[Martinelv]

This isn't directly related to DR/DP issues, more to do with positive attitudes. This is what I'm starting to learn and put in to practise, and it's reaping some fabulous rewards.

1.) Stand up whenever you first meet someone
2.) Smile at everyone who catches your eye
3.) Initiate conversation, i.e, on a bus, a train, at work. For example, yesterday I sat opposite a woman and said 'Do you think they could make these seats anymore uncomfortable?', and we ended up having a great chat.

This may all sound obvious, but it makes you feel much better as a person.

 

[SillyPutty]

aaawwww, so nice to see your human side Martin

 

[g-funk]

Yep, he's finally gone mad. You know in Britain they put you away for being so damn friendly Martin :twisted:

 

[Martinelv]

Sorry, what I meant to say was, 'I hope you spend the rest of your lives with your head stuck up Satan's arsehole, after he has had a curry, and at the same time your anal orifices are 'investigated' by all manner of spikey fruit, like Pineapples. And for the main course, you will have to listen to a endless recording of me raving about religion.

Happy?

 

[boohoo]

Girls can't go around acting like that. It gives men the wrong impression. Also, I think that when manners become that polished, it borders on arrogance.

 

[Martinelv]

Girls can't go around acting like that. It gives men the wrong impression. Also, I think that when manners become that polished, it borders on arrogance

I have never been so confused, apart from the time when I found a Tortoise stuck up a tree. First off - was this directed at me ? And if so, I am a man. Just barely, but still - a man. Therefore, it is my wont to be arrogant because the wimmin luv it. Secondly, the only people who confuse manners with arrogance are those that are not receptive to innocent politeness because they see evil intent lurking in every smile. You find these kind of women sitting in their rocking chairs, surrounded by cats and empty gin bottles.

 

[g-funk]

to be honest I think good looking people can get away with being friendly, it's a sad but true thing about us humans, we trust pretty people. You're quite pretty Martin, go ahead and chat the world up, they'll love it :wink:

 

[Scattered]

I guess I'll be surrounded by dogs and empty gin bottles.

 

[Guest]

WOW...I guess there's NOTHING that 2 Vicodin and a Bushmills on the rocks can't cure!...nice.

Tony

 

[sebastian]

This isn't directly related to DR/DP issues, more to do with positive attitudes. This is what I'm starting to learn and put in to practise, and it's reaping some fabulous rewards.

1.) Stand up whenever you first meet someone
2.) Smile at everyone who catches your eye
3.) Initiate conversation, i.e, on a bus, a train, at work. For example, yesterday I sat opposite a woman and said 'Do you think they could make these seats anymore uncomfortable?', and we ended up having a great chat.

I try to do a kind of modification on these things....

1. Whenever i first meet someone, i do a handstand.

2. I smile at everyone who catches my eye. And then i keep smiling. And then i smile some more. In fact, i just sit there smiling at them for the entire duration of the subway ride. Sometimes i'll even laugh hysterically, all the while maintaining eye contact and keeping that smile plastered on my face.

3. I'll always try to initiate conversation. I think this is a great idea because it breaks through those impersonal facades which we seem to impose on our relationships with others. In fact, i'll leap right into the personal stuff head on. No sense in mucking around with gratuitous conversation pieces like the weather or train seats...i'll meet someone on a bus or something and the first thing i'll do is ask them what they think i should do about my pschological problems. It will play out like this:

Me: Hi! (Big bright smile on my face of course, as always)

Other: Umm...hi.

Me: I have a psychological disorder called depersonalization. I feel like i'm living in a dream. Like i'm not really here. Sometimes it could be described as feeling like i'm on a different planet.

Other: Oh...ummm...(Looks around aimlessly and furtively checks his watch)

Me: Do you know Martinelv?

Other: Umm...who? (Frantically reaches for the bell to signal the bus to stop)

Me: Oh...he's this guy on dpselfhelp.com. I go there. It's on the World Wide Web! We're all really messed up!

Other: I umm...I see. (Mutters something unintelligible under his breath)

Me: Do you like olives? I do. I like them a lot. Do you want one? I have one in my pocket.

He's usually taking his cianide capsule at this point...but yeah, it never seems to work out for me that well, so i'm thinking i should just be like everyone else in Toronto and keep my mouth shut.

s.

 

[agentcooper]

you'd fit right in on our busses, s!

 

[Soshen Cloud]

whatever works for you, Martinelv, I say do it. Alot of people who've replied seemed to of been bashing what you posted, but I think whatever works is fine. As long as it's not cutting throats or anything.

olive's are good as hell.

 

[Martinelv]

:lol: :lol:

Sebsastan, that deserves a double laughing emoticon. How do you dream this stuff up ? :lol:

I think people have got the wrong impression of what I was trying to say. And it does tend to be indicatative of the idea that people think that anyone who is just plain polite, and confident enough to smile and start converstation (which men and women) then they have some terrible alterior motive. That's not true. For me it's a quesion of self-esteem. It makes me feel better about myself...to make other people smile...to chat to strangers and notice that they really, and suprisingly, enjoy having a conversation with someone instead of doing the usual - sitting on a train and retreating into your own world.

Anyway, with regards to women....read my next post...The First Book of the Art (Volume 2)

 

[Milan]

Very clever and funny post Sebastian. Made me chuckle :lol:

 

[MrMortgage]

sebastian!!! That was funny @$$ stuff man! LMAO!

 

[peacedove]

Martinelv... those sound like really good ideas. I have this eye contact problem though. When I do manage to start a conversation I find myself wanting it to end very quickly. I get so nervous. I try to make eye contact, but then I'm like what if I'm staring too much? When do I look them in the eye, when do I look away, do I just stare at their eyes the whole time or look at other parts of them as well?

And smiling... I'm never quite sure if someone is looking at me or someone near me so I'm afraid to smile at them cuz I don't wanna freak anyone out.

Crazy I know.