We call people or conditions "hot" refering to sex. High "temperature" means a person with tention to have more than a number of relationships which is a (subjective) standard that the society (which is almost a depressing mechanism in favour of practical issues from past centuries and cultural preventions such as puritanism) accepts as "normal". Low "temperature" means the oposite, less tention to have sex.
Sex is natural, puratism is a preversion.
Each person has it's own "temperature". It is not good or bad, is just is
. When you get married --no, let me correct that-- when you make a family (decide to have children, that's the crusial landmark of a relationship) you must find a man with the same "temperature" as yours or else you will both be unhappy.
This gives me a place to step and make the question: how many relationships (or one-night stands) would you like to have? Would you mind if your mate had the same? What if he had more? And what about less?
I wouldn't mind if my girl had as many sexual mates as she wanted no matter if they were more, less or the same number with me, as long as she doesn't mind that I (hopefully, "will have") had as many as I had. However, since she had many partners, then she changes relationships quickly. Is this what I want? A "quick" relationship? Or she just haven't found who she wants? But in any case, I will not tolerate having a parallel relationship.
People (men and women) think today that men are more sexual than women. It is not so. It's just that men might (repeat might) think sex beafore other things involved in a relationship. In my opinion it only
a social leftover.
Due to social "standards" (put a lot negetive meaning to the word 'standards'), women believe that "all that (some) men want is sex". Wrong. The difference is that usually (repeat, usually) it's easier for men to seperate love from sex. When they have only sex with a woman, it's because they prefer to keep their emotions with someone else. Or they are too afraid of her not respond on their feelings (and it's wrong not to try).
Men are more tender than women, more emotional. Look at older ages, at the age of 60 and 70. I haven't seen a man "throughing away" his wife off the house because he doesn't care anymore. But I have seen many women do that. Different society may be, I don't know what's happening outside this country.
And I think that a relationship can start right away with sex. Why not? But it cannot stay there. It never does. Want an example? Check Une liaison pornographique
(keep in mind that this is an example, not a proof/argument). Some people say they need to have a good meeting with someone in order to have sex with, I say that it depends on the (emotional) moment and the people. Also, how fast can you meet a person depends on how open she/he is and how fast can you locate and comprehend elements on her/him.
It is possible that this is not what you actually want (taking as example SleepingBeauty's post). Maybe you feel repressed, sometimes is comes from society or family (personal experience about repressed and sex).
Then again - men also might view a woman who has had a lot of experience as desirable because, simply, a lot of other men have found her desirable.
Single standard for that one. A friend wears a wedding ring. He noticed an amazing 40% increase on successful flits. And that, as a fact is so LAME!
People think that just because a person has been choosen by someone else, he/she has something worthy. Wrong. Depends on the compromises that person is willing to make in his/her relationships. "Rest assured, don't examine", a universal fact for human species. Could it be a coping mechanism?
A (subconscious?) hint that men are calumniating/defame/corrupting women?
Like someone said earlier, the one nightstand thing to me says youre easy and I personally would want a girl that is not easy....
Easy. So? You mean non-selective?
the girl everyone wants but could not take it farther then first base type of girl.
You mean that then you have managed a feat?
Dont get me wrong, I get tempted to sleep with the first girl that rubs up on me, last night for example was a late night, and uh....lets just say I turned a girl down cause I felt it was too soon to get sexual with her.
When you know it's not soon?
Anyway, one night stands, serious realtionships, for me the magic numbers are 3-5 is acceptable.
Why 3-5 and not 2-4 or 4-6?
THE ANSWER IS YES IT DOES MATTER IF YOURE A WHORE LOL!
I am hearing this a lot. Wrong. Whore is a woman who is having sex for money (or another benefit/trade-in). She never spoke about money.
That's puritanism. Sorry, this is what I think.
And a little addition. Sometimes we want loving sex, sometimes we want "rought" sex, sometimes fluctuations between those two. It's all normal.