[lostOwl]

Hi,
a bit of an unusual question but I strongly suspect this has the same origin for me as my DP episodes.. I (F) used to enjoy sex, but recently something changed. I can't shake this feeling that I should protect my body from intrusion (penetration) and even though I do get aroused the sheer fact of something penetrating my body makes me feel panicky and anxious.
I do not have any history of sexual abuse. Also don't have any pain during intercourse.
I feel like this is some form of detachment (just like DP) that makes me too aware of myself on some weird irrational level instead of just being myself/in my body and enjoying sex.
Sorry if TMI but hard to explain without explaining. Just wanted to ask here if anyone had the same experience? Did it go away? How did you cope?
Thanks!

 

[leminaseri]

Hi,
a bit of an unusual question but I strongly suspect this has the same origin for me as my DP episodes.. I (F) used to enjoy sex, but recently something changed. I can't shake this feeling that I should protect my body from intrusion (penetration) and even though I do get aroused the sheer fact of something penetrating my body makes me feel panicky and anxious.
I do not have any history of sexual abuse. Also don't have any pain during intercourse.
I feel like this is some form of detachment (just like DP) that makes me too aware of myself on some weird rational level instead of just being myself/in my body and enjoying sex.
Sorry if TMI but hard to explain without explaining. Just wanted to ask here if anyone had the same experience? Did it go away? How did you cope?
Thanks!

i mean sex feels very different when you dont have the same range of emotions and your sexual organs dont feel as they belong to you. you somehow just feel the physical satisfaction and it is nowhere the same experience as pre dp.

but what you do mean with protecting body i dont know maybe its specific to women

 

[lostOwl]

Hi,
a bit of an unusual question but I strongly suspect this has the same origin for me as my DP episodes.. I (F) used to enjoy sex, but recently something changed. I can't shake this feeling that I should protect my body from intrusion (penetration) and even though I do get aroused the sheer fact of something penetrating my body makes me feel panicky and anxious.
I do not have any history of sexual abuse. Also don't have any pain during intercourse.
I feel like this is some form of detachment (just like DP) that makes me too aware of myself on some weird rational level instead of just being myself/in my body and enjoying sex.
Sorry if TMI but hard to explain without explaining. Just wanted to ask here if anyone had the same experience? Did it go away? How did you cope?
Thanks!

i mean sex feels very different when you dont have the same range of emotions and your sexual organs dont feel as they belong to you. you somehow just feel the physical satisfaction and it is nowhere the same experience as pre dp.

but what you do mean with protecting body i dont know maybe its specific to women

yea, the way I would describe it is like, there is no new information, everyone already knows female vs male sex requires penetration, but normally as a woman you just focus on the sexual/pleasurable part of the experience and it overshadows the physical details.. but because of the detachment of DP it's like being hyper aware of the physical fact of penetration, which adds anxiety to the sex, if that makes sense?

 

[leminaseri]

yea, the way I would describe it is like, there is no new information, everyone already knows female vs male sex requires penetration, but normally as a woman you just focus on the sexual/pleasurable part of the experience and it overshadows the physical details.. but because of the detachment of DP it's like being hyper aware of the physical fact of penetration, which adds anxiety to the sex, if that makes sense?

got it

 

[Trith]

i mean sex feels very different when you dont have the same range of emotions and your sexual organs dont feel as they belong to you. you somehow just feel the physical satisfaction and it is nowhere the same experience as pre dp.

but what you do mean with protecting body i dont know maybe its specific to women

I realize I never had sex before having DR. I don't even know what it could feel like... The good thing is that I have more things to discover if I recover.

 

[Weirdo25]

Hi,
a bit of an unusual question but I strongly suspect this has the same origin for me as my DP episodes.. I (F) used to enjoy sex, but recently something changed. I can't shake this feeling that I should protect my body from intrusion (penetration) and even though I do get aroused the sheer fact of something penetrating my body makes me feel panicky and anxious.
I do not have any history of sexual abuse. Also don't have any pain during intercourse.
I feel like this is some form of detachment (just like DP) that makes me too aware of myself on some weird irrational level instead of just being myself/in my body and enjoying sex.
Sorry if TMI but hard to explain without explaining. Just wanted to ask here if anyone had the same experience? Did it go away? How did you cope?
Thanks!

huh-

 

[leminaseri]

I realize I never had sex before having DR. I don't even know what it could feel like... The good thing is that I have more things to discover if I recover.

i mean there are not that many differences tbh. it is still the physical attraction what is central but pre dp the excitement and the anticipation were much much stronger

 

[NoDevils]

I realize I never had sex before having DR. I don't even know what it could feel like... The good thing is that I have more things to discover if I recover.

I don't think mild depersonalization is a strong determining factor of whether or not sex is good.

Hi,
a bit of an unusual question but I strongly suspect this has the same origin for me as my DP episodes.. I (F) used to enjoy sex, but recently something changed. I can't shake this feeling that I should protect my body from intrusion (penetration) and even though I do get aroused the sheer fact of something penetrating my body makes me feel panicky and anxious.
I do not have any history of sexual abuse. Also don't have any pain during intercourse.
I feel like this is some form of detachment (just like DP) that makes me too aware of myself on some weird irrational level instead of just being myself/in my body and enjoying sex.
Sorry if TMI but hard to explain without explaining. Just wanted to ask here if anyone had the same experience? Did it go away? How did you cope?
Thanks!

If you don't have a history of sexual abuse this just sounds like anxiety to me.

 

[Trith]

I don't think mild depersonalization is a strong determining factor of whether or not sex is good.

Oh no, that means.... 😆
But I will be content with just more emotional connection with people.

 

[Englander225]

I realize I never had sex before having DR. I don't even know what it could feel like... The good thing is that I have more things to discover if I recover.

Same. Never really enjoyed sex much. It's always been as empty an experience as any other. Sometimes even anxiety-provoking because I feel robotic and awkward and then self-conscious about it.

 

[Trith]

Same. Never really enjoyed sex much. It's always been as empty an experience as any other. Sometimes even anxiety-provoking because I feel robotic and awkward and then self-conscious about it.

On the other hand I also think this is normal and that sex is also overrated. (Potential) sex and romantic relationships were really important for me for years, and for some years now I have kind of given up on it, given I'm near 40 and my communication skills always make it so hard to go to the intimacy point, plus the self consciousness of DPDR, and the opposite sex doesn't seem to have that patience and now neither do I. Also I think my DPDR kind of kills genuine and deep connection. If I find a partner I will be very happy about it but I won't spend any more useless energy on that, and I'm happy my future is in my hands and not in the hands of some potential future relationship that never comes.