[maria]

I was just wondering something..I've never written to message boards actively, and everytime I do write something, I hate everything I've just said. Does anyone have anything similar to this (can I blame dp) or is just me? Then there's always the in group and of course this doesn't apply only to internet message boards, there's just something I've never figured out that makes certain people the insiders. Anyone have an explanation?

 

[bat]

i think insiders are usually one or 2 charismatic characters and some sheep. theres usually loads of interesting outsiders :lol: :roll: :shock: 8)

 

[JAG]

I have no idea how it works. I usually don't send the things I write. If I sent everything I wrote the entire board would be about me, and that would bore everyone to death.

 

[jc]

a funny thing happened in therepy this week...the girls were asking why they dont get any attention and wanted to know how they could get people to listen to them...now considering they sit there in silence i told them that a good start would be to 'talk'
there were a few chuckles but also the therepists kinnda agreed with me,if you dont talk you dont get answers,no-one can read your mind

 

[Guest]

I've noticed that the people who fit in quickly here all do something in common. They make some posts about their own fears and experiences, but they also respond to OTHER people's posts - offering their own opinons or just support. They reach out first.

Usually when we feel shy or unwanted, we perpetutate it by not reaching out. SHOULD life be that way? who knows. It is, however, the way life IS.

Peace,
Janine

 

[Inflammed]

Talk to a stranger and you'll fear him less...
Talk to yourself and the same will happen.

Only by saying out loud (not too loud ) *I'm scared*...the fear will weaken...

 

[jc]

i have a sick dad that is in pain everyday,now he had a heart by-pass operation with complications,but i dont know whats worse,you see my dad wont talk about his pain or how he feels because he fears(i think) that its going to upset my mum,but my mum is in a constant anxious state trying to guess whats up with him on a daily basis when he cant get out of bed or he sits in front of the tv all day grunting and moaning...

whats the answer to this ? i dont know but i do know that if i have something bothering me i will tell someone if they ask

 

[falling_free]

I've never written to message boards actively, and everytime I do write something, I hate everything I've just said. Does anyone have anything similar to this (can I blame dp) or is just me? Then there's always the in group and of course this doesn't apply only to internet message boards, there's just something I've never figured out that makes certain people the insiders. Anyone have an explanation?

I ca nkind of realte to you as I sometimes think that I will post something that sounds completly stupid or doesnt make sense, guess I have a low sel confidence, but thats something ive had to live with since I was little , eg ive always had a negative side of me that loves to put my self down, don't really know how i developed this part of me , guess it just me!

I also sometimes find it hard to reply on a eprsonal basis to other people even on a messageboard such as this one as I have trouble feelign empathy sometimes or connecting with people, the right word is I feel cold inside, this is probably a symtom of dp but I was quite closed off before as a teenger before i deveoleped the dp/dr so I don't know I guess I find it hard to talk on an emotional level with other people, but its something om working on, but having the dp/dr complicates things somewhat.

 

[maria]

there were good answers, I do suck at reaching out to people I don't know. Which is kind of a relieving insight.