The problem I find with posts like this is that the author of them is presuming to know the motives, conditions, and personalities of a group of people and assigning a prescription based on these stereotypes. Kind of like the psychiatrist who doles out anti-depressants to everyone with any kind of anxiety disorder. It's an exercise in arrogance, no matter what the intention. And I can't even tell if the intention is necessarily benign in this case. It usually isn't.
I agree with a lot of what you're saying, Dreamland, but your presentation is all wrong. It's laced with contempt and an air of superiority.
Let me let you in on a little secret: Most of us already know 99% of what you've written. If it was as easy as "ignoring it", "not dwelling on it", or "dealing with your issues", etc. then we wouldn't be here, and psychology would be a floundering business. We know this. That is the foundation of psychological recovery. A lot of us have had remissions in our DP before. A lot of us haven't. I've felt as empowered as you before. I've clawed my way out of the abyss and cackled in glee at the summit of sanity. Then I fell back in.
Another thing, all suffering is relative. Whether I have the ebola virus or DP. You can't compare one with the other in terms of putting them on a "suffering scale". They're totally dependent on the individual. Granted, one is a death sentence, while the other is an anxiety disorder. But still, it's dangerous to rate things like that on an objective scale, because it belittles the person with DP, as if to say, "God, you're a whiner. There are people out there dying, and you're worried about a little anxiety disorder." This disorder is crippling to a lot of people. Whether it's psychological or physical is irrelevant. People have killed themselves over losing some money, and others have survived having their families massacared by maniacal genocidists.
I'm happy to hear that you're doing better, but you seem to be implying that the rest of us are somehow a bunch of helpless whiners who are crying at our keyboards every night and thinking of various ways to sabotage our mental health.
Look...I don't totally disagree with your message, but take the arrogance out of it. Your intentions may very well be good, but a lot of times, when people come on here and post something equivocal to: "You guys just need to pull yourselves up by your bootstraps and get better", it sounds a lot like someone trying to feed their own ego by showing how much more "together" they are than the rest of us lunatics. I'm not saying that this is you.
I hope you continue to post positive threads like this Dreamland. I love hearing recovery stories as do most of us. Just, please, make them a little more palatable next time.