Everyone strives to fit in, to belong, to be accepted and to gain approval. When we see others not approving, we are often compelled and driven to get them to like us not realizing who we are dealing with and how much of a lost cause this pursuit truly is. A harsh reality I've come across is when people are jealous or otherwise narcissistic, they will never be on your side for any matter and will refuse to be anything other than condescending and nasty to you. As soon as I sense that hostility,my first instinct is to try to kill them with kindness but I now know better. I don't even bother wasting my time trying to insult them back, I simply apply indifference.