[Guest]

DP/DR is, by definition really, a very selfish state of mind. Each of us suffering from it is soooooo consumed with ourselves. Or our lack of selves I guess.
Several pm's sent to me lately have gone unanswered. I think this post is being sent in response to those. It's not that I don't care enough to respond, it's more that I am being just a little extra selfish lately. Don't want to be, but I am even deeper into myself than usual. That makes it difficult to see that others are struggling too. Harder to see up over the edge of the abyss.
It's funny really, because I come here to be with my own kind. Even so, much of the time I find a great separation between me and the rest of you, as if I am still the only one who is messed up. Or certainly the only one suffering to the degree that I do (more of the selfishness coming through).

So, and in no particular order, here are some responses to these pm's:
Um........hard to say without knowing more about the situation; yes, dump him. He sounds like nothing but trouble; of course lack of sleep can make things seem worse - any stress to your system can have that effect; I know you are a smart chick, but do not know if you are a "hot" chick. Insufficient information (but am willing to receive and review such information); yes, this is a terrible way to live (twice for that one); you two will simply need to try to find some common ground and get along. Job duties associated with being a moderator do not include being a referee; of course I think it's possible to get out of this mess - do you think I would have bothered this long otherwise?; yes, Janine Baker is a real person; You're right, I should try some inovative photography techniques to make me appear younger on my little webpage; um.............that's at least some of them.

I promise to try to be more attentive to pm's and e-mails. Lord knows I feel lonely enough without losing e-buds too.
I just become very selfish sometimes. Very closed. Everything is me me me. Whoever "me" is. I'm hoping I'm not the only one here who feels this way from time to time. As I've always said - I'm still not sure I am DP. Part of me still thinks I died in the car accident, and my body just hasn't noticed yet...............

 

[Guest]

While I can understand that sometimes everyone does get lost in their own problems, own selfishness, I really don't think that's an excuse to go around calling people names ("yes, Janine Baker is a REAL person"). I can be understanding only so far.

:lol: 8) :twisted:

p.s. I totally agree - you guys (and I will say this definitely includes you, sc,) are so responsive and considerate of one another - maybe PART of the problem sometimes is that you're not selfish ENOUGH! Big hug.
Love, figment of your twisted imagination, JB

 

[dreamcatcher]

sc....you have been going through a difficult time yourself....i'm sure everyone here can appreciate that and except that you have alot to deal with.........sometimes i feel extremley selfish more so through this illness but you need to make time for you....its nice when you can help others but you need to look after yourself too

 

[jc]

i have found that helping others...or at least trying to help others the best i can really helps with my welbeing....but its being bitter from past relationships that causes me to not trust people as much as i would like to...

and sc i cetainly feel a barrier when i come to this forum,i dont feel 'at home' anymore

 

[Martinelv]

Everyone is selfish to a certain extent, like everything it's a matter of degrees. Just because you didn't immediately reply to a PM doesn't make you a serial killer. (Forget about those bodies under the patio SC, that was an accident.)

i have found that helping others...or at least trying to help others the best i can really helps with my welbeing

Splendid JC. In that case, to help you to help me, (this is entirely altrustic you understand), can you lend me ?7,345,01 to pay off my debts ? Cheers mate. Will make us both feel a hell of a lot better.

 

[jc]

[/quote]

Splendid JC. In that case, to help you to help me, (this is entirely altrustic you understand), can you lend me ?7,345,01 to pay off my debts ? Cheers mate. Will make us both feel a hell of a lot better.[/quote]

verbal advice i can offer,financial advice...dont even go there,a very very sore subject for me (and my family)

im just saving up, now for a top of the range cardboard box and sleeping bag..

anyway i thought you were earning the big bucks ? still pissing it up the wall :?

 

[g-funk]

oh my god - did someone here not realise that Janine wasn't real!?

 

[Guest]

very shortly g_funk and sc will be banned. Please write to them soon if you have any need to speak with them.

:lol: 8) :twisted:

 

[Guest]

Not be overkill this, lol...but truly, in all seriousness, if I WASN'T real, what would I BE? LOL...clearly, there is SOME entity called Janine Baker who is pretty consistent (if not downright didactic!)

The human imagination is so damn wonderful, lolol

okay, done now. going back into my imaginary hole, lol

J

 

[Martinelv]

JC - Yep, I am earning big bucks, and yep, I still am pissing it up the wall. I am the embodiment of the word 'twat'.

Talking about sleeping bags and cardboard boxes, I actually slept in a wheely-bin last week. No kidding. I had one of my regular mid-week, post-work mega piss-ups, and when the pubs turned out I suddenly found myself 20 miles from home, temperature -20, snowing like a bastard, with no taxi's around. So I slept in a wheely-bin down an side street.

I am a 33 year old man, an PhD grad, earning ?250/day, and I end up like that.

:shock:

 

[ret]

I've noticed I've become extremely egocentric.

All I ever do is talk about about myself (see above)

I hope it is because of DP and not because i've just turned into a dickhead.

 

[Guest]

JC - Yep, I am earning big bucks, and yep, I still am pissing it up the wall. I am the embodiment of the word 'twat'.

Talking about sleeping bags and cardboard boxes, I actually slept in a wheely-bin last week. No kidding. I had one of my regular mid-week, post-work mega piss-ups, and when the pubs turned out I suddenly found myself 20 miles from home, temperature -20, snowing like a bastard, with no taxi's around. So I slept in a wheely-bin down an side street.

I am a 33 year old man, an PhD grad, earning ?250/day, and I end up like that.

:shock:

That's the best thing I've heard all week!! I've not got any 'stupidly drunk' experiences like that

 

[ret]

reminds me of the time I slept on the beach and used an empty beer carton as a pillow.

 

[Martinelv]

Glad that my misery entertains you. :?

No doubt in the upcoming weeks I will do something equally impulsive and reckless. Watch this space for details.

 

[g-funk]

I fell asleep with my head on the bedside table instead of the pillow the other night apparently. Alcohol is evil.