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Hi

I just wonder if you ar elike me. This constant reassurance to see that we are not going crazy, we'll be better, no having schizo, etc...

When I feel very lost, DP/DR, I need to be reassured. By everybody. And I keep going on this site, to be reassured. Like if I don't come, I will have more fear to be crazy. Or something bad will happpen to me. I am relieved when I com down and write on the computer. Like a compulsion. But after I read all the stories about sad people who thinks they are crazy or who have this for 20 years, and I return to @[email protected], and feel VERY bad, Dp/DR. I cry, etc. Until the next time I will check up to see if there is something new, and I repeat my obsession.

It's like a way out not to be in reality. In front on mt computer, I am not in the reality. Harsh reality. I just read, and I wonder if somehow it can triggers our DP/DR/anxiety.

Maybe I am the one but I am curious. Does others think its like an obsession? because I am often here, and I often see that there is MANY members (like me) who are constantly here, checking questions and answering immediately.

Just a question!

thanks so much

Cyn xxx
 
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Hi

I just wonder if you ar elike me. This constant reassurance to see that we are not going crazy, we'll be better, no having schizo, etc...

When I feel very lost, DP/DR, I need to be reassured. By everybody. And I keep going on this site, to be reassured. Like if I don't come, I will have more fear to be crazy. Or something bad will happpen to me. I am relieved when I com down and write on the computer. Like a compulsion. But after I read all the stories about sad people who thinks they are crazy or who have this for 20 years, and I return to @[email protected], and feel VERY bad, Dp/DR. I cry, etc. Until the next time I will check up to see if there is something new, and I repeat my obsession.

It's like a way out not to be in reality. In front on mt computer, I am not in the reality. Harsh reality. I just read, and I wonder if somehow it can triggers our DP/DR/anxiety.

Maybe I am the one but I am curious. Does others think its like an obsession? because I am often here, and I often see that there is MANY members (like me) who are constantly here, checking questions and answering immediately.

Just a question!

thanks so much

Cyn xxx
 

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I only started to come on here on the 23 september, but its already like an obssession, see if there is anything u can relate to, its comforting to know that other people are going through similiar things and that u can recover. When i am not on here i seem to be driving my boyfriend nuts needing constant reasurance off him, u know all the am i going to die, will i be like this forever sort of questions, and its helps in your own head if you can give advice to other from your own experience
 

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I only started to come on here on the 23 september, but its already like an obssession, see if there is anything u can relate to, its comforting to know that other people are going through similiar things and that u can recover. When i am not on here i seem to be driving my boyfriend nuts needing constant reasurance off him, u know all the am i going to die, will i be like this forever sort of questions, and its helps in your own head if you can give advice to other from your own experience
 
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Hi Cynthia

You write,

"I just read, and I wonder if somehow it can triggers our DP/DR/anxiety."

This is something I have been wondering about also.

Since i have been reading here I have been having more frequent occurences of DP.
In a way I guess that is only natural as our minds become absorbed in a subject, any subject.

I feel that although reading here does increase my DP some of the things that other posters have said have also been very helpful.

I feel as though I have learned alot of things that help me deal with my DP better when it happens.

The thing that stands out beyond all others for its help to me is the concept that when i am DPed I am dissocaited from my sense of self. Yet there is still a self (a me). I have simply lost the feeling of connection to my sense of self.

Where as before for many years I felt that my self was actually dismantled during DP experiences so there was that horrible fear that I wouldn't be able to put the pieces back together again.

Seeing the DP experience as a disconnection from self, rather than a dis-mantling of the self, has made an incredible difference to me. It hasn't stopped the DP but this disconnected model i find to be a much more workable model for what i experience. More like having lost the path home while recognizing that one is lost, one still intuitively knows there is still that home to return to. rather than the old model that everything including myself is simply vanishing into oblivion.

So I read here for these sort of insights which may be helpful to me in my ongoing effort to develope a less frightening gentler relationship to my DP experiences without so much fear.

I don't see coming to this site as in any way resembling an obsession for me. I come here primarily because i am interested in the subject matter.

It seems perfectly understandable to me that anyone who struggles with feelings of DP/DR may tend to haunt this site ever watchful for tid bits of info that may provide insights into coping strategies, like the one i found in the disconnection paradigm.
 
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Hi Cynthia

You write,

"I just read, and I wonder if somehow it can triggers our DP/DR/anxiety."

This is something I have been wondering about also.

Since i have been reading here I have been having more frequent occurences of DP.
In a way I guess that is only natural as our minds become absorbed in a subject, any subject.

I feel that although reading here does increase my DP some of the things that other posters have said have also been very helpful.

I feel as though I have learned alot of things that help me deal with my DP better when it happens.

The thing that stands out beyond all others for its help to me is the concept that when i am DPed I am dissocaited from my sense of self. Yet there is still a self (a me). I have simply lost the feeling of connection to my sense of self.

Where as before for many years I felt that my self was actually dismantled during DP experiences so there was that horrible fear that I wouldn't be able to put the pieces back together again.

Seeing the DP experience as a disconnection from self, rather than a dis-mantling of the self, has made an incredible difference to me. It hasn't stopped the DP but this disconnected model i find to be a much more workable model for what i experience. More like having lost the path home while recognizing that one is lost, one still intuitively knows there is still that home to return to. rather than the old model that everything including myself is simply vanishing into oblivion.

So I read here for these sort of insights which may be helpful to me in my ongoing effort to develope a less frightening gentler relationship to my DP experiences without so much fear.

I don't see coming to this site as in any way resembling an obsession for me. I come here primarily because i am interested in the subject matter.

It seems perfectly understandable to me that anyone who struggles with feelings of DP/DR may tend to haunt this site ever watchful for tid bits of info that may provide insights into coping strategies, like the one i found in the disconnection paradigm.
 
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Discussion Starter · #7 ·
When I feel very lost, DP/DR, I need to be reassured. By everybody. And I keep going on this site, to be reassured. Like if I don't come, I will have more fear to be crazy. Or something bad will happpen to me. I am relieved when I com down and write on the computer. Like a compulsion.
First, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, My Friend! And I am sure you will recover from this, dear one. (that was your birthday reassurance gift, grin)

Now....read your quote above. THAT is precisely what I was trying to tell awhile back. It's not "like" a compulsion, it IS A COMPULSION...and it's dangerous. I could tell very early on with you that the reassurance you seek is not just "please give me some information" but a kind of Magical Thinking. You feel like if you DON'T get the reassurance, then something bad will happen. VERY important to see that. VERY important.

Anytime we feed those kinds of magical thoughts, we are sinking ourselves deeper into the abyss. I cannot stress this enough.

If we are logging on here to talk to folks and/or share ideas or ask for information, or just be with pals, that's great. But ANYONE who finds themselves asking for reassurance in some kind of "magical way" - as if they need to elicit certain words in response to "ward off" anything worse happening to them - you have GOT to work against that.

I cannot stress this enough.

Now....BACK TO THE BIRTHDAY PARTY!!!!

Love,
J
 
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Discussion Starter · #8 ·
When I feel very lost, DP/DR, I need to be reassured. By everybody. And I keep going on this site, to be reassured. Like if I don't come, I will have more fear to be crazy. Or something bad will happpen to me. I am relieved when I com down and write on the computer. Like a compulsion.
First, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, My Friend! And I am sure you will recover from this, dear one. (that was your birthday reassurance gift, grin)

Now....read your quote above. THAT is precisely what I was trying to tell awhile back. It's not "like" a compulsion, it IS A COMPULSION...and it's dangerous. I could tell very early on with you that the reassurance you seek is not just "please give me some information" but a kind of Magical Thinking. You feel like if you DON'T get the reassurance, then something bad will happen. VERY important to see that. VERY important.

Anytime we feed those kinds of magical thoughts, we are sinking ourselves deeper into the abyss. I cannot stress this enough.

If we are logging on here to talk to folks and/or share ideas or ask for information, or just be with pals, that's great. But ANYONE who finds themselves asking for reassurance in some kind of "magical way" - as if they need to elicit certain words in response to "ward off" anything worse happening to them - you have GOT to work against that.

I cannot stress this enough.

Now....BACK TO THE BIRTHDAY PARTY!!!!

Love,
J
 
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