Honestly, I found that DPDR and serious relationships are a poor mix. Sadly, when I had my breakdown a few years ago I had to end my relationship of 4 years a few months after as the strain was too much. To this day, I don't know if I just fell out of love with her, or if it was anxiety robbing me of my capacity to feel although I feel it was the former. But either way there was nothing left, she was angry with me a lot because I wasn't talking much or asking about her day, low sex drive. And in return I felt pissed off that she was laying all this stuff on me when I was critically unwell. I was just an anxiety ridden shell who couldn't match the expectations of my partner and the requirements of a relationship. I absolutely HAD to think of myself, and ending It was the right thing to do. That said, when I became a little better I started seeing another woman and the casual nature of it, and with no demands or pressure, suited me right down. It was perfect for dp recovery and just the right amount of distraction, and she was also incredibly hot, lol. I've been Mr. casual ever since and that was years ago now, absolute commitment-phobe because of it all. I have kind of a paranoia that if I enter into a relationship like that again then the DP numb side of me will just ruin it all. I wish your relationship all the best, but don't be surprised if it goes a little south. This is just life sometimes, unfortunately.