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Discussion Starter · #1 ·
Hi,

I am so sad today :( , and yesterday too... derealization is very tough today, and I feel almost in a panick. I always think I'll end up like this all my life, in a fog, with no meaning in life because I feel stoned.... I don't know what to take in order to be functional. I want so much to work! I am becoming antisocial. And going out scares me, other new people seem strange to me, normal questions of everyday seem meaningless. I hate it....

I wonder what is going on with me, why I can't be happy? Why I can't be NORMAL like before? I went in the park and I felt so strange, like on anothe planet. the feeling was hard.... I HATE it and feel hopeless today.

Janine, I wrote to you.

Thanks for the support all.

Cyn xxx
 
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Discussion Starter · #2 ·
Hi,

I am so sad today :( , and yesterday too... derealization is very tough today, and I feel almost in a panick. I always think I'll end up like this all my life, in a fog, with no meaning in life because I feel stoned.... I don't know what to take in order to be functional. I want so much to work! I am becoming antisocial. And going out scares me, other new people seem strange to me, normal questions of everyday seem meaningless. I hate it....

I wonder what is going on with me, why I can't be happy? Why I can't be NORMAL like before? I went in the park and I felt so strange, like on anothe planet. the feeling was hard.... I HATE it and feel hopeless today.

Janine, I wrote to you.

Thanks for the support all.

Cyn xxx
 
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Discussion Starter · #5 ·
Cynthia i relate to what you just said almost 110 %. You are not alone by any means.

Oh and i encourage writing to Janine, because she will give you the correct insight that you need.

Hope she didn't mind me saying that
 
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Discussion Starter · #6 ·
Cynthia i relate to what you just said almost 110 %. You are not alone by any means.

Oh and i encourage writing to Janine, because she will give you the correct insight that you need.

Hope she didn't mind me saying that
 
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Discussion Starter · #7 ·
Hi dear one,
Two main points here:

1. Yes, there will be times, many times, when you feel like your memory is not working right. It really IS, but your conscious awareness of it is askew. It's not that you cannot recall what you need to in order to get around and function, but when you TRY to recall things (to check to see if you can, if your brain is working right, etc.) that is when you will scare yourself. I just cannot emphasize this enough: ANYTHING you do to "check" on yourself, to see if your brain is working right, will leave you feeling like there is something horribly wrong with the way your mind did that particular task. It's PART of the symptom.

If right now, you started examining your relationship to Time...do you feel it's been an hour when an hour is passing? Or does an hour seem more like a minute, or more like 4 hours? Does a day feel too long or too short? I guarantee if you are examining how you think about ANYTHING, it will give you a feeling that something is terribly wrong. Does food seem odd? When you eat, does it feel like it used to feel? Or does it feel different now that you have DP? I guarantee, you can talk yourself into making it feel very very odd.

THAT IS PART OF THE SYMPTOM! grin (yes, I'm yelling, but not angry)

You must stop "evaluating" whether any particular experience feels right. It WON'T feel right, until you heal. That is what DP does.

Now....moving right along, still yelling but still friendly, grin,

2) Healing takes time. I feel so bad for you and I wish I could give you a hug and look into your eyes and tell you that you will get better soon - I KNOW you will get better, CC, but I don't know how long things will take. You will not recover today. Or tomorrow. And you would do yourself SUCH a big help if you wouldn't expect it to happen so fast. That disappointment adds to your negative beliefs that you will NEVER get well, and that is simply not true.

Try to say "okay,I am going to do what Janine suggests (grin) for the next few months. After Christmas, I will see how things are. And I will compare how I feel then to how bad I felt today. But...until then, I am not going to EXPECT to feel better. I will do the best I can with the state I'm in, and I will know that day to day I AM healing every minute that I am not focusing on myself. But I will not see the RESULTS of that healing until later.

That is all.
I love ya, friend, and PM or post anytime.
J
 
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Discussion Starter · #8 ·
Hi dear one,
Two main points here:

1. Yes, there will be times, many times, when you feel like your memory is not working right. It really IS, but your conscious awareness of it is askew. It's not that you cannot recall what you need to in order to get around and function, but when you TRY to recall things (to check to see if you can, if your brain is working right, etc.) that is when you will scare yourself. I just cannot emphasize this enough: ANYTHING you do to "check" on yourself, to see if your brain is working right, will leave you feeling like there is something horribly wrong with the way your mind did that particular task. It's PART of the symptom.

If right now, you started examining your relationship to Time...do you feel it's been an hour when an hour is passing? Or does an hour seem more like a minute, or more like 4 hours? Does a day feel too long or too short? I guarantee if you are examining how you think about ANYTHING, it will give you a feeling that something is terribly wrong. Does food seem odd? When you eat, does it feel like it used to feel? Or does it feel different now that you have DP? I guarantee, you can talk yourself into making it feel very very odd.

THAT IS PART OF THE SYMPTOM! grin (yes, I'm yelling, but not angry)

You must stop "evaluating" whether any particular experience feels right. It WON'T feel right, until you heal. That is what DP does.

Now....moving right along, still yelling but still friendly, grin,

2) Healing takes time. I feel so bad for you and I wish I could give you a hug and look into your eyes and tell you that you will get better soon - I KNOW you will get better, CC, but I don't know how long things will take. You will not recover today. Or tomorrow. And you would do yourself SUCH a big help if you wouldn't expect it to happen so fast. That disappointment adds to your negative beliefs that you will NEVER get well, and that is simply not true.

Try to say "okay,I am going to do what Janine suggests (grin) for the next few months. After Christmas, I will see how things are. And I will compare how I feel then to how bad I felt today. But...until then, I am not going to EXPECT to feel better. I will do the best I can with the state I'm in, and I will know that day to day I AM healing every minute that I am not focusing on myself. But I will not see the RESULTS of that healing until later.

That is all.
I love ya, friend, and PM or post anytime.
J
 
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