[Guest]

Seriously.. it becomes obvious that there needs to be a standard testing procedure for identifying women who are so obviously crazy as a person who would identify with reality. Because i honestly know that i'm this animalistic entity whos bent on experiencing life but that does not drive askew the point of me being just that, an animal. Well.. i dunno.. it seems i have a new girl, or a new lay, or a new something following me around every few weeks and i grow tired of this crap. I want a girl who shows understanding and it seems the only ones who show any sort of understanding whatsoever for this plight, let alone any plight, are those who suffer it. So yeah.. like.. i dunno wha the test would be made of really. *shrug*.. i dunno.. it just sucks feeling like you're the only one "looking" at the cars structrual framework as it drives by when your friends/girlfriends are commenting on the paint job.

everything is too lucid..

Any other somewhat normal looking people suffer this same fate of realizing you are somewhat alone?

eDfGr33n
"apathy doesn't describe this conclusion"

 

[Guest]

I do. I feel completly alone honestly.

 

[Brainsilence02]

the only way to get over my lonelyness is to put it next to more important issues i have to solve

 

[Guest]

I might have DP, but I'm not 100% sure yet. That's why I joined this message board.

Oh yeah, and I'm female...and CRAZY! :lol:

 

[danny]

OK, so would people rather be 100% dp free and alone, or to find your soul mate and be totally in love but have to keep your dp?

 

[Guest]

OK, so would people rather be 100% dp free and alone, or to find your soul mate and be totally in love but have to keep your dp?

Are you serious? I'd say DP-free.

 

[rainboteers]

I dont even need to give that any thought whatsoever. DP free. No question about it.

 

[Brainsilence02]

It isn't really a choice. When you get DP-free, you will start wanting more things. Human pysche always tends to pleasure/satisfaction.

Once one gets DP-free, he/she will seek a relationship.

I would rather say, a relationship could help with DP (well, I am not sure I have myself, but I am getting tired repeating it). I don't want to make them a binary choice.

I set such questions to myself ("would you rather have that or the other?") and I am starting to think that it is not good.

 

[Guest]

I think it's a matter of finding the right person. I've been married and have two kids. The marriage fell apart for many reasons but I also realized that even though I had tricked myself into thinking we were close there was so much I didn't tell him because of the dp. I had never felt truly attached, the only crying I did over the divorce was the difficulty in the concrete problems, not the loss of a man who was supposed to be my soulmate.

My current boyfriend is the only person (besides all of you now, lol) who I have described my dp too. I didn't have a name for it at the time though, glad I can finally give him one. Anyway, point is that he's actually helped me tremendously. He's constantly encouraging me to talk and tell him everything I'm thinking about and that seems to help me more than anything. If I actually say it the unreality isn't removed entirely but it does lessen a bit and maybe in time it will start disappearing. Having someone to tell my thoughts too who isn't making any judgements on them and is just listening has been the greatest gift he could give me. It's also helping me to feel truly attached to him and I feel more emotions opening up which had formerly only been for my children. We were friends for 10 years prior to starting to date which has made things easier because I already knew that I could trust him.

I don't think it's easy to find a person with the right personality but I do think they are out there and no one should give up all hope. It just takes some searching.

 

[lies]

DP-free!!!
but, when you're DP-free, one of the things you want the most
is love...
so...

xxx

 

[England's_Dreaming]

I found that a bit of a shock reading that:

What would you prefer to lose DP or fall in love and still have DP?

That is a scary and quite deep question I think. I am not sure about that one but it certainly caught my attention. Yes, that question hit me quite hard. I think I would prefer to lose the DP. Because if your in love (not that I have ever been) I'm sure its great and all, but you'll still have DP. So, hey, given the option - (yeah right - like that's going to happen!) - I'd lose the DP: and my DP is only mild/moderate.

 

[England's_Dreaming]

Thinking about it some more I don't think I'd want a guy with DP. I also wouldn't want one with depression. I guess maybe I wouldn't like him to have any mental illness - picky am I?

I don't see the point of having a partner that had DP. You'd both be depressed together! Dreadful!!

I am also curious to know about sex. Sex and DP. What is it like for you?
What is the difference?? I think I'll post a link about that now while I'm on here. Cheers!

 

[Manic D]

Jesus, I'd rather be DP free than just about anything. In fact I've though about things like "would I trade my legs to be rid of this mental problem?" And I might. In face I think I would. So if anybody wants a slightly used pair of legs in exchange for fixing my fucked up head then let's deal. :?

 

[Guest_]

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[HopeFloats]

Ah..that just blows my mind how we all seem to have the same thoughts. I remember crying to my sister that I'd rather lose a leg than deal with this

 

[julie13]

lol...that is just too ironic considering one of the main reasons I developed DP was huge fear of someday becoming an amputee and other such health related irrational worries that caused my anxiety to go through the roof...I guess its just funny how people put things into perspective. i wouldn't give up my legs, but i would definatley give up years of my life. ive realized its about quality, not quantity.

 

[Guest]

Hey, new here, not sure if I have DP/DR but I certainly seem to have the symptoms.

Anyway, this thread surprised me a bit - the idea of being in a relationship with a "soulmate" and still having DP problems, vs being alone but "sane" - no contest, I'll keep the DP.

Maybe it's because I don't remember life-before-DP (my very first concrete memory is when I was very, very sick and I was in a hospital. I remember it like looking at my own body from a distance, knowing I was dying, and not caring about that or anything - just watching like a totally detached observer). So to an extent, having DP is something that partly defines who I am - I don't put a high priority on life without DP, because that ouldn't be *me* . . . if that makes sense.

Alternatively, maybe I just have a much less severe DP that a lot of people here.

Either way, it's an interesting thread.

 

[Rozanne]

 

[Scattered]

I'd most definately keep the DP. Being DP free wouldn't get rid of my social anxiety or depression or intrusive thoughts.

 

[Guest]

DP free, no doubt about it. I would think that the DP would always be lingering there and may hinder the relationship eventually. DP free would mean happy and although a girlfriend/boyfriend may make us feel loved, would we feel free? Happy? Complete? Sane?