lately I’ve been feeling like everyone around me is as unreal as everything else. Even my mum and dad. I know they’re there but they feel so distant. How do you deal with this? At this point I spend more time alone because it’s freaky how the people I know are so unfamiliar and distant, which makes it worse. Does anyone have any tips on how to stop feeling this way?
people around me feel so far away
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No, that is a part of derealisation aspect in depersonalization that everything and everyone feels unfamilar, even yourself. The reason nobody have given you a reply how to deal with it is because there are no such formal answer to that other than try to accept it, ignore it so you avoid going into an obsessive circle that reproduces.
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I totally understand what you are going through. This is something that plagued and consumed me at the beginning of my depersonalization. Don't feel alone in this, and try to remember that despite the change in feeling and perception you have towards your family and loved ones, you will always love them, that has not changed, this is just a feeling, you might have to get used to it before it gets better for you. Hope this helps.
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I studied electronics and worked on some complex systems. CRT TV systems were pretty complicated. Red, Blue, and Green cathode ray tubes and tri-phosphor tubes. LCD TVs are not near as complex as the CRTs they replaced.
I digress. How something breaks can give insight into how that something works. I lost my positive emotions following a powerful temporal lobe seizure. My parents and siblings seemed alien to me. I believe the reason for that was because
I was no longer able to decode the emotional context of my memories of them. A memory can be a fairly complex thing with color and texture and lots of detail. If you damage the section of your brain that is necessary to
analyze the details, then you are just left with an image that seems alien without the emotional context. So, if you are working without emotions, I think it is fair to say that time is on your side. Well, either you are getting
worse, better, or staying the same. As long as you are not getting worse, you are getting better. My emotions returned slowly. I kept doing the things I knew I enjoyed, until I started to believe I was enjoying them again.
In time, I was enjoying them again. And, my parents and siblings became familiar again also. Good luck.
I digress. How something breaks can give insight into how that something works. I lost my positive emotions following a powerful temporal lobe seizure. My parents and siblings seemed alien to me. I believe the reason for that was because
I was no longer able to decode the emotional context of my memories of them. A memory can be a fairly complex thing with color and texture and lots of detail. If you damage the section of your brain that is necessary to
analyze the details, then you are just left with an image that seems alien without the emotional context. So, if you are working without emotions, I think it is fair to say that time is on your side. Well, either you are getting
worse, better, or staying the same. As long as you are not getting worse, you are getting better. My emotions returned slowly. I kept doing the things I knew I enjoyed, until I started to believe I was enjoying them again.
In time, I was enjoying them again. And, my parents and siblings became familiar again also. Good luck.
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