Jeff (1A) wrote:dalailama15 wrote:
. . . next time I think I will ask the mental health professional beforehand if they are willing to spend a little time reading some stuff and to spend a little effort trying to understand it, [before our first session], just to save some time.
Yup, Jeff, I think you're right. The current therapist said something like: "I usually like to do the work during the session," which is fine.I am convinced that the vast majority of mental health workers, be they psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, etc. don't wish to prepare for sessions with their patients. . . . They want to deal with you and try to help you only when you are in their presence.
But the next thing I should have said is:
"What work? Seriously. Simply talking to you is in no way therapeutic. I do it in the hope that you can use this information in some way to suggest or practice some specific and useful therapy tailored to my specific sets of complaints. God, is it too much to ask that you behave like any other competent health-care professional on the planet? Of course I know this is asking too much but I still would like to know: What work?
Do you honestly believe you can wing some comment or association on the fly that I hadn't already considered, or that in any way would affect or help me? This isn't some dumb ass movie where you find some secret and I have an epiphany and we all weep together. Please understand that I can't remember one minute in the hundreds of hours of "therapy" I have had that I found in any way therapeutic. I need to find someone who can do something other than sit there and listen to me and toss in some banal observations here and there. And I'm sorry to say that that person, I already know, is not you."
Instead I patronize her, as I have all of them, so she won't feel bad about being so incompetent.
So much for therapy. I'm serious. I have no clue as to what these people think they are doing. And unless they are pretending, these "therapists" I have seen are some of the dumbest people I have ever met.