[jc]

while pondering a few posts today it seems that alot of you feel as though your body and mind feels as though its one step behind,this is typical dp for me and it takes up an enormous amount of my time and mental energy...but does anyone else feel as though the further they venture away from home the more unreal and unsafe they feel ?
what actually causes this,i would have thought that by now i would be able to deal with this symptom but it is so debilitating...its a feeling of being a 3 year old child and yer mum leaving you on youre on ina busy shop etc...

 

[terri*]

hi JC,

I see you're still fighting this battle of yours. I do believe, for you, the further away from your physical home (safe place as a child, perhaps), the more intense this seperation feeling gets. And I believe it is as simple as that. I think you feel a loss of safety and get yourself all worked up with anxiety, wanting to run back home and pull the sheets over your head. So some people associate this particular symptom with being with them all the time, while yours manifest itself as you get further away from home.

There's no time limit placed on how long we keep on fighting these battles. I do believe it is in the continued addressing of it and questioning why, perhaps coming up with that answer, perhaps not...that we learn to walk away and leave that particular anxiety behind.

This is just my simple take on it.

Keep working at it JC. It's gonna happen for you.

terri

 

[Tom Servo]

I was just thinking about this yesterday. I don't think it's separation anxiety or wanting a safe haven, I think it's more that when you're in unfamiliar surroundings, there's a lot more info to take in. When you're at home, there are things your mind probably barely even notices anymore. When you're somewhere else, it has to take in everything. We're pretty sensitive to sensory overload. I am, at any rate.

Grocery stores and airports can be particularly bad for me. Just thought I'd throw that in.

 

[agentcooper]

i agree tom, it's sensory overload that does us in. too much stimulation often makes me extremely dred.

 

[jc]

hi folks
i know that these are all symptomatic and im not alone in this quest for health but we surely do have to discuss why we feel this way....ive gotten used to feeling 'weird' iv gotten used to feeling scared,depressed,claustrophobic,full of fear but some things are hard to get to the centre of...why do i feel so alone when i used to feel part of the world,i used to feel whole as a person...theres always a reason and my reason is ive spent most of my life needing someone,feeling insecure so its just hard to find the tools to change this around.....ive got a bad dose of the flu at the moment so maybe my fight has diminished somewhat or maybe ive just allowed myself time to think about these things

anyway

cheers :wink: