Please help me help my daughter!

3887 Views 12 Replies 4 Participants Last post by LISA NICHOLS, Oct 13, 2005

Discussion Starter · Sep 18, 2005

I am a single mom whose 13-year-old daughter was recently diagnosed with DP/DR. How do I help her through her episodes? The more I try to help sometimes the more upset she gets but I just can't sit back and watch her...she breaks my heart because she gets so scared. So afraid she isn't going to "come back." I've tried giving her distractions, Friends DVD's, magazines, anything that isn't scary or a possible trigger. She takes Seroquel and Clonodine and new doc wants to start her on Buspar and Ativan for anxiety. Also told by her therapist my girl has the worst case of PTSD she has ever seen.

I try to reassure her that each episode will pass but lately she just wants me to leave her alone. I'm not sure when she's DR/DPing if she knows if I'm real or not!?

If anyone has ANY suggestions, PLEASE write. She's already been hospitalized three times. I know her condition was brought on by a combination of severe childhood trauma, (at 1st they said she had DID), PTSD, stress, and probably from smoking pot last fall. She had a bad trip and begged to be tested for anything it could have been laced with (the results were negative).

Is paranoia a part of this or a secondary condition? She ALWAYS asks me and her teachers if we're mad...things like that. Every doctor tells me something different. I am desperate and would appreciate any words of wisdom, experience...Thank you!

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LISA NICHOLS

· #3 · Sep 22, 2005

AS A LONG TERM SUFFERER MYSELF (STARTED HAVING THEM AT 6) my parents didnt have a clue as to what was wrong with me and even the doctors over looked it so u are lucky to have all this information about dp/dr really
alot of it i found to help would be distraction so when she is going through a attack distract her as much as possible and without her realising her body and mind will relax and her " normal " feeling will return she will have continuous episodes but your daughter needs to find her own way of relaxing i use to read grab a mag anything to distract myself and when i were really bad go for walks
i wish u and your daughter all the best i still suffer regulary from these weird attacks and if you ever need anyone to talk to first hand ( as people say u dont know what its like till u go through it yourself and i have so pm me or e.mail me xxxx
love to you both xxx

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LISA NICHOLS

· #5 · Sep 22, 2005

hey mum :lol: lol he he dont know ur name...... banstead yeah thats up the road 2 me xx
well yeah i have family but like i said its only been very very recent that the doctors have finally diagnosed dp/dr ( last couple of months) so you can imagine how petrifying my life was.. my dad has bought me this comp only 2 weeks ago to try and help me as i had noone near to support me and this is where i have found this site
i am so relieved to find im not going mad believe me but you know what your daughter is very lucky she has all this information now and help from a very good doctor i had neither and my life has wasted away your daughter is still young and i believe she will have an amazing improvement with this added support xxx

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LISA NICHOLS

· #7 · Oct 8, 2005

I WAS TOLD BY MY DOCTOR THERE IS NO CURE BUT YOU CAN OVER COME THE INTENSE FEELINGS AND LEARN TO COPE I DONT AGREE WITH THE DOCTOR AS I FEEL NORMAL NOW COMPARED TO YEARS AGO... ALTHOUGH I STILL HAVE THE DP/DR ITS FEW AND FAR BETWEEN RATHER THEN ALL THE TIME NOW!!!!

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LISA NICHOLS

· #11 · Oct 12, 2005

awwwwwwwww im so happy for you i hope your daughter continous to get better its not going to be easy i know but im sure you will get there in the end!! goodluck and god bless you both xxxxxxxxxxx

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LISA NICHOLS

· #13 · Oct 13, 2005

awwwwwwwww fantastic....
yeah your daughters completly switched off hasnt she bless her i did too and then it takes a while to find yourself again because you sort of lose your identity....

but you'v got the ball rolling now which is the main thing, i really do hope n wish she improves and you do make that flight to the uk..

hey maybe we can even meet up for a drink? well my dp/dr is bad in social situations but i will force myself as its you!!! :wink:

anyway you take care luv n hugs to both you and your daughter !!!

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