[Guest]

This is a quote from =n and I think it's terrific.

Truer words were never spoken. If you guys have NOTHING left in you, at least keep reaching out. It is more curative than you would ever imagine.

But i would urge all sufferers of this disorder to keep up the relationships with family and friends. Thats absolutely vital. As dalailama15 hints it might sometimes just feel like going through the motions, not worth anything, but it IS important. EXTREMELY important. Relationships with others provide a basis in 'reality' that i didnt even notice existed until it started to slip away.

If you find it hard to define yourself now sebastian then try it if you let all relationships totally slip and fall away. Thats the mistake ive made and if all i can do is convince you not to let that happen then this post is a thousand times worth it. Sometimes even seemingly empty relationships turn out not to be so and pretense becomes reality. A relationship with nothing and noone is hard to gain pleasure from

written by "=n" (from another thread)

 

[= n]

heh- got me blushing now, I was trying to slowly and surreptitiously ease my way into this forum

 

[Guest]

LOL...SORRY! I'm not very slow or surrepticious, so I gotta give honor where it's due. Loved that post of yours and others need to read it.

:lol:

 

[Kerio]

But how does one keep up with the pretense? I find myself getting tired halfway through a sentence when I realise I'm pretending to be nice, or friendly, etc. Although my best friend understands, (therefore being my best friend), most other people don't see things the way we do. They seem to believe that pretending to be someone else they're not is the only way to live. Sometimes I also find myself wondering if it's worth all the effort to return to reality, if I end up like them.