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So today I was thinking about where I am in life and where I want to be and all those fun things. It started because on Sunday night, I went to a big field party about thirty minutes away from my hometown (my so-called "safe zone")...I was terrified to go there, but when I got there, i was surprised to realize that my dp/dr was significantly lower. It was an overnight event, and I only had a few fleeting moments of dp/dr. Does anyone think anything about the idea that maybe our current situation can contribute to dp/dr. I know that I am not too happy with where I am right now, and I am still in the same town i was born in, 23 years ago. I remember someone saying once, in describing their symptoms that the more familiar the place, the more foreign it seems. So maybe since it was a place I didn't know all that well it was better? I am not at all for running away from your problems, but my therapist and friends have pointed out to me that sometimes going somewhere else is not running away but instead is getting out of your rut, your comfort zone, and really facing yourself. I've never really done this. Any thougths on this? I don't want to move and then get stuck in the same rut, but I know that as long as I stay here I will never relaly get out of it. To quote the Rascal Flatts song I am listening to now "I never dreamed home would end up where I don't belong." Sorry if I'm rambling, but i've been thinking about this a lot.

Hope this makes some sense...sometiems i feel like my thoughts get too sped up and I dont't make sense.

PS. I realized yesterday that getting on a swingset and swinging is really not so good for dp/dr and/or panic. It just mixes your brain up like a whisk, and you feel very odd afterwords. Just an interesting aside.

peaceboy23 said:
As a summery to part of it...maybe our "comfort zone" isn't really so comfortable after all? I've been feeling that way a lot recently.
My councellor has a saying which I try to use (Although I don't most of the time - not through not wanting to but not knowing how)-

If you do as you've always done, you'll get what you've always got.

I'm sure that a lot of this is caused by running the same 'patterns' in our minds but not changing - either due to not being able too or not wanting too.

I don't know about comfort zones, i guess my home would be pretty safe; i can distract myself on things like the computer, but when i visit places i haven't been to a while and before dp, it really comes back.

I went to my aunt's house and got really irritable, i went to this lakeshore mall in downtown toronto and it felt so unreal. Maybe we can come to some conclusions with comfort zones and these?
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