[danilee]

I want to thank you for your response to my post about my father. 50 people viewed my message, and only you replied with kind words.

My dad is OK, and I did not fly to Chicago. He did not have a heart attack, they said it was stress. He was released, and he will follow up with DR. with his lifestyle, I thought I would never see him again. Then he tells me "only the good die young"

WOW.

I just really cannot believe all these people that attack you on this board, and YOU are the ONLY ONE that gave me support during my time of need. I really, really appreciate it.
I understand that there are some people on the board who have posted that they cannot feel compassion for others, as they just dont give a f---
and I assume those people didnt read my post. Why would they, you know? I wouldnt want a "fake" cyberhug or whatever anyway. I just am kinda upset that nobody else responded.
I am a compassionate person, I have even sent e-mails to people on this board that were having hard times.
Thank you again.

 

[Sojourner]

OH, that's wonderful, Danilee!!! I am so happy. You must be, too. :lol:

What a terrible scare for you! I was only 17 when my father died, and I was away at school.

Sometimes I think people feel inadequate and so they read and they don't post. I saw that more than 10 people or about that had read your post before I did, so I thought that I would say something, maybe even for those who felt terrible but didn't feel they could offer anything solid in your real, actual crisis. Sometimes a word of support is easier if someone is just "feeling bad," and so I think that's why they didn't post.

I am sure they cared, but just felt inadequate -- after all, that's the basic feeling of DP, etc., isn't it?

Please don't be too hard on them. Also, I think I said something about the hour in my post, so maybe others were asleep.

I'm glad it turned out well and you are always welcome!

Now you have to go to Chicago just to hug him, eh, sometime soon!

 

[danilee]

Oh I am going to Chicago on Wednesday. I can't wait to see him, and everyone else.
My husband works for United, so we fly all the time with our baby well now he just turned 2.
you are right, I dont mean to sound hard on the others, I am just hurt thats all. I am very sensitive. DP is horrible, mine is still acting up throughout all of this. When my DP first started, I thought to myself when a REAL tragedy happens, Ill snap out of it. NOPE didnt happen.

You are a good person

Dani

 

[M A R S]

I would have said something but i made me think too much about my mothers death when i was 21.

I'm glad it all working out

 

[danilee]

Oh Gosh Spaceplex, I feel horrible. I am so sorry that my situation reminded you of terrible memories. I don't want this post to turn into anything big, I was just thanking Soj. And thank you as well, and I am so sorry.

 

[Sojourner]

It is so hard to lose a parent early in life; I'm thankful I had my father until I was 17. Some people lose them very early, when it must hurt a great deal more. I think someone here, was it Martin, spoke of being just 8 or so. It's so very difficult. (No, it could be he, because he just wrote about his mum, so I don't know who it was).

Anyway, I have a crazy idea. When you go on Wednesday, Danilee, do something wild and crazy, maybe, say, when the plane is taking off, say to yourself, "I am hereby releasing whatever I was holding onto that caused me to feel bad." Feel the plane lift and rise like a beautiful silver bird, feel the pull against gravity and feel the earth fall away beneath you (look out the window for an even better effect) and visualize yourself letting go of a great burden that falls, softly and imperceptibly, to the ground, never to be seen or felt by you again. Experience deeply in your whole body the act of releasing it forever -- feel it leave your body and your mind.

Then, when you level out and go about the business of making the little one smile, notice how you feel at that moment.

It's worth a try. Blessings!!!!!

 

[M A R S]

Oh Gosh Spaceplex, I feel horrible. I am so sorry that my situation reminded you of terrible memories. I don't want this post to turn into anything big, I was just thanking Soj. And thank you as well, and I am so sorry.

No its ok, im just glad all is working out for you!