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For me the biggest and most frustrating symptom is not being able to socialise properly. I can't follow a conversation and get extremely paranoid and zone out when around other people. It's weird that I have never really seen it discussed here. I could almost live with the numbed emotions and derealization administration dp.. but not being able to socialise. In fact I hate it. I can't stand it. It brings me so much suffering and always leaves me feeling extremely depressed. Does nobody else have this? I mean a group over 3 people is too much. It's unbearable
 

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I was also wondering why it isn't talked about more here...I just never have anything to say to people and I feel so uncomfortable during the awkward silence that I can't fill.
 

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It's weird that it's never mentioned. I've had dp a long time, but socialising in noisy environments has steadily got worse over that time. To the point where I can't work. It's the main reason I can't. I can live with all else, as I have for a long time, but if I can't enjoy socialising and that gets worse it looks pretty bleak for me tbh
 

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I used to socialize with alcohol. After a few drinks, I focused on the alcohol and not so much on the socializing. Most people are schmucks anyway. I have few friends by choice. I prefer the company of a good dog.
 

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It's weird but alcohol just makes me more blank and numb most of the time. I don't get the energy and excitement from it anymore. Then for the next few days symptoms are increased significantly.
 

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Socialising is awful. I literally can't keep the sentence in my head. And when there is the clattering of cutlery and little bits of talking here and there and the radio on in the background.. it's like my filter is broken. All these things are coming at me at once and it's completely overwhelming. If I'm focusing my attention in one direction and someone talks to me from another direction it doesn't hit home. It is very severe now. Obviously I get anxious and paranoid but regardless of that it is there. People make comments and are mean. Even family members. Nothing helps. I'm squirming and cannot deal with large groups. Even one on one if there is loud music in a pub or conversations around me it takes a lot of effort to focus on the conversation at hand. I literally cannot socialise. And I don't hear a lot said about this hear. Making me think I have another mental disorder proping up the dp
 

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Something I've found weird is that 1 on 1 conversations are worse for me. There's all this pressure to fill every gap, whereas if your in a group, it's sort of okay to be the quiet one and just chime in when you feel like without the pressure. I haven't really found anyone that feels the same way though. My brain just constantly wants to rest and be "blank" hard to believe anxiety alone can cause all this?
 

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Yeh tried a lot of meds. Nothing helps. Trying different meditation techniques at the moment. Enlightenment here I come
 

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For me it's the opposite. I find that when I'm not talking to someone I'm stuck in my own head... when I'm out socializing I find that it helps get me out of my own head and helps me out a lot.
 

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I have trouble socializing for all the reasons you guys have mentioned but it doesn't cause that much distress for me .. it's funny because I actually used to have bad social anxiety before DP but now it's like ... I feel so awful that I don't even care what others are thinking and I don't care that I have nothing to say ... I feel too removed to even bother
 

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Yeah I forget my sentences mid sentence often because of DP, and I have always been uncomfortable in social scenes. Luckily the one close friend I have understands my situation -- as much as he can -- and isn't too critical to how I speak, but many other people I meet think I'm stoned all the time, or just really confused because of how I trip up on what I was saying or forget where I was going with what I was talking about.
 

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Interesting thread, this was definitely a symptom for me and even though I feel mostly recovered, this is still an issue for me. Never was much of a socializer before my DP anyway though, so it's hard to tell sometimes. One of you really nailed it for me, just never have anything to say to people. It's depressing.
 

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when i talk to people at work i feel like an alien. as if i had a camera on my head, and the one I'm talking to is looking in the camera not on me.. any one else feel the same? it's worse when i talk to people i don't know. i guess its caused by the hyper awereness I'm suffering from
 
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