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Alright, well I've been depersonalized/derealized for probably 1.5-2 years. But the entire time I've had bad habits that almost certainly have perpetuated it (alcohol/drug/weed/porn/internet addiction). But now that I know what that the problem is, depersonaliztion/derealization(for the longest time i've thought it has been schizophrenia, autism, aspergers, schizotypal personality disorder, depression, social anxiety disorder, OCD, and pretty much every disorder you can think of), I'm wondering if I should tell someone? I don't mean telling a psychiatrist/psychologist (I have one), I mean should I tell a friend? Like I said, I've had this for over a year, so I'm not really close with anyone anymore, but I do have friends who have stuck with me through the entire time without me telling them anything is wrong with me. And I really want to tell someone what is wrong with me just so they understand why i've been acting the way I have been, but i'm scared that it will become awkward around them. The friend i want to tell lives at the house that me and my friends always go to smoke weed or drink or do drugs,, and he actually doesn't drink or smoke that much and i've known him the longest. I want to tell him so he understands why i've been acting the way i have for the past 1.5 or so years, and also so maybe he can call me out when he sees me asking for a drink or a hit at his house. I've told all my friends that I want to quit drinking and smoking, but they think it's because I got drug tested like 4 months ago (which I did) and they don't know it's because of this crazy disorder, I always end up caving in because there's no real reason to quit other than the problem in my head (which they don't know about). I think I realized what my entire problem is i'm stuck in a loop of anxiety because me doing drugs causes a lot of stress (because I live with my parents and they do NOT approve at all, unlike my friends parents), and my way to deal with stress is to do more drugs,

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So,i'm wondering, have any of you told your friends that you have depersonalization and how did they react? Did it help you, or give you even more anxiety? I want to tell my friend, but I don't know if it will make us closer, or make things even worse.
 

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I've told several friends and I've never had anyone have a problem with it. If you feel like you want then to know;then go for it.
It's kind of nice in a way. I found out a couple of my friends have had similar experiences and it felt good to have some companionship.
On the flipside, they might bring it up randomly or ask "how do you feel right now?" which can be annoying when you're trying to ignore your dp and someone else draws attention to it.
 

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Telling people about your depersonalization can seem like unleashing a massive secret. It feels this way because you're convinced it is a massive change/thing in life. And it is: for you. I was convinced that I must be displaying signs to those around me, but the truth was: I wasn't. It felt like people could see, perhaps, how messed up I was inside, but this was simply a fear not reality.

When I started to tell people about it I was almost let down that it was such an inconsequential event. At the end of the day if they don't have it, they can't relate one-to-one but your friends/family can understand that you are going through a challenging chapter in life.

I had been fearful I would be judged for DP. But to date, it's never been a regret sharing it.

I say go for it and share it. At the very least it may do nothing for the friendship dynamic (good or bad) but it makes you feel a little more human and more ownership/belonging in the world. I think everyone should tell a few people, whether family or friends. It's not about them even. In time you realize how it was a non-issue sharing it, and it makes you feel you belong even more in my opinion.

Good luck. It can be nerve racking at the time, but worth it ;)
 

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I didn't tell a soul about my depersonalization for 4-5 years because I thought they'd think I was going mad. What a huge regret that was.. Once I finally told someone it felt like a major weight was lifted and people had taken it easier on me. I'm not saying use this as an excuse to get out of certain things, but when I was forced to work and the stress became too much, I told my dad about it. Luckily he was understanding when I told him the severity of it, and he gave me time off to work on it.

Definitely tell someone.
 
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Alright, well I've been depersonalized/derealized for probably 1.5-2 years. But the entire time I've had bad habits that almost certainly have perpetuated it (alcohol/drug/weed/porn/internet addiction). But now that I know what that the problem is, depersonaliztion/derealization(for the longest time i've thought it has been schizophrenia, autism, aspergers, schizotypal personality disorder, depression, social anxiety disorder, OCD, and pretty much every disorder you can think of), I'm wondering if I should tell someone? I don't mean telling a psychiatrist/psychologist (I have one), I mean should I tell a friend? Like I said, I've had this for over a year, so I'm not really close with anyone anymore, but I do have friends who have stuck with me through the entire time without me telling them anything is wrong with me. And I really want to tell someone what is wrong with me just so they understand why i've been acting the way I have been, but i'm scared that it will become awkward around them. The friend i want to tell lives at the house that me and my friends always go to smoke weed or drink or do drugs,, and he actually doesn't drink or smoke that much and i've known him the longest. I want to tell him so he understands why i've been acting the way i have for the past 1.5 or so years, and also so maybe he can call me out when he sees me asking for a drink or a hit at his house. I've told all my friends that I want to quit drinking and smoking, but they think it's because I got drug tested like 4 months ago (which I did) and they don't know it's because of this crazy disorder, I always end up caving in because there's no real reason to quit other than the problem in my head (which they don't know about). I think I realized what my entire problem is i'm stuck in a loop of anxiety because me doing drugs causes a lot of stress (because I live with my parents and they do NOT approve at all, unlike my friends parents), and my way to deal with stress is to do more drugs,

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So,i'm wondering, have any of you told your friends that you have depersonalization and how did they react? Did it help you, or give you even more anxiety? I want to tell my friend, but I don't know if it will make us closer, or make things even worse.
You should tell the world you have DP!!!! .... b/c maybe then they'll listen. If we all tell them!! Maybe 'they' will listen!!..!!..!!

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Yeah deff tell someone ....it was also make u feel less alone because it wil be out in the open.

Something u shoud try is a dairy, wheat and gluten free diet. I've been on one for a weeks now and my depression has vanished, my concentration and focus has improved and I am way way more present and not in my head as much. I was barely functioning just before that I was finding trouble trying to put sentences together.

I've even been forgetting about DP and thinking less about it I haven't experienced this in a long long time.
 

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I've told several friends and I've never had anyone have a problem with it. If you feel like you want then to know;then go for it.
It's kind of nice in a way. I found out a couple of my friends have had similar experiences and it felt good to have some companionship.
On the flipside, they might bring it up randomly or ask "how do you feel right now?" which can be annoying when you're trying to ignore your dp and someone else draws attention to it.
That's one of the things i'm worried about... I remember a little bit before I got dp, when I was just starting to get bad social anxiety, I told my friend about it and like a week after I was in a crowded hallway in school and I saw her and the first thing she says (really loudly) is "hey!! how's your social anxiety been!!?", she was with her friend who was the girl I liked at the time too. I guess normal people wouldn't understand why that would be so bad, but I didn't even answer and just walked away quickly.

Telling people about your depersonalization can seem like unleashing a massive secret. It feels this way because you're convinced it is a massive change/thing in life. And it is: for you. I was convinced that I must be displaying signs to those around me, but the truth was: I wasn't. It felt like people could see, perhaps, how messed up I was inside, but this was simply a fear not reality.

When I started to tell people about it I was almost let down that it was such an inconsequential event. At the end of the day if they don't have it, they can't relate one-to-one but your friends/family can understand that you are going through a challenging chapter in life.

I had been fearful I would be judged for DP. But to date, it's never been a regret sharing it.

I say go for it and share it. At the very least it may do nothing for the friendship dynamic (good or bad) but it makes you feel a little more human and more ownership/belonging in the world. I think everyone should tell a few people, whether family or friends. It's not about them even. In time you realize how it was a non-issue sharing it, and it makes you feel you belong even more in my opinion.

Good luck. It can be nerve racking at the time, but worth it ;)
"When I started to tell people about it I was almost let down that it was such an inconsequential event" when I think about telling someone that thought goes through my head hundreds of times a minute. It's like one half of my brain really wants them to think that it's a huge deal, and the other half doesn't want them to think it's a big deal because I don't want to seem like i'm seeking attention. But this post is really convincing me to tell a friend... I going to think it over this weekend, because i'm going to a party at my friends house tomorrow so I really don't want to do it this weekend.

I didn't tell a soul about my depersonalization for 4-5 years because I thought they'd think I was going mad. What a huge regret that was.. Once I finally told someone it felt like a major weight was lifted and people had taken it easier on me. I'm not saying use this as an excuse to get out of certain things, but when I was forced to work and the stress became too much, I told my dad about it. Luckily he was understanding when I told him the severity of it, and he gave me time off to work on it.

Definitely tell someone.
This post is making me want to tell someone too. I don't really want to tell my parents though exactly what it is (they think it is depression and anxiety), because I feel like they won't understand...

Yeah deff tell someone ....it was also make u feel less alone because it wil be out in the open.

Something u shoud try is a dairy, wheat and gluten free diet. I've been on one for a weeks now and my depression has vanished, my concentration and focus has improved and I am way way more present and not in my head as much. I was barely functioning just before that I was finding trouble trying to put sentences together.

I've even been forgetting about DP and thinking less about it I haven't experienced this in a long long time.
I've been thinking about changing my diet, my problem is eating too little and drugs. Might just tell my friends that I have a eating and drug problem instead of dp, because I think those are the biggest problems and they could help with them and understand them more than dp. idk, really going to think this all over this weekend.
 
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