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Today at work I came to a sudden realization that things seemed normal, ordinary, I thought this was a moment of clarity but
merely seconds later I realized that things aren't normal, they're still dreamlike, but I've gotten so used to them being this way.

I'm afraid that if I just accept this as my new "reality" that I'm either going to slip further into it or make it more impossible to pull myself out of it.... and even if the feeling of unreality becomes normal, I still really want to come out of it.. for my memory, to feel connected to people, to be able to concentrate......

I know that part of the problem is applying such conscious thought to these sorts of things, but I feel like if I ignore it, it will never go away and it will only get more and more out of control.
 

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This is going to sound like a bizarre bit of advice, dangerous even. But do both. Accept, and fight. I can't explain it any better because, a. I have a terrific hangover, and b. I'm not exactly sure what I mean myself. But it worked for me.
 
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Hey finger, I thought things seeming Surreal, Dream-Like, & Unreal was DR not DP!?!?!

anyway I always say I have DR because I am exactly the same, and its quite freakish to have somebody say exactly what I feel, this really is exactly whats happened to me finger, EXACTLY.

When I went into DR I went into it and stayed, no breaks, only not noticing, I heard people talking of having panic attacks and having DR/DP etc during panic attacks, I could never relate because I never had this, I got stressed, and bang, my head went, and bang DR, from then on, surreal, after thinking for weeks I had had a stroke, brain disease etc, or something that must have made my head/mind lose connection with surroundings I have started to accept that it is LIKELY things got too much and DR kicked in to protect me, like a defence mech.

problem is, I am now going through exactly what your going through, because its a 24/7 DR you can almost get used to it, sure if you really pay attention, its there! BIG STYLE! but really you can just adjust to you new consciousness, and I think that's the best way, if I crave my old consciousness I get so very upset and frustrated, which in turn is very bad for DR in my opinion, feeding Depression etc SO I vote the best thing to do, and I don't know if this is right or wrong, if you can get used to it, fine, ignore it and get on with you life, start sleeping better, and feeling better, and living happily as you are for now, and simply keep in the back of you mind hope, this is what I do, I think to myself, if I just relax and ignore it, I am sure it will fade over time, (fade or just get more used to it, how frustrating because I just don't know) but for me, the hope of returning to my normal level of consciousness is what keeps me going, if I think about "what if I am stuck in this for life" I get VERY VERY afraid, scared, upset frustrated and depressed, NONE of these things are good for DR I hear, so yes, get used to it and be HAPPY that you CAN get to a place where it is not massively debilitating, and relax, and I hope for myself and you, that this frustrating new dream-like consciousness that we have that is called DR, WILL FADE IN TIME!

what a ramble, sorry, but I really do understand where you are coming from with this post.
 
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Thinking about it, I dont have a clue what I am talking about, ignore me, but just know you are not alone right now because I am sure I am in the EXACT same place you are right now, apart from I am sure I have heard ignoring it is best, and that is I guess similar to getting used to it. in a way..

GAH just ignore me I am as lost as the next person..

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Martinelv said:
This is going to sound like a bizarre bit of advice, dangerous even. But do both. Accept, and fight. I can't explain it any better because, a. I have a terrific hangover, and b. I'm not exactly sure what I mean myself. But it worked for me.
I think I sort of understand what you mean, I just tend to overfocus if I think about it too much at all. I'm really good at repression ... but that's not supposed to be too swell for me either.
 

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Ignore it. You cannot work it out. You cannot 'make it go away'. If you ignore it, it will fade. The fighting bit that Martin is trying to explain but can't because he is hungover, is that ignoring it is DAMN HARD. Feed it, it will grow, just like an ickle plant.
 

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sombodyelse said:
Hey finger, I thought things seeming Surreal, Dream-Like, & Unreal was DR not DP!?!?!
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Yeah, you're right... I have no official diagnosis, so since this community is entitled simply "Depersonalization Community" I sometimes just drop the "dr" when referring to it, but I definitely have both and I think for me they definitely go hand in hand... I see it as one condition usually.
 
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Hi there,
For me I spent the first 2 years trying to fight the DP, with not much success. Then I learned to "make peace" with it, and it was after that I learned I could fight it. Now there are even times where I have learned to use my DP to my own advantage! Attitude is everything! I now know that I have this "thing" and it could be a while before it completely goes away...if ever. So it's with this in mind that I continue on, one day at a time. And now that I am more or less "friends" with my DP, I live by the credo of Don Vito Corleone, he always said..."Keep your enemies close, but keep your friends closer."

Cheers,

Tony
 

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g-funk said:
Ignore it. You cannot work it out. You cannot 'make it go away'. If you ignore it, it will fade. The fighting bit that Martin is trying to explain but can't because he is hungover, is that ignoring it is DAMN HARD. Feed it, it will grow, just like an ickle plant.
I'm not trying to feed it
I'm trying to beat the shit out of it
but I guess I should starve it HUH?
 

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Tony_the_eminence_front said:
Hi there,
For me I spent the first 2 years trying to fight the DP, with not much success. Then I learned to "make peace" with it, and it was after that I learned I could fight it. Now there are even times where I have learned to use my DP to my own advantage! Attitude is everything! I now know that I have this "thing" and it could be a while before it completely goes away...if ever. So it's with this in mind that I continue on, one day at a time. And now that I am more or less "friends" with my DP, I live by the credo of Don Vito Corleone, he always said..."Keep your enemies close, but keep your friends closer."

Cheers,

Tony
It is a very shitty friend to me.. at least most of the time.
 

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yeah dp/numbness was good to go back to anytime i stood up in public and read something or whatever...i could say it with perfect precision without wavering off or anything
 

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person3 said:
yeah dp/numbness was good to go back to anytime i stood up in public and read something or whatever...i could say it with perfect precision without wavering off or anything
I forgot about this little treat ... yeah...
I definitely don't feel very clear headed speaking in front of others but it certainly takes me away to another place where I am at least slightly more comfortable!
 
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