[Roci]

Hi! I'm new here and already feeling so grateful knowing I'm not alone in this journey.

So, I'm relatively new being in a relationship with my boyfriend. When we first started dating he was all fine, but then only on the second month or so that his depersonalization started to affect him.

He told me that he's had it for years from his depression of losing his dad in such young age from car crash.

He's never rude, abusive, nothing disadvantaging me or something. But his lack of empathy, insensitivity and inability to connect with his own emotion somehow take a toll in me. I feel like I'm trying so hard to understand his situation, but I always ended up being demanding of his constant attention, love and care. Not saying that he never given me those, but it just seems never enough for me.

I really don't know what I want to inquire in this post, but I really want to know how should I handle the situation, what do I have to do to really understand his situation, and i it's possible at all to have a relationship in the long run with someone with DP.

Thank you so much ❤

 

[ThoughtOnFire]

Lots to say but the bottom line is that everybody has something, whether that's DP or what have you. If he treats you well then you've really struck gold. Two things come to mind, if you love him then that's all that matters. Second, I've observed over the years that people with DP/DR will often speak out about their inability to feel love for family, friends, partners, kids... but the truth is, if they didn't actually have love deep down, then the apparent lack thereof wouldn't bother them so much.

 

[forestx5]

I think the more independent one is in a relationship, the healthier is that relationship. I think there can be sharing without dependence. It may be your friend can only provide that which he is able. The question is whether that is enough for you. You should be able to make that assessment in time. You should do what is right for you.