[Guest]

Hi all,

I've been a bit quiet recently (In part due to starting a new job), but I can't seem to shake feeling miserable. It's not depression as such (I've been there, and to me that is a feeling of complete soul destroying depsair, right in the pit of your stomach). I just keep having really miserable thoughts - thinking about getting old, death, etc - lovely stuff :roll:

I'm only 20 but I feel like there's nothing left! Half of me seems to live in the past (No pattern there - memories from when I was little right up to a couple of years ago).

Just wondered if any of you guys had any tips?

I keep thinking the wrong way round (I didn't want to quit betablockers for anxiety until I felt 'normal' - but my councellor said it doesn't work like that). But my whole thinking is like that - keep thinking I can't do all these things 'properly' (Enjoy them fully) until I feel better - even if it's just a night out.

Anyway I'm just rambling now, but any replies are welcome

 

[SillyPutty]

My only suggestion is to keep doing things that you used to like even if you are not liking them right now.Try to force yourself to do what you used do (the good things) as much as possible.This is what I did and eventually I came around.

I used to worry about things like that too.Well I used to like to "a,b, and c", why not anymore? The truth was I did still like them but not at first.At first it still felt very dull,unimportant,pointless,boring,etc.

Not true, you are still you wether you like it or not. And you will return to yourself when you act the way you used to act even if it doesnt seem right,right now.

Does that make sense?

SP

 

[Guest]

That does make sense - I'll have to persevere

Thanks for replying!

 

[Monkeydust]

It depends a lot on how often you're feeling like this.

I get that kind of feeling from time to time, and have it right now, where I feel a bit down, not depressed really, but just flat and not in the mood to do a lot. Other times I'll be extremely motivated and want to do a million things in one go. I'm probably Bipolar (joke).

If you get this all or most of the time it might be a little harder to shake. On top of Sillyputty's good advice, there's all the stuff you've heard a million times - eat well, exercise, yada yada - which will help a little.

Beyond that, perhaps you should try setting yourself some new goals, or rather things to work towards. You sound like you're a little bored with life at the moment. You you're always thinking of the past nostalgically, and it seems to me that you feel like you've just got little passion to aim towards much.

So just try something, a new skill or whatever. It could be anything. Learning a new language, martial arts, working towards getting a six-pack (i tried that one lol), whatever. Getting a number of these things back into my life has helped me, and it might help you.

 

[Guest]

Well I just half run, half walked 3 miles (At a guess) and instead of feeling really weird with the radio playing and so cutting me off a bit, it was good (Whether this is due to the running or the fact I was about 12 miles from home I don't know).

But it felt good - although my legs will be stiff in the morning!

 

[Monkeydust]

I've taken up running. Not out and about, mind you, but in the gym. I know a couple of people who work there, so it's not so bad.

If you keep that up you'll find it helps a lot. You'll notice a difference over time slowly, but you'll find that just after a long run you'll feel great, very relaxed.