[jc]

so after months of staying indoors avoiding contact with people i have finally made contact with my old friends and ive also made alot of new friends but the problem is the fact that during the day i feel the urge to chat to these friends, but they are all in the local pub,i dont actually get drunk or smashed anymore but i do enjoy about four pints of beer while chewing the fat...ive also had quite alot of work offered to me from friends so ive been quite busy cutting grass/chopping down trees/laying bricks etc....the problem is i now find it impossible to stay indoors,ive tried all the outdoor pursuits but they are very solitary....i dont know where im going with this other than the fact that i dont so much need a beer fix but i do need a fix of talking to friends in the pub.....but it is costing me money so im quite stuck at the moment,getting a job would be the answer i suppose but i still dont feel ready to hold down a fulltime job

anyone else have this problem ? or do most on here just stay indoors or go to work

 

[mcsiegs]

JC - you are moving in the right direction. Social activities and side jobs outside are a very impressive improvement for someone who stayed inside for months.

For the time being, keep doing what you are doing. 4 pints a day isn't excessive, but can turn into a nasty habit. Try doing other activities with the friends, or limit your alcohol while out.

A full time job will come soon enough. I would ease into the working world. If you jump right back to 40 hours per week, you could find yourself more stressed.

Keep up the good work. Your post was uplifting!

 

[Milan]

Good to hear your feeling better!

I had the problem with work for a while at the beginning of this year. Took a few weeks off and had to gradually ease back into the full time week. I use to do a lot of overtime, spending about 50-55 hours a week at work but I can't do that now. A normal week is all I can mange and that is with a great deal of effort. Stick to the part time for a little while longer and have the goal of full time employment. The good thing about work is it makes you do life each day and most times is a great distraction.

 

[jc]

cheers folks
its good to be out and about again,,,well at least out and joining in conversation...work will come along one day but anyone whos been through the benefits system in the uk will know just how long it takes to get a single penny paid to you,so im in a catch 22 situation where if i take on a fulltime job i have to sign myself as fit to work but if i cant handle the job for whatever reason i will have to wait months to get any money and i need all the cash i can get at the moment

cheers

jc

 

[person3]

You can probably handle more than you give yourself credit for. I'm not totally sure of it because I don't know you, but keep that in mind...ask yourself if you are selling yourself short; if it seems like the wrong time to pursue fulltime however, then listen to your heart on that as well.

 

[jc]

its just the pure anxiety that i find hard to handle,im sure eveyone is aware of that feeling

the anxiety and then the sickness and feeling of despair..i get it every morning but it does subside