[kchendrix]

Well, what a downer.. TOnight my wife and I had an arugment.... I started this trip around November of this past year.... Tonight we went out for mexican.. She had a couple of Drinks... Truth serium I guess. Any way we stopped at Blockbuster to rent some movies for my son and his friend. I turned on the radio and some alternative rock was on,,, she didn''t want to hear it,, I said hey wait I like that song and was listening to it... Well then she held her hand over the radio so I could turn it back on. This car we had put in her name, but I drive it every day as she now drives the new mustang that is in both our names. Any way she had a couple of drinks and when we pulled up in front of the house she mentioned how this was her car and she would play any music in it she wanted. I said fine then you park the car and I got out of the car and left her sitting there. I grabbed my guitar went upstairs in the bedroom and began to play.. She came up and said I am going to watch tv can you go downstairs and play. I said you know since you had a couple of drinks you sure are being nasty.. She said well you've been an asshole since NOvember...
THAT HURT..... that sucks, Arugments happen but that was uncalled for. That is like hitting below the belt in boxing. Do your spouses, or significant others understand? Mine doesn't I guess and I found out tonight. I don't get it....I supported her while she went through breast cancer , I was there every minute... NOw 14 years later I go through this and I get that kind of treatment.... It's not right, it's just not right..

Sorry to vent but it really pisses me off.

 

[M A R S]

Sorry dude, thats sounds chetty. But some times my girlfriend of 10 years says things that are really bad. But she checks her self and says she's sorry right away.

If this is an isolated incident and not common of how your wife acts i would just write it off, blame the booze..

I hope things work out

 

[rainboteers]

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[Guest]

Have you even been in love? Horrible, isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens your heart and it means someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses. You build up this whole armor, for years, so nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...

You give them a piece of you. They don't ask for it. They do something dumb one day like kiss you, or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so a simple phrase like "maybe we should just be friends" or "how very perceptive" turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a body-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.
in Sandman: The Kindly Ones by Neil Gaiman

 

[Guest]

Try listening to Gregorian Chants instead. They are very soothing.

 

[Guest]

I would have kicked her in the throat, then force fed her the radio.

No need for comments like that.

 

[gem]

I understand how you feel, but sometimes the way you are being treated is not really being done intentionally. Your loved one could be feeling frustrated and desperately wants you to be well. It is difficult when one is ill and it is also very difficult for the one you love to watch and be in this also. Your wife may be feeling overwhelmed and did not mean to uncaring. She may be showing you that she does not know what to do. I think communication is truly very important. Talking to each other and accepting that sometimes one can feel angry and it does not mean they are, it may mean she does not know what to do to help and she may feel she has failed you in some way. Talk to each other and remind each other that it is okay to be upset but also rememeber you both love each other and that love will get you through the good and the bad times.

gem.

 

[terri*]

I find when I am frustrated beyond belief, and something like that happens, it really is about the fact that I don't have any control over most of the things that are upsetting me in my life and I at least want control of the damn radio! My husband is stongwilled and frequently it will come down to some words like this because I feel like I never get it my way. So why can't it at least be my way about the radio. :?

I'm usually easygoing, but sometimes, as people are wont to do, I'll gotta run my mouth for a little release from the frustration. I agree with spaceplexx, gem, and rainbo. MrMole! :shock: No sense in getting that ugly about it. Georgian chants can be nice, maybe you should try that to release a bit of that "shoving it down her throat" feeling. :wink:

Signed,
In this woman's opinion

 

[Guest]

Question pretty much for everybody. How long was your DP/DR going on before you confided in someone. I ask this because mine has been going on for about two months this time around and I haven't confided in anybody because I can't put the right words together to explain exactly how I feel. Pretty cowardly I suppose.
Katie

 

[kchendrix]

I haven't confided in anyone other then the DOC.... I just tell them I have an anxiety disorder.. I don't think anyone who hasn't gone through this would understand.