I mean, look at the show My Two Dads. It only lasted what, 2 seasons?
Ah, there was a discussion about this before, and I recall adding another point. Adoption. There are MANY, MANY children who have NO families. Hetero families often adopt children from other countries. There are many children in the US who are languishing in foster homes or worse, being subjected to abuse. Some are ill, some have AIDS.
Many gay couples want to adopt. These children can and do benefit from a family, regardless if it is made up of 2 men or two women. It all depends on the quality of the family.
I saw a documentary some years back of a gay couple. A male nurse, and a guy who was a businessman. They had been together for years. The male nurse worked in a pediatric AIDS ward. He brought one baby home as no one wanted him. Then another. I think in all these two men took in 5 kids with various disabilities or who weren't wanted. The doctors there were thrilled!
They raised these kids (ah, here's an interesting point too, some of the kids were black, the men were caucasion -- there's another hornet's nest .. and there were girls and boys) .... well they did a beautiful job. I think they had the kids for 10 years or more. One kid was a teen ready for college. The nurse worked, the businessman became a house husband... forget which.
At any rate, they were able to provide superior health care for these children with AIDS or HIV. Superior schooling, and most important a loving family. As gimpy says, a CIVIL UNION makes having a family more "legitimate." Also, in theory it is easier to get married than it is to get divorced. You want to think ahead before you dive in. There has to be committment there.
I think this was a legal case in Florida. At any rate, the law in Florida prohibits adoptions of AIDS babies by anyone other than a hetero married couple. I think I have this all wrong, but this is sort of the scenario. So these children, who had been raised by the same loving parents for 10 years were going to be removed from the home.
The entire group was devastated. The children didn't "become gay" and one young boy had been AIDS free though HIV positive because of the care he received.
They fought this in the Fla. courts to no avail, and the documentary ended with their all moving to Oregon. At the time the legal wrangling continued. Fortunately the older children became adults, but there was a constant threat that the younger kids would be taken away from the only loving home they knew. This was on PBS -- Frontline. Does anyone recall?
Another reason I am very pro kids being raised by gays if the family is a good one
. There are so many unwanted children, abused in foster care, moving from unstable home to unstable home.
I'd rather be adopted by a loving gay couple.
And hey, kids get ribbed in school for everything.
In my private school, several kids had no televisions in the house. Some parents today would say, "How do the kids tolerate not having a television, and how can they explain this to their friends." For kids, this isn't always an issue, and if it is, it's up to any good parent to deal with this.
Good parenting is the key. It has been done by gays and heteros and it has been botched by both.
Would you rather be abandoned or loved? That's what matters.