[person3]

When I was active on this board, I don't think any of the members at that time committed suicide.

Now, I've heard of suicides.

Oh for **** sake, the worst part about this is DP is so curable! I mean i can't understand suicide in the case of severe financial loss, terminal disease or loss of something else, but I REALLY can't understand suicide over having DP!

Get a grip! You are in despair because you think:
This is permanent
This is causing you to miss the best years of your life
You feel you are too far from yourself to return

I'm telling you from experience it's so untrue! You have to believe me on this! I wish I could prove it to you, that one day you will laugh in utter disbelief that dp took you down that far.

You think your life is going to suck from now on.

When you recover you will have a life beyond your wildest dreams. Your WILDEST dreams.

You despair because you think there is no end in sight or you don't know WHEN it's going to be. There is an end! You don't know what you have going for you. If you even knew... Oh god, if you knew!

Don't give up! This is curable!

Practice gratitude for what you do have. Your limbs. Your eyes. Your family. Your brains. Your sanity (yes, you have it). Your citizenship in a good nation. Especially you Americans. Oh god if you knew what you have.

And believe me you are not missing out as much as you think. To the 16 year old: I got DP when I was 19. So I was one of those people you were jealous of, one of those 16 year olds just living it up. Well - I wasn't. I didn't have dp but insure had some other sources of pain. You don't know what people are going through. I remember a girl i was so jealous of. Stick thin. Gorgeous. Popular. Everything. She blew her brains out. Idiot. So see, not everyone is living it up.

When you recover though, you will be living it up in a way no one around you will know how to do, because you will be grateful.

"Thank you God for the times that are difficult for me, for only being in darkness can one appreciate the light" (paraphrased from Lazer Brody's prayer of gratitude)

 

[Nadosa]

I wish I could live it up. But no, after DP my mind has become even more toxic/destructive, my life perception is a total blurr. How jealous I am of the people living a worry-freer life after DP. I missed the train to a better life somehow and accidentally took the one to hell.

 

[person3]

I hear you, believe me. You did not miss te train. Hang in there. It will happen.

 

[Nadosa]

Thank you.

 

[Nadosa]

By the way, have you recoverd back then?

 

[Pondererer]

you know, i usually kind of frown upon these type of posts, because they are too vague and not grounded in the severity of the situation. But this was a good one, well said.

Was it really true that story of the girl who blew her brains out?

Also what is it with people and this "America is the greatest country blabla bla". I'm from Norway, Scandinavia. We look at you guys the same way we look at third world countries, a place so crazy it's good we don't live there.

 

[TheGolfer]

Thanks for your post! And I agree DP is curable because I too am proof that it can go away and you can completely forget about it. Only thing you have to do once you forget about it is not make the same mistakes that caused DP in the first place!

 

[person3]

Nadosa- I have been Dp free for years.

Ponderer- thanks. I am glad you see that I understand the severity of dp. I went through the worst. So bad that there are months I don't remember what happened. I know how painful it is. I would slam my head into concrete walls, hoping I could wake my brain up. And that was on a better day. People would try to minimize my pain and it was so hurtful of them.

I'm hoping that BECAUSE I know how bad DP is, that people will believe me when I say it's so curable and there is so much hope.

 

[person3]

Oh and yes the story about the girl was true. Her name was Natasha. I think it was tenth grade.

And maybe you're right about Norway! I hear it's amazing there.

 

[Pondererer]

Oh and yes the story about the girl was true. Her name was Natasha. I think it was tenth grade.

And maybe you're right about Norway! I hear it's amazing there.

Wow it's incomprehensible to think about.

Yupp it's pretty great over here

 

[rob35235]

I recovered and then recently relapsed after 3-4 good years. I can only assume i'll recover again.

 

[Chicane]

Well, I wouldn't judge those who commit suicide. There was no way out - in their view. They had exhausted all options - in their view. It's easy to sit here and say why someone shouldn't have done something, but that's a bit nonsensical in the context of someone else's life. I often hear the cliche "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" - but if you've had debilitating DP for years (or any other problem really) with no clear idea on how to move forward or any sign of improvement, you are likely to consider more drastic measures.

Suicide is very rarely an impulsive or lightly undertaken act. I would wager that of those who died from it, the vast majority weighed it all up over the course of some time. And honestly, what on earth does something like a person's country of citizenship have to do with their quality of life, experience of reality, or enjoyment of the world? If you are miserable, suffering, and not functioning well over a long period of time, it's irrelevant whether you are a millionaire in America or a fruit vendor in Syria. Yes, the DP may eventually go away, but there are also those who have had DP for decades. If it is particularly severe over an extended period of time, I would say you're entitled to make your own decisions as to how you proceed in life - or not.

I'm not advocating suicide. But we're only human, and we have a finite limit as far as coping resources go. Once the pain outweighs it and you can't find a way to improve your situation, anything can happen.

 

[lilnewk]

I️ want to live and feel so bad, I️ don’t want to die AT ALL, I️ loved life but since this has been back I️ keep getting thoughts about killing myself and I️ can’t help it. I️ have beat this before but it took so long the first time and I️ still have no idea how. I️ did it. I️ also have a baby on the way and I️ can’t take care of a baby like this.

 

[Alan]

Get a grip! You are in despair because you think:
This is permanent
This is causing you to miss the best years of your life
You feel you are too far from yourself to return

I'm sick of threads like this, and I can already see it beginning to enter a downward spiral.

You may think you know why others are in despair but you really have no idea what other people are going through and have no right to be so dismissive of the suffering of other people.

So you've come out the other side and you can see the light and that's great, but others are still struggling and it doesn't seem as clear cut to them. Threads like this are unhelpful.

Post encouragement by all means, but not in terms of belittling other members.

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