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Hello,

Has anybody had severe cognitive impairments, as a result of this. I mean to the point where simple memory is obliterated, can't do the most basic calculations and so on. I feel literally stupid. To put it in context, before my issues in 2015, my old professor advised me to think about taking his job one day. And he is a TOP scientist.

It would mean alot to me if anybody could reply and let me know what made them better.

thank you x
 

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Currently going through the same issue.

I started college about 3 months ago and have been doing great ever since. In my writing class, the teacher had asked me to have my research paper published in the school's magazine. However, recently, my anxiety and unreality flared up to a point where I'm spelling basic words wrong.

Honestly, anxiety can inhibit a lot, especially if you're obsessing over it. Our brain isn't using it's attention properly because we're always dedicating a lot of it to our ailments, unreality, and anxiety. So, I'm right there with you. It sucks because I feel like I have so much potential, but this damn anxiety / unreality is a huge hurdle for me right now.
 

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it seems to me that you have become 'all mind' fleeing from an emotion that you did not dare to face. Just to make it it a simple as possble: f or a moment just imagine what happens when you become so amazingly afraid of an emotion? what would you do?? How would you react?? Wel... you would probably run as far away from it as possible. And well... so this is how we respond as dp-ers as well.. for us dp-ers the 'mind' is as far as we can gert from out emotions. Because it's the opposite direction. You would in danger never take a right turn or a left turn, you would run in a straight line away from the danger, right? And so now you are in a safe place away from that emotion and it makes you feel like you are 'all mind'. The part where it becomes a problem is knowing that in order to function we really do need emotions and feelings.... fro example if we have a contact we need empathy and sympathy and we need to understand... that last bit requires a lot of emotion. If subconciously we decided to run away from emotion and shut down that part altogether (what is very typical of dp) we willl have trouble with ven the most basic talks, because with every interaction with humans in life we absolutely need emotions. Very very true. You shut that part down because probable a trauma. Period. My opinion btw.. And so without the ability to identify or get on thesame frequency with people (name it empathy or sympathy - and you need that in your study and converstations and everyday contacts with people) you would feel numb and clueless because you can fysycally 'hear' but not truly 'understand'. Because to really and truly understand anoither person or follow a class, you need your feelings to work properly. And this the whole clue of my post, that you appartently had a trauma... shut down your feelings and tried to live without any feelings.

And you discovered that it causes alll sorts of problems and symptoms... this is what is called dp-disporder. It's a fancy name that in my opinion simply refers to us trying without the emotional feedback. :) And we underestimate how importnat that emotional feedback is is in daily life, so it's no surprise we struggle with the most basic tasks! :) Ofcourse it'd logical, we just shut down one of the most important senses that we need to function. Ans the key question is to ask yourself when you shot down an emotion, what emotion was that, what happened, and what do do about it?
 

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Sorry to hear about you other guys.

Has anything helped you? Or any meds?

Do you think it is jut severe anxiety-related? Or something else.....
 

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i know how that feels man.im currently studying to get into college and i honestly cant understand anything the teacher is trying to explain,i have a hard time understanding what i read or listen to unless i give 100% of my attention to it.,and thats not always easy.my memory is also bad.i forget what happens in class or what homework we had or what subject we were doing.its really horrible but im trying to find some answers.this is my first post on this site been lurking for 1.5 years now and thats how long ive had dp for.
 

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Hello everyone, i haven't post here in a while but now i feel the need to do it just to say that you nailed it with this post Vincent ! At least in my case, i realised lately that i've been able to 'operate' mentally, i worked that part to not be blank when i do or say things to people while thinking all this time that i was not really myself and felt like a robot (not a nice feeling to have). I think anyway that in our state, it's hard to know when you are really yourself, if you know what i mean.

Just yesterday, i met a neighbour on the street and i didn't know how to behave, i felt cold and emotionless, just not myself and i thought that it was weird, fucked up even. And now that i've read your post Vincent, i realised that it was exactly my problem.

I totally blocked my emotions and feelings for a long time and need them to be myself again. I don't know exactly how to do that but i'll concentrate on feeling and expressing again from now on. You helped me so thank you Vincent ;-)
 

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My DP started almost three years ago, but the severe cognitive impairment didn't hit until about a year and a half in. So I've been dealing with it for about 18 months now, and nothing has helped me so far. It was pretty much an overnight thing, I remember from one day to the next not being able to recall things well or do anything that required planning or multiple steps. Granted it came at the tail end of my battle with alcoholism (I quit drinking when the impairment started). But with it came the most crazy anxiety. I'm not sure if that was part of the impairment itself or if it was my own reaction to the impairment, as I remember panicking about it a hell of a lot in the beginning. I got all crazy with trying remedies to fix it. Eating walnuts and salmon all day long in hopes of improving my brain function, stuff like that, lol. Since then I haven't really noticed any improvement along the way. I just kind of deal with it now. But it's not fun at all, and difficult to accept it as part of daily life. I struggle a great deal when it comes to focusing on conversations, TV shows/movies, and other basic day to day things. I can't count the number of times someone will tell me a story, and by the end of it, I won't remember who the story was about. I'll be like "and who is this?" at the end. It's crazy to think the brain can be this impaired without it being anything serious.

Overall I feel it makes DP an extra lonely place to be. When it comes to impairment like this, there's invariably a lack of understanding from those around you, since for a lot of people it seems to be Alzheimer's or nothing. Shoulder-shrugging from the doctors and psychs. Websites and clickbait ads with empty promises of curing your brain fog and cognitive impairment if you'll just type in your credit card details. Really feels like one fucking cruel joke of a world sometimes.
 

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I'm with you 100 per cent. If you knew my story as well, you would see how cruel this life can be. Your last paragraph summed it up well.
 

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Is this all caused by anxiety?

The big question is, can this be reversed? Or treated? I have trouble accessing simple memories. I am willing to try different things, because this is terrible. I wanted to be an academic. Now I would struggle to do the most simple job.
 

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Is this all caused by anxiety?

The big question is, can this be reversed? Or treated? I have trouble accessing simple memories. I am willing to try different things, because this is terrible. I wanted to be an academic. Now I would struggle to do the most simple job.
Honestly, I believe anxiety can make simple brain functions struggle.

Our brains are working overtime because we have all of these fears that we have to pay attention to. In other words, our minds are in another place and that sharpness you get without anxiety isn't as great as it could be. For me, I have troubles writing how I used to. I spell things out phonetically now; for example, I spelled once like wonce. Things like that seem to be a byproduct of an overworked, exhausted, and tired mind - doubly so, if you have perpetual anxiety.

I'd say, lowering anxiety and finding a way to cope obsessive thoughts, unreality, and anxiety is a key factor in lowering it. Although, I think that's already obvious - and also easier said than done.
 

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Yes, and because my DP started after an isolated episode of weed/alcohol use I fear that I have permanent brain damage. I've done all the medical tests (MRI, EEG etc) to confirm that my brain is in deed fine but I feel like brain damage is the only possible cause to explain this ... It's so devastating. I would never have thought it possible for something like this to happen to a person but it happened to me and it's entirely my fault.
 

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It sounds like you can still write sentences....mine is 10x worse than that. It literally feels like my head is stuffed, and made out of cotton wool.

There again, I don't know how bad your life is, but my anxiety and obsessive thoughts are through the roof. I think if it got worse I would die. You may have seen my story, that I have a really severe sex addiction and I get cravings and obsessive thoughts for that. I am waiting for a medication to take that down - assuming they will try a medication to reduce compulsive behaviour! I think that should really help things ALOT.

Like right now, my head feels like it will never be the old way it was again...but let's see. I have my Pregabalin medication right now. I am scared that there will be permanent neurochemical changes that mean I will never be as sharp, intelligent etc. What do people think about that?
 

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It sounds like you can still write sentences....mine is 10x worse than that. It literally feels like my head is stuffed, and made out of cotton wool.
I struggle to write sentences still.

I have to consistently double-back and make sure that everything is organized. Typically, I spell words wrong or completely jumble a sentence into an incomprehensible mess. I get that feeling in my head too, but it's more of a constant fog. Behind that fog is someone that can articulate well, but the anxiety continues to cloud that judgement until I turn into someone that can't do basic forms of anything. This is what I think ends up happening to people that suffer from constant, perpetual anxiety. The chemicals that run through your body from the fight-or-flight response, as well as the obsessive thoughts that are almost co-morbid with that stress, makes the brain weak.

Although, I don't believe that anxiety would make your brain digress to a point where you actually backpedal from your previous point of intelligence.
 

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I've had a lot of problems with this, but I have also had times when it wasn't as bad. It might be more related to depression for me though, because I feel like bupropion helped with this, as well as with some depressive symptoms. However, it did not help with DP/DR. (I think brain fog and depersonalization are even listed as possible side effects?) This last year it has gotten worse again, and I'm still on bupropion. It seems it might be getting better lately though. Not gradually. It's like the impairments are either on or off, and lately they've been off more often. So for me at least it is NOT a direct loss of intelligence, it's just about having access to it. It's like it's behind a wall. The wall can change in texture and solidity, but even if it's see-through and elastic, you still won't be able to touch what's behind it until you remove it.
 

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Do you have the blank/empty mind version of DP? There are quite a few threads on here about it.

How are your cognitive abilities now? Mine are fucked, and I cannot access or have my previous level of free-flowing intelligence.

I do not want to live like this, but at 24, I do NOT want to die. I want a solution and I want to share it if I find it. What supplements or medications could be effective for this? What have people found to be good?

There has to be hope...
 

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Just thought i'd pop in and say i was exactly at that place, where i couldn't even form sentences. Sitting in front of the computer and type sentences, let alone work on my bachelor on IT (programming C, java etc..) was next to, if not actually impossible, and pretty much everytime i sat down and tried to do some work, i was left in a traumatic state just staring at the screen for a solid 10 minutes without achieving ANYTHING. It was actually a traumatizing feeling to stare helpless at the screen, unable to do shit, while knowing my education/future was literally flying out the window..........

Thank god i'm in a better place today where i can at least do basic stuff and make progress. Take it from me, you cna get your cognitive abilities back! :)
 
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