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my boyfriend = stress!

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i know this is slightly off topic, but i have to get this out, and i don't really have any other place to do it.

My boyfriend is so ignorant the majority of the time and it makes life much more stressful for me. He has done all kinds of idiotic, insensitive things . One time, I gave him my permission to take my car and go get some fast food. He promised he was just going to get something to eat and would be back in 15 to 20 minutes. Instead, he went to the bar for two hours. .He didn't call me or anything and i wans't able to get a hold of him or find out where the F**k he was, because he didn't have a cell phone. So, i worried for 2 hours that something bad had happened. There have been a couple other incidents like this, but he has gotten somewhat better. Yet, most of the time, when he does something like this, he doesn't really apologize or think it is a big deal. He mostly blames me and says i am just over-reacting and it is just because im schizophrenic.

He has had some alchohol and drug problems for a long time. He's 23 now and has been drinking and doing drugs since he was about 13. He's been a lot better about it since having moved in with me, mostly i think because he is far from home (he moved out of state to live with me) and doesn't hang out with all his old friends that he'd always get drunk and high with. Yet, he still has to have a six pack of beer almost every night (lately, it has been every night!) And, he has recently started to make some new friends who also do lots of drugs and drink. I thought that he had quit the drugs for quite a few months, but since he's made these new friends, he's been smoking some pot. The strange thing is, he tells me he often gets paranoid when he does pot and doesn't really like it, yet he has started doing it again. Also, i was explaining my dp and dr to him a few days ago and telling him that a lot of people i have talked to (on this forum) say they developed their dp/dr from smoking pot or doing other drugs. Then, He told me that he felt he was starting to get dp/dr from the po at one point, so he stopped doing it. Luckily it went away. So why would he start it up again!? especially when i keep stressing to him that it might result in having bad perminent effects from it! I wonder how he'll feel about all this if and when he developes perminant dp and dr from this!

Also, he's a very irrisponsible driver. When he goes to the bar, he will drive home drunk! When im in the car with him,he'll run stop signs, red lights, tailgate, speed, and the other day...we were on the highway and the guy in front of us had his blinker on because he was going to switch lanes. So, Justin (my boyfriend) sped up and got on his @$$ expecting this guy would be over in the other lane by tthat time. But he wasn't and justin had to hit the brakes a little. I got really mad, of coarse. I don't think i'll be letting him drive when im in the car from now on. He just keeps showing me that he can't be a safe, responsible driver no matter how many times i yell at him.
The most annoying part is, he will say things like "I am a very skilled driver and i know what im's under control"! a skilled, responsible driver does not drive as if they know what other drivers are going to do! I don't see how someone can think it is okay to do these kinds of things on the road because it's just plain unsafe. It's ignorant! I was always taught to drive as if you don't know what other drivers are going to do next...because that's the truth. You only have control over yourself and how you drive, not how others drive.
I HATE ignorant drivers, so it just makes me so mad that my boyfriend does this. He's even told me that he races people sometimes. UGGGHH!!

It's so frusterating because he seems to think he is the perfect boyfriend because he's not abusive with me, and while im very thankful that he's not, this doesn't mean that he is being fair to me and not causing other kinds of problems.

There are some other things that i am leaving out (ignorant things he does) but i dont want to make this post any longer than it already is. Thanks for reading this if you got this far.

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PLEASE LEAVE THIS MAN! I have a lot of experience with abusive boyfriends and this guy you're with sounds like a manipulator.

My ex was into any type of drug he could get his hands on and so were all his friends. And if you hang out with drug addicts you're bound to get into some trouble. I have almost been arrested for a lot of shit I didn't do cuz I was with the wrong people at the wrong times.

This guy doesn't sound like he has any respect for you. He uses your car to get some food and then decides to go to a bar instead without you?! And doesn't even let you know leavin' you worried all night. Sounds like my ex. And then he has the nerve to blame you being upset on your schizophrenia?! Sounds like my ex again.

Do you guys ever get in an argument because of something he did that was complete bullshit and then leave the argument feeling like you are the guilty one?? That is a sign you have been manipulated.

I wouldn't suggest staying with him til January because of the vacation. Take someone else who deserves your time or just spend some quality time with your dad.

Sorry if I'm overreacting but this hit close to home.

If you ever need someone to talk to just let me know.
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