[Guest]

Does anyone feel that their DP started because during an emotional / stressful time they spent a lot of time around other people and didn't have time to think about the events?

And thinking about events is how they sink in.

And the events couldn't sink in, and therefore built up without dealing with them and unreality kicked in cause it would be too many events to deal with.

I am so sure this happened to me.

Do you know what I mean?

Suz x

 

[dreamcatcher]

suz.....last year i was busy busy busy.....always out and about.....i started doing to much....was never at home....had my partner getting pissed off over it all...he tried to make me realize what was happening but i wouldnt listen....i started to get pains in my head all the time which i went to the gps about and was put on meds....they blew my head and i got major dp/dr. i know now the pain was from anxiety....but i also except that i was doing to much....running away from my problems...not dealing with anything....then i felt as if i didnt have a space in my life anymore....and i still dont know how to get back into it....i feel that i have dealt with all my problems in the last 12 months i have been like this but still the anxiety will not go.....so in short yes i do think not dealing with events when they happen built up until u blow....i just wish people hadnt tried to shove mine done my throat to make me think about them cause all i did was screw my head

sorry if this sounds like a drone but i dont seem right good at expressing myself at the moment :x

 

[Guest]

so in short yes i do think not dealing with events when they happen built up until u blow....i just wish people hadnt tried to shove mine done my throat to make me think about them cause all i did was screw my head

HaHaha!


I understand.

I think it's when you feel objectified and lose all boundaries of self.

I think it IS massive build up of unresolved events... That other people find "unimportant"...
I believe in the cumulative effect. I believe in the power of cumulative Psychology... Layer upon layer of intense unresolved trauma... Little things, inescapable... I think massive build up in your memories can make you blow a gasket, it can leave you nowhere to go, it can stretch your sense of self really THIN.
:shock:

 

[dreamcatcher]

ghost said

it can stretch your sense of self really THIN.

THATS A BIT OF AN UNDERSTATEMENT....... I FEEL INVISIBLE

 

[person3]

Not necessarily about the events...becaue a lot of people go through stress and don't reach this.

Maybe more how much control you wanted to exercise over said events? Maybe your approach to dealing with reality when things don't go as planned? Maybe, with the events that happened, there were too many things you were trying to control at once and keep perfect and trying to control the outcome of even if it wasn't something you had much control over...and this is the reality of it, letting you step back and see "whoa, wait a minute...I went to far with my methods of handling stress (not the stressors themselves)." Maybe trying to solve other peoples problems, taking in responsibilities out of your control to keep the situation around you peaceful when you felt helpless? Something?

Stress can CAUSE a latent DP dragon to "roar", but if not this time then something else. There are things you probably need to discover about yourself and your interactions with people and with handling the ups and donws of life, that are the root of the problem. Stress set it off but was almost like a "hey, we have a problem in here...it's been going on for a while. fix it."

Like your car. Say you notice a slight leak of oil one day. And you don't fix it. And it keeps getting worse and worse until there is no oil left in your car and the engine won't work without the lubrication, and the engine breaks down.

You can stand there all day and say "well if there HADNT been that stress on the engine..if there HADNT been that shortage of oil...it wouldn't have happened. If I HADNT have had the stress in my life, it wouldn't have happened." Etc etc. Well, in one sense you're right- the accident (dp) itself wouldn't have happened, but the problem would still be there. The leaky gasket that's letting out the oil in your car, would still be there. And the onset of the dp is NOT that you didnt have enough oil this time in your engine (or that you didn't get to think or whatever), it's something else kind of far away from the engine that needs to be examined. The engine...or your conscious self...is just the part that finally breaks down when you spend all those years saying to yourself "oh, i don't really need to change this or that about myself."

The leaky gasket doesn't really affect YOU conscioulsy until it causes oil to leak and eventually breaks down your car.

And you could pour more oil in...but the problem still isn't fixed and it would just break down again later.

 

[Guest]

Not necessarily about the events...becaue a lot of people go through stress and don't reach this.

Maybe more how much control you wanted to exercise over said events? Maybe your approach to dealing with reality when things don't go as planned? Maybe, with the events that happened, there were too many things you were trying to control at once and keep perfect and trying to control the outcome of even if it wasn't something you had much control over...and this is the reality of it, letting you step back and see "whoa, wait a minute...I went to far with my methods of handling stress (not the stressors themselves)." Maybe trying to solve other peoples problems, taking in responsibilities out of your control to keep the situation around you peaceful when you felt helpless? Something?

Stress can CAUSE a latent DP dragon to "roar", but if not this time then something else. There are things you probably need to discover about yourself and your interactions with people and with handling the ups and donws of life, that are the root of the problem. Stress set it off but was almost like a "hey, we have a problem in here...it's been going on for a while. fix it."

Like your car. Say you notice a slight leak of oil one day. And you don't fix it. And it keeps getting worse and worse until there is no oil left in your car and the engine won't work without the lubrication, and the engine breaks down.

You can stand there all day and say "well if there HADNT been that stress on the engine..if there HADNT been that shortage of oil...it wouldn't have happened. If I HADNT have had the stress in my life, it wouldn't have happened." Etc etc. Well, in one sense you're right- the accident (dp) itself wouldn't have happened, but the problem would still be there. The leaky gasket that's letting out the oil in your car, would still be there. And the onset of the dp is NOT that you didnt have enough oil this time in your engine (or that you didn't get to think or whatever), it's something else kind of far away from the engine that needs to be examined. The engine...or your conscious self...is just the part that finally breaks down when you spend all those years saying to yourself "oh, i don't really need to change this or that about myself."

The leaky gasket doesn't really affect YOU conscioulsy until it causes oil to leak and eventually breaks down your car.

And you could pour more oil in...but the problem still isn't fixed and it would just break down again later.

:|
I feel so STUPID.

 

[person3]

why?

 

[Guest]

why?

why?

Because what you wrote was so smart. People dont usually stretch their heads like that y'know.
I notice quite alot of people on this board can, though.

 

[person3]

It's more experience than anything else...