Maybe it's because by trying to stop thinking about it, you are actively trying to repress that feeling and this is only reinforcing your anxiety? What if you tried being indifferent to DP? I know it's really hard and I'm struggling to do the same thing... often I find it easier to just think, "okay, I feel really bad and DP'ed, but that is okay. I am just going to sit with these feelings. They are stupid and I'm not going to waste time ruminating about them." and then try to distract as best I can. Sometimes it's not possible though.
Accpetance is the key. Dont ignore. Let it be guys. Accept what is, everything you are will always be NOW, not tomorrow not yesterday. Remember this. Your true self is always aware in the present moment.
That sounds like being caught between a rock and a hard place. You could try gently reminding yourself that thoughts and feelings cannot harm you and never have. You won't believe this at first of course, but if you keep on connecting with the truth of it, it can start to sink in. These days I make cognitive corrections like this all the time. As long as it's a true statement your mind can test and you keep doing it, changes can happen.
There is this theory that thinking about DP causes DP, but it might be just one of those things in the realm of "saying voldemort's name will summon voldemort." AKA it's nonsense. Before this episode I have now, I suffered from persistent DP for 2 years. I thought about it all the time, when I had it, because when you have it, it's torturing you. When you don't have it, you don't think about it, because it's not bothering you, simple as that. No conscious effort on my own part helped stopped the DP, or increase the DP, for that matter. I had no panic or anxiety. It was just that life was shit with DP, and life was normal (with its own normal ups and downs) without it.
I think people here have to suffer through bullshit mindgames about "trying not to think about the beast" because there's this dominant school of thought that thinks that's the key. Is that really the case though? If that's the case for you, then so be it - control your mind, brainwash yourself, try to block out the name "DP" from your mind and be convinced that will fix the problem. If that's not the case for you, for god's sake, don't torture yourself about it. Don't punish yourself constantly for thinking about the thing that's torturing you, despite what the so-called "self-help" crowd will preach. Be compassionate to yourself. Yeah, you're suffering. Maybe you can't think about unicorns and rainbows at the moment, despite your best efforts. Accept it, and forgive yourself.
But at the same time, that's just my two cents, so take what I say with a grain of salt. Everyone is a special little snowflake, and every DP experience is its own unique flavor (of shit).
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