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Hey SC
I can't say I have experienced the reactions that you have. Alot of people have turned around to me & said, I have this or my friend has that. I am scared in one way when i tell people how they will react but on the other hand I think to hell with what you think cause I have to live with this not you. Most people forget half the time. I just soften the blow & tell them I have anxiety.

Truly I think anyone who you feel is scared of you is really just scared of the unknown (like all of us) they are a bit ignorant when it comes to this sort of stuff.

Unfortunately I think you are going to see alot more of us wackos around & well I think mental health is going to be the number 1 issue around the world in the next few years.
 
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Hey SC
I can't say I have experienced the reactions that you have. Alot of people have turned around to me & said, I have this or my friend has that. I am scared in one way when i tell people how they will react but on the other hand I think to hell with what you think cause I have to live with this not you. Most people forget half the time. I just soften the blow & tell them I have anxiety.

Truly I think anyone who you feel is scared of you is really just scared of the unknown (like all of us) they are a bit ignorant when it comes to this sort of stuff.

Unfortunately I think you are going to see alot more of us wackos around & well I think mental health is going to be the number 1 issue around the world in the next few years.
 
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Good post SC, as usual

im a 19 year old straight male, trying to find his nitch in life and this DP/DR, anxiety, depression, obsessiveness, is making that about 10 times harder. The only people who really know whats going on are my parents ( more so my mom) My psychiatrist, my therapist & umm thats it. I told my closest friend that i basically had a nervous breakdown but never gave all of the details, i kinda wanted to spare him the depressiveness seeing he's always dealing with issues of his own. I don't tell people, and i appear as normal as can be. I talk and act like a regular person and even when im feeling very weird i still manage to appear like nothing is wrong. I probably appear to most people as this big tough hip hop influenced street kid. And although i am some of those things, i really don't act tough at all. I don't like to fight, i don't like violence and would perfer if things remained peaceful. I think what bothers me alot is that ive yet to establish a serious relationship with a female. And i know its my fault because im worried about so many things. I also have this talent with music, which feels like its taking forever & ever, and theres always an obstacle or setback, but i know its what is keeping me somewhat " normal" and somewhat hopeful. Believe when i say that i have alot of talent and plan to go somewhere, and im not being arrogant at all, im just being confident. I feel different from mostly everyone, because of how i feel, i hate feeling different, i mean i like being UNIQUE because of who i am, but i hate feeling different because of anxiety & DP/DR & depression etc...... The only person i can really talk to about these things are my therapist who i see MAYBE once a week & sometimes my mom. Ive never met anyone who's going through what im going through or someone who's even going through something similar. Im just a lost sheep right now looking for a road to follow......

sorry if that was boring, i was just following SC's format from the original post.

so yup.....

Peace
 
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Good post SC, as usual

im a 19 year old straight male, trying to find his nitch in life and this DP/DR, anxiety, depression, obsessiveness, is making that about 10 times harder. The only people who really know whats going on are my parents ( more so my mom) My psychiatrist, my therapist & umm thats it. I told my closest friend that i basically had a nervous breakdown but never gave all of the details, i kinda wanted to spare him the depressiveness seeing he's always dealing with issues of his own. I don't tell people, and i appear as normal as can be. I talk and act like a regular person and even when im feeling very weird i still manage to appear like nothing is wrong. I probably appear to most people as this big tough hip hop influenced street kid. And although i am some of those things, i really don't act tough at all. I don't like to fight, i don't like violence and would perfer if things remained peaceful. I think what bothers me alot is that ive yet to establish a serious relationship with a female. And i know its my fault because im worried about so many things. I also have this talent with music, which feels like its taking forever & ever, and theres always an obstacle or setback, but i know its what is keeping me somewhat " normal" and somewhat hopeful. Believe when i say that i have alot of talent and plan to go somewhere, and im not being arrogant at all, im just being confident. I feel different from mostly everyone, because of how i feel, i hate feeling different, i mean i like being UNIQUE because of who i am, but i hate feeling different because of anxiety & DP/DR & depression etc...... The only person i can really talk to about these things are my therapist who i see MAYBE once a week & sometimes my mom. Ive never met anyone who's going through what im going through or someone who's even going through something similar. Im just a lost sheep right now looking for a road to follow......

sorry if that was boring, i was just following SC's format from the original post.

so yup.....

Peace
 

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Hi sc, I am sorry you have had to experience that kind of reactions due to your mental illness. I guess I am lucky, cuz all of my closest friends know about my DP and even psychosis, but still they haven't turned their backs on me. Actually I have sometimes pondered my psychotic experiences with the friends of mine and my boyfriend, and especially my boyfriend and one of my friends seem to be quite understanding. I guess it is because my boyfriend has also suffered a psychosis in his past - and the friend of mine is interested in New Age stuff (reiki, shamanism) like me, but at the same time wants to keep her mind open, not deciding which is true/not true, as we cannot know.

So, I have told them about my psychotic experience of having a mental connection with the 'dude from the future'. I like to speculate with the possibility that I may really have felt a connection through time, and not just have had an imaginary friend/alter, because it makes me feel happier. It is because I felt that 'guy from the future' really cared about me, even loved me and wanted everything to be OK with me - that's why it felt incredible to feel the connection with him, while I was psychotic.

I'm pretty sure many of you might think now that I really was crazy and am too much into New Age nonsense, but what the heck - have never met you in real life and you don't even know me! But I want to emphazise one never can really know what psychotic experience is really about... I don't want to explain my experiences away, as I cannot know. Indeed I like to think that guy from the future was really a guy from the future just for the feelings he had for me, though at the same time my rational side says he was just my imaginary friend. But who cares? I can't know, so I may keep that thing as an enigma for me.

Well, it is possible that now a part of the people here in this forum may really think I am a wacko cuz I give so much power to my psychotic experiences... But what is very important - and which is the reason I decided to write this post - I have some good friends and a boyfriend who know about my creative speculation regarding my psychosis, and they still don't consider me as insane. So there are people out there who are a lot tolerant toward mental illnesses, and toward peculiar ways of thinking. Not everyone is afraid of 'wackos', and I think this is a good thing indeed - at least I always need some fresh air to be able to feel creative with my weird thoughts. And pondering about crazy things isn't that fun alone. :)
 

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Hi sc, I am sorry you have had to experience that kind of reactions due to your mental illness. I guess I am lucky, cuz all of my closest friends know about my DP and even psychosis, but still they haven't turned their backs on me. Actually I have sometimes pondered my psychotic experiences with the friends of mine and my boyfriend, and especially my boyfriend and one of my friends seem to be quite understanding. I guess it is because my boyfriend has also suffered a psychosis in his past - and the friend of mine is interested in New Age stuff (reiki, shamanism) like me, but at the same time wants to keep her mind open, not deciding which is true/not true, as we cannot know.

So, I have told them about my psychotic experience of having a mental connection with the 'dude from the future'. I like to speculate with the possibility that I may really have felt a connection through time, and not just have had an imaginary friend/alter, because it makes me feel happier. It is because I felt that 'guy from the future' really cared about me, even loved me and wanted everything to be OK with me - that's why it felt incredible to feel the connection with him, while I was psychotic.

I'm pretty sure many of you might think now that I really was crazy and am too much into New Age nonsense, but what the heck - have never met you in real life and you don't even know me! But I want to emphazise one never can really know what psychotic experience is really about... I don't want to explain my experiences away, as I cannot know. Indeed I like to think that guy from the future was really a guy from the future just for the feelings he had for me, though at the same time my rational side says he was just my imaginary friend. But who cares? I can't know, so I may keep that thing as an enigma for me.

Well, it is possible that now a part of the people here in this forum may really think I am a wacko cuz I give so much power to my psychotic experiences... But what is very important - and which is the reason I decided to write this post - I have some good friends and a boyfriend who know about my creative speculation regarding my psychosis, and they still don't consider me as insane. So there are people out there who are a lot tolerant toward mental illnesses, and toward peculiar ways of thinking. Not everyone is afraid of 'wackos', and I think this is a good thing indeed - at least I always need some fresh air to be able to feel creative with my weird thoughts. And pondering about crazy things isn't that fun alone. :)
 

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sc, you're definately not "as avarege as you can be" and you know that, you've accomplished a hell of a lot, more than most people accomplish minus the DP and and anxiety states.

As for societys reaction to the "mentally unwell" you shouldnt feel uncomfortable at all about it. I don't no if you've noticed but society isn't exactly "well", any thing goes theres no wrong or right, terms like "normal" and "wierd" dont apply in this day and age. Most people out there have some sort of mental thing going on weather they know it or not, it's just more sublte in most cases. A lot of peple do a lot of crazy shit, the people at work that kinda feel uncomfortable about you having issues probably go home at knock off time and do some funky shit behind closed doors.

You seem like a good man, good father etc, you should be confident, you.ve got issues ,you're man enough to be open about it and do something about it. You go through enough shit as it is, you don't need to allow more shit to deal with I your life. Feel comfortable, as far as I'm concerned they have got the problem.
 

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sc, you're definately not "as avarege as you can be" and you know that, you've accomplished a hell of a lot, more than most people accomplish minus the DP and and anxiety states.

As for societys reaction to the "mentally unwell" you shouldnt feel uncomfortable at all about it. I don't no if you've noticed but society isn't exactly "well", any thing goes theres no wrong or right, terms like "normal" and "wierd" dont apply in this day and age. Most people out there have some sort of mental thing going on weather they know it or not, it's just more sublte in most cases. A lot of peple do a lot of crazy shit, the people at work that kinda feel uncomfortable about you having issues probably go home at knock off time and do some funky shit behind closed doors.

You seem like a good man, good father etc, you should be confident, you.ve got issues ,you're man enough to be open about it and do something about it. You go through enough shit as it is, you don't need to allow more shit to deal with I your life. Feel comfortable, as far as I'm concerned they have got the problem.
 

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You go through enough sh*t as it is, you don't need to allow more sh*t to deal with I your life. Feel comfortable, as far as I'm concerned they have got the problem.
I think Alex is right - if somebody finds it uncomfortable you having mental issues, it is hir problem, not yours. Indeed, for example here in Finland one of the most prescribed medicines is an antidepressant, and I guess that makes mental disorders appear as normal as any other illnesses. If somebody thinks you're wacko doesn't mean you are like that - it just tells something about that person and hir problems. And I guess people discriminating others bc of mental issues are just ignorant to the boot. You needn't care about the attitudes that kind of people carry, they are simply not worth it.
 

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*Alex said:
You go through enough sh*t as it is, you don't need to allow more sh*t to deal with I your life. Feel comfortable, as far as I'm concerned they have got the problem.
I think Alex is right - if somebody finds it uncomfortable you having mental issues, it is hir problem, not yours. Indeed, for example here in Finland one of the most prescribed medicines is an antidepressant, and I guess that makes mental disorders appear as normal as any other illnesses. If somebody thinks you're wacko doesn't mean you are like that - it just tells something about that person and hir problems. And I guess people discriminating others bc of mental issues are just ignorant to the boot. You needn't care about the attitudes that kind of people carry, they are simply not worth it.
 
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Well the only people who were ignorant regarding my 'illness' have been mental health professionals, I mean, seriously.

Well, physical doctors have not been a great help either, but never did one disregard what I had to say, that has been the case with mental health profs only.

Besides I guess only stupid people react bad when one admits the suffering, and nobody wants to have to do with ignorants anyway.

I realized most people feel sorry to hear about the problem and try to help (except for my family).Those who keep a distance to it all are simply anxious themselves and don't want to be reminded of it, that is why they seem to be reserved.
 
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Well the only people who were ignorant regarding my 'illness' have been mental health professionals, I mean, seriously.

Well, physical doctors have not been a great help either, but never did one disregard what I had to say, that has been the case with mental health profs only.

Besides I guess only stupid people react bad when one admits the suffering, and nobody wants to have to do with ignorants anyway.

I realized most people feel sorry to hear about the problem and try to help (except for my family).Those who keep a distance to it all are simply anxious themselves and don't want to be reminded of it, that is why they seem to be reserved.
 

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sc, may I say that in know way are you wacky. The way you write and communicate with others on this site shows part of who you are. You seem to be a kind, caring and intelligent man. I very much dislike words like wacky, nuts, wierd and so on and so on. Please do not get me wrong it is okay for you to say these words but society uses words such as this to describe a human being who is suffering and to me that is very wrong. If we had a problem with our heart would we call that person heartless or sicko because they are ill, no because it is not there brain that is acting up.

I do understand how you feel though. I myself should really get an award for my acting career. I never show what I live. I have been told that I am so together that others wish they where like me. God if they only knew. Sometimes I just want to scream out loud and say ok listen up, I am not a perfectionist, I am not always happy and jolly. I can be downright miserable, sad, scared, and anxious.

As for family, that is another story. All I wanted was to be loved by my family but did you know that because one is different in my family that is not good. I am shunned I am treated like I belong on an island by myself. I said to my dad why is it I am punished for being ill? I said to him I have worked hard I have graduated in many things and I have tried over and over again to make you proud of me but you still treat me like a little broken toy. Friends that I once had slowly went away because they did not know what to do or say for me. God is it really that hard just to be kind like you would with anyone else? I did not know in order to have friends you had to be just so. Nothing out of place, all your ducks in a row. Come on now world there is not one person that is perfect.

sc, the lonliness I understand also. It hurts deep to feel lonely. It is true you could have a thousand people around you and feel like you are all alone. You are right coming here is like having a family. The warmth and care that others show is special. It is like a warm blanket wrapped around you. When the world closes it's doors on you coming here can change that. You have friends here and we all do understand and care. Thank you for writting this post. Never give up, I am learning to stop acting so much and just be me. You know something it is so much nicer, not so stressful and I kinda like who I see in the mirror. I know one thing is certain I make a wonderful friend because I care about others, I do not ask are you different because if you are that could be a problem. Life does not work that way, you care about others with all there imperfections because that is what makes us all unique.

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sc, may I say that in know way are you wacky. The way you write and communicate with others on this site shows part of who you are. You seem to be a kind, caring and intelligent man. I very much dislike words like wacky, nuts, wierd and so on and so on. Please do not get me wrong it is okay for you to say these words but society uses words such as this to describe a human being who is suffering and to me that is very wrong. If we had a problem with our heart would we call that person heartless or sicko because they are ill, no because it is not there brain that is acting up.

I do understand how you feel though. I myself should really get an award for my acting career. I never show what I live. I have been told that I am so together that others wish they where like me. God if they only knew. Sometimes I just want to scream out loud and say ok listen up, I am not a perfectionist, I am not always happy and jolly. I can be downright miserable, sad, scared, and anxious.

As for family, that is another story. All I wanted was to be loved by my family but did you know that because one is different in my family that is not good. I am shunned I am treated like I belong on an island by myself. I said to my dad why is it I am punished for being ill? I said to him I have worked hard I have graduated in many things and I have tried over and over again to make you proud of me but you still treat me like a little broken toy. Friends that I once had slowly went away because they did not know what to do or say for me. God is it really that hard just to be kind like you would with anyone else? I did not know in order to have friends you had to be just so. Nothing out of place, all your ducks in a row. Come on now world there is not one person that is perfect.

sc, the lonliness I understand also. It hurts deep to feel lonely. It is true you could have a thousand people around you and feel like you are all alone. You are right coming here is like having a family. The warmth and care that others show is special. It is like a warm blanket wrapped around you. When the world closes it's doors on you coming here can change that. You have friends here and we all do understand and care. Thank you for writting this post. Never give up, I am learning to stop acting so much and just be me. You know something it is so much nicer, not so stressful and I kinda like who I see in the mirror. I know one thing is certain I make a wonderful friend because I care about others, I do not ask are you different because if you are that could be a problem. Life does not work that way, you care about others with all there imperfections because that is what makes us all unique.

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sc, may I say that in know way are you wacky. The way you write and communicate with others on this site shows part of who you are. You seem to be a kind, caring and intelligent man. I very much dislike words like wacky, nuts, wierd and so on and so on. Please do not get me wrong it is okay for you to say these words but society uses words such as this to describe a human being who is suffering and to me that is very wrong. If we had a problem with our heart would we call that person heartless or sicko because they are ill, no because it is not there brain that is acting up.

I do understand how you feel though. I myself should really get an award for my acting career. I never show what I live. I have been told that I am so together that others wish they where like me. God if they only knew. Sometimes I just want to scream out loud and say ok listen up, I am not a perfectionist, I am not always happy and jolly. I can be downright miserable, sad, scared, and anxious.

As for family, that is another story. All I wanted was to be loved by my family but did you know that because one is different in my family that is not good. I am shunned I am treated like I belong on an island by myself. I said to my dad why is it I am punished for being ill? I said to him I have worked hard I have graduated in many things and I have tried over and over again to make you proud of me but you still treat me like a little broken toy. Friends that I once had slowly went away because they did not know what to do or say for me. God is it really that hard just to be kind like you would with anyone else? I did not know in order to have friends you had to be just so. Nothing out of place, all your ducks in a row. Come on now world there is not one person that is perfect.

sc, the lonliness I understand also. It hurts deep to feel lonely. It is true you could have a thousand people around you and feel like you are all alone. You are right coming here is like having a family. The warmth and care that others show is special. It is like a warm blanket wrapped around you. When the world closes it's doors on you coming here can change that. You have friends here and we all do understand and care. Thank you for writting this post. Never give up, I am learning to stop acting so much and just be me. You know something it is so much nicer, not so stressful and I kinda like who I see in the mirror. I know one thing is certain I make a wonderful friend because I care about others, I do not ask are you different because if you are that could be a problem. Life does not work that way, you care about others with all there imperfections because that is what makes us all unique.

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sc, may I say that in know way are you wacky. The way you write and communicate with others on this site shows part of who you are. You seem to be a kind, caring and intelligent man. I very much dislike words like wacky, nuts, wierd and so on and so on. Please do not get me wrong it is okay for you to say these words but society uses words such as this to describe a human being who is suffering and to me that is very wrong. If we had a problem with our heart would we call that person heartless or sicko because they are ill, no because it is not there brain that is acting up.

I do understand how you feel though. I myself should really get an award for my acting career. I never show what I live. I have been told that I am so together that others wish they where like me. God if they only knew. Sometimes I just want to scream out loud and say ok listen up, I am not a perfectionist, I am not always happy and jolly. I can be downright miserable, sad, scared, and anxious.

As for family, that is another story. All I wanted was to be loved by my family but did you know that because one is different in my family that is not good. I am shunned I am treated like I belong on an island by myself. I said to my dad why is it I am punished for being ill? I said to him I have worked hard I have graduated in many things and I have tried over and over again to make you proud of me but you still treat me like a little broken toy. Friends that I once had slowly went away because they did not know what to do or say for me. God is it really that hard just to be kind like you would with anyone else? I did not know in order to have friends you had to be just so. Nothing out of place, all your ducks in a row. Come on now world there is not one person that is perfect.

sc, the lonliness I understand also. It hurts deep to feel lonely. It is true you could have a thousand people around you and feel like you are all alone. You are right coming here is like having a family. The warmth and care that others show is special. It is like a warm blanket wrapped around you. When the world closes it's doors on you coming here can change that. You have friends here and we all do understand and care. Thank you for writting this post. Never give up, I am learning to stop acting so much and just be me. You know something it is so much nicer, not so stressful and I kinda like who I see in the mirror. I know one thing is certain I make a wonderful friend because I care about others, I do not ask are you different because if you are that could be a problem. Life does not work that way, you care about others with all there imperfections because that is what makes us all unique.

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Hey guys,

The stigma attached to being mentally ill is bothering me quite a lot lately because of my situation. That being that I am neither working nor going to school and so people want to know what I am doing with my life right now. I usually just say "Oh, I'm taking a mental break". That seems to be fine. But I often feel the need to elaborate but don't just cause it would take up too much time. Can't say I've ever had a negative reaction from others, just unsupportive replies at times. I hate when I hear "but you look so normal" cause I know I do and I know it makes it much less believable.

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Hey guys,

The stigma attached to being mentally ill is bothering me quite a lot lately because of my situation. That being that I am neither working nor going to school and so people want to know what I am doing with my life right now. I usually just say "Oh, I'm taking a mental break". That seems to be fine. But I often feel the need to elaborate but don't just cause it would take up too much time. Can't say I've ever had a negative reaction from others, just unsupportive replies at times. I hate when I hear "but you look so normal" cause I know I do and I know it makes it much less believable.

Uni-G
 
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