[rob]

I am a perfectionist.

As I have not been guaranteed a perfect life I have detached myself from life.

rob

 

[Guest]

was a former perfectionsit....YOU mucst realize that no one is ever perfect. it is such a cliche' but it is the hard truth. strive to be the greatest person you can, but dont ocd over it. ar you will never LIVE you will be living to please the "BEAST"( your perfectionism) i feel for you..it is SUCH a hard thing do dezl with because it affects everything and i mean everything you do and say. mail me sometime if you want to talk. maybe i can help? good luck

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[sleepingbeauty]

has anyone ever seen a japanese persons garden? i live in hawaii so there are alot of them here.. and i must say they are just about near perfect. but my dad rivals them all. and he is far from japanese. hes an alcoholic vietnam combat vet with loads of tattoos. youd think he was a lazy bastard that gets off on cat calling old ladies and passing out in the front yard. quite the contrary. he obsesses over ever single blade of grass. every morning hes out there with the blowjobber even though only 10 leaves have fallen during the night. this is the same guy that would cut up beautiful oil paintings that he spent entire weeks on cause 'its not perfect enough'.

 

[Guest]

You're from the islands?.. What island? Hawaii > *. Chicken katsu for life.

eDfGr33n
"chicken katsu bentos w/ teri beef"

 

[Dreamer]

I am also a perfectionist. Not as much as I was as a child. It has always inhibited me, my spontentaeity, my creativity, but it has given me the discipline to accomplish things I never believed I could accomplish.

For me it is a way to "control" chaos -- which was my dysfunctional family upbringing, constant chaos, verbal abuse, etc. The perfectionism has been referred to in my case as something of a personality disorder in its own right. It is MUCH better than in my childhood in terms of behavior, i.e. trying to get an A+ in all my courses which was impossible. Focusing on the trees instead of the forest, details instead of the bigger picture.

I have always felt I have to win the Pulitzer Prize or I am nothing. I am slowly starting to realize and accept that is ridiculous and not a normal way to live. It is immobilizing.

It is taking a long time in DBT/CBT to work on this. I AM making some progress, but I believe this is so conditioned in me, an adaptation gone bad, that I will have it to some degree my whole life.

The pits, that's for certain.

By the way, I'm in the middle of a blizzard. It's gorgeous, but I can't get out of my apartment parking lot, and it would be deadly to do so. Missed a funeral service today as a result. I am very bummed. For a very close friend who committed suicide.

Just had to say that, as I wanted the closure damnit. Don't know when it will be rescheduled.

 

[Guest]

dreamer- so sorry about your friend. Hope the snow melts soon enough.
hang in there