[ret]

What did you first start to notice when you started to get better?

Thanks in advance for any replies.

 

[qbsbrown]

my derealization started to fade. Things in the environment no longer seemed weird or odd.

 

[Sojourner]

I had no more interest in comparing how I felt with how others felt.

 

[Monkeydust]

I started to notice I was getting better when I stopped caring about when I got better.

 

[ret]

Ok, so was getting better a slow process or was it quite quick?

 

[ret]

I've noticed I've able to think more deeply as of late, I'm hoping that's a good sign, my dr has also improved.

 

[ShyTiger]

I was going to post a question under the same title! But different question. Anyway i first noticed small pockets of feeling connected. It was a slow process with back and forward steps. I have to say dr was also the first to go and then the dp. It looks like a good sign reticent with the dr not being as strong.

 

[ret]

are you being a smartass sojourner, if so why bother posting?

 

[Martinelv]

Reticent - in answer to your question, in my case (and by the looks of it - with most other recoverees too) recovery from DR/DP is a slow process. It kind of 'fades away', slowly, and you wake up one day and realise you haven't worried about it for ages. It is the relentless focus on the DR/DP that disappears, and with it, the DR/DP itself. There are ups and downs of course, but once you're set on the path out of this hell then there usually isn't any turning back.

 

[ret]

Thanks for your reply martin. So you just wake up one day and realise you haven't thought about it? You don't feel completely better?

 

[Martinelv]

There wasn't one single occassion when I thought, 'hey - the DR is gone'. It was more of a gradual process, with the DR lessening over a period of time. So perhaps, after a month, I thought..'Hmm...don't seem to be worry so much, things don't feel so weird'..and then a month after that...'Hmmm, I can't remember the last time I felt really freaked out'...and then perhaps a few months after that, standing in a pub with my mates having a great laugh, realising that I 'had returned'. I hadn't worried about DR, at all, for ages.

Once the 'habit of reality' returns, it's a piece of piss - because it is our natural state. DR/DP is NOT our natural state. So once we're 'back', much like you don't forget how to ride a bike even after years of not riding, you never forget how to live. And then you'll realise that the DR/DP is a creature that has to feed on fear and anxiety, simply to exist, and once that's gone it's dead and buried.

 

[ret]

Great post. Appreciated by not only me but probably by a lot of other people as well.

 

[nemesis]

Martins right. I'm beginning to get my own anxiety under control and I can honestly say that whatever DP is, it's using anxiety as its fuel.

 

[Da'Burgh]

Agreed Martin! That's great news for me.

 

[Sojourner]

Thanks for your reply martin. So you just wake up one day and realise you haven't thought about it? You don't feel completely better?

Seems Monkeydust had a thought similar to mine... :lol:

 

[Sojourner]

Look, if the symptom is OVERTHINKING, why do you think that THINKING SOME MORE about what is happening is going to get you out of it?

One definition of insanity is "doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result".

You will know you are better when you stop thinking about it and stop checking entirely, which you are still doing, in case you are asleep or something and really ARE a zombie and don't know what you're doing on this forum.

 

[ret]

Thanks for your reply martin. So you just wake up one day and realise you haven't thought about it? You don't feel completely better?

Seems Monkeydust had a thought similar to mine... :lol:

How convienient.

 

[ret]

Look, if the symptom is OVERTHINKING, why do you think that THINKING SOME MORE about what is happening is going to get you out of it?

One definition of insanity is "doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result".

You will know you are better when you stop thinking about it and stop checking entirely, which you are still doing, in case you are asleep or something and really ARE a zombie and don't know what you're doing on this forum.

Such a helpful reply sojourner why do you even bother? Not sure if you've got the right thread beacuse i don't see where I said I thought was better. Having said that i spose if speaking to people in a condescending manner for absolutely no reason makes you feel better about yourself, then I'm all for it.

 

[Sojourner]

"Such a helpful reply sojourner why do you even bother? Not sure if you've got the right thread beacuse i don't see where I said I thought was better."

The above is very hard to parse. You left out some words. However, your original post to this thread was the following:

"What did you first start to notice when you started to get better?"

I am sorry you feel my tone is condescending. Perhaps your attacking me prepared you to read anything I wrote as condescending. And it's not "convenient" that Monkeydust had a similar idea to mine, as you called it. It's just a fact.

 

[ret]

I'm not the only one who "feels" they're condescending. Just cos you say something isn't something doesn't make it reality.

"What did you first start to notice when you started to get better?"

How do you make that I was feeling better from that?

I think one of the definitions of insanity is 'magical thinking'. Sorry I guess logic is one of my strong points. Oh dear looks like your condescening tone is rubbing off on me.