. :roll:

 

[Guest]

ghost, this identifies one of my greatest worries that my children 'catch' mental illness from me. I sometimes think that this huge responsibility is what Im hiding from, Im not up to the task Ive set for myself.

I respect my boys but we are all the product of someone elses parenting, (that includes our spouse, another variable to try to control).

I dont doubt my parents loved me I now recognise that even without trying- them just being them affected me. Me, possibly too sensitive for their relationship which became a family.

Does this make sense to you?

A skill learned in childhood was one of the first statements I was given about dissociation. Its been a puzzle but as I investigate things become clearer. :roll:

What statements?

You were too sensitive to have a family (Kids)?
You are outcomes of your parental influence, just like your wife?
I see what you're saying.

I refuse to have children... because I was "taught" that you off-load all the JUNK INSIDE YOU into your little ones... My family "decided" to try and split my SKULL though... so that leaves child safety a precarious issue!

I was taught NO "functional" behaviours, to use for my OWN benefit, or the benefit of others. I dont "blame" my Parents (& Brother)... actually YES I DO!