[spiritbird]

Soo.....it's almost 3 months now since I have been feeling dp'ed. With almost all the symptoms of dp/dr....they came...I panicked...panicked again...then i got used to them(tried to chill & divert my attention) & now they bother me less frequently.....except for one.

I feel concerned & worried about the 'family-feels-alien' symptom, which, i guess most of us have often felt during this ordeal. In a nutshell, when it came to my family members, I couldn't 'believe' that they existed in my past & interacting with them was like being a robot i.e. functioning/talking without feelings.

After discussing about this symptom, in my prev topic & thoroughly researching this forum for other similar posts, i thought the best way to not to freak myself out over this issue would be to try to keep calm & just wait for it to subside. I would indulge myself in conversations, no matter how much weird they would make me feel......i kept flowing with the 'auto-pilot' mode.

Fast forward to now>> Though,it's not as scary as it used to be, I still feel very distant to my closed ones. These days, i am contemplating about their existence in my life & history, pondering over the strangeness i still feel around them; which led me to question my approach towards this problem.

Am i doing something wrong by just 'flowing' with it?? Is there something wrong with what i am following?

I strongly feel & attribute all these anomalies are being caused by this darned 'hyper-awareness' of self & surroundings which i am having. As of now, i stay home 24 x 7, except for the occasional little walks i take outside. At home, i still try to follow a routine(which involves some studying apart from sleeping & surfing web). I also believe that when i will resume my computer classes & other outside stuff, the hyper-awareness should fade away & maybe..then i will get my familiar feelings back.

But, till then is it okay to pretend around my family until that moment?? Because these days, i often get very scared when i look at their faces & i get these feelings of weird strangeness & feelings of not knowing them.

However, with little effort i can still get back to my complete auto-pilot mode, but i need your opinions on this. What am i missing, what should i change etc..

Lastly...thanks for reading ))

 

[Wendy]

Pretending is a good idea because you can't do much else.

Unreality seems strange, as it most always does, but there's not much else to do about the unreality itself except for focusing on recovery. My friends and parents seem weird too (even my damn dogs seem weird), but there's not much else I can do about that. If I focus on relieving myself of Depersonalization & Derealization - focus on getting better - then those symptoms should just dissipate as I do so. In the meantime, I just have to deal with it and put it out of my mind as much as possible.

 

[spiritbird]

Pretending is a good idea because you can't do much else.

Unreality seems strange, as it most always does, but there's not much else to do about the unreality itself except for focusing on recovery. My friends and parents seem weird too (even my damn dogs seem weird), but there's not much else I can do about that. If I focus on relieving myself of Depersonalization & Derealization - focus on getting better - then those symptoms should just dissipate as I do so. In the meantime, I just have to deal with it and put it out of my mind as much as possible.

Ya I kinda felt this too, there ain't anything else we can do 'cept for 'waiting it out'.

Btw what do you do to keep yourself busy & not to think about this strangeness?

 

[Blablablox]

I have those symptoms as well. I can really relate to what you are saying.

But my point of view is that i don't think that distracting ourself can actually work on its own. The first thing for us to do in my opinion is to

1) calm down

2) Realize that everything is okay, and that we are only creating those bad though that pollute our perception and our judgement.

I think that realizing that everything is okay is the first step, then distracting ourself.

 

[spiritbird]

I have those symptoms as well. I can really relate to what you are saying.

But my point of view is that i don't think that distracting ourself can actually work on its own. The first thing for us to do in my opinion is to

1) calm down

2) Realize that everything is okay, and that we are only creating those bad though that pollute our perception and our judgement.

I think that realizing that everything is okay is the first step, then distracting ourself.

I agree.

But the second deal, i.e. realizing that this is only an illusion & what lies beyond this is reality.....i can't pretty much get the hang of it & i mostly fail to practice it. :wacko: