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Anyone find it hard to hold a job with DP/DR?

I have always worked, since I was 16. But after my mental breakdown, I find it soooo hard to work. I tried to explain to my husband how I felt when I'm in public and have to concentrate. It's hard enough going to college. So I thought, well, cleaning helps with my DP so I'll clean houses. Good idea. Well, he didn't like that idea. He wants me to go and get a real job with benifits. But I just know I can't. Not right now. It's getting worse everyday and I, oh don't know. Just can't.

How do you guys handle that? And if you do work, how do you handle your DP/DR at work?
 

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I think that going to work is a good idea, not only does it get you out of the house (the biggest mistake you can do is stay at home, take it from me!!), you are around other people so have to socialise to a certain extent and your mind is also active hence you will not think about your DP/DR as much, granted even I find it difficult to concentrate at times, but after time you will get better at this, as I am.

Luckily my work are very understanding of my current condition and are being very careful in how much workload they are giving me and they are always checking that I am still okay with the work they have given to me.

Also, another point, if your workplace has lots of flourescent lights (as mine does) then during your worst times of DP/DR I would wear a good pair of sunglasses as this can help greatly.

Anyway, I hope this of some help to you and I wish you luck, and remember avoidance will never help this condition, it is a backward step towards Agorophobia so get yourself out there even if it scares the life out of you, you will find that the fear/anxiety will not continue rising, it will level out and then start to reduce.
 

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facing your fears and getting out is good advice,i started playign the avoidance game but i now make myself go out everyday,and push my boundaries...it does level out
 

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I managed that pretty well since my DP/DR problems...
I always had a job...

I'm now working for the same company since 3 years...the hard part is that somtimes I feel so bad...like my life is in danger and then my job becomes so meaningless...
I called off yesterday because I had an extremely hard time the day before...I wasnt able to sleep for 2 nights...
And then again yesterday evening...I fell asleep around 3am...I must wake at 7am...
So I called again and said I won't be there today too...

DP/DR often makes me feel like nothing is really important...that the only important thing is to get better...
Once I'm at my workplace, usually it's ok...I feel pretty good...
I don't miss work really often...
Unless I'm really messed up or sick...

But I often arrive late, not shaved, not washed, disoriented, all this because of DP/DR.
But people just think I just don't care about my job...wich is false...
Somehow I do really care...but my dear DP/DR pass before everything....sadly.
 
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I have not had a legitimate job since last summer. I worked as a millionaire carpenter's apprentice and got tax free 20 dollar an hour paychecks for a while which was nice. Now, the only pocket change i'm making is by selling drugs, popping some adderall and gambling. :|
 

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starting a jobs hard but for me the type of job doesn't make much of a difference. once into the busy(hopefully)routine it helps a great deal. i find my work, which is pretty full on, helps alot. when dp was very bad there was no way i could have gone anywhere but as soon as it lessens then work can really help recovery
 
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I work Misty but will say it's sometimes very difficult.
I don't want dp to totally ruin my life so I keep trying.Most times I'm glad that I work even though as I said it's not easy.

Personally I don't think my dp would seem as bad if I stayed at home a lot more.
I do think I would feel badly about myself,my self esteem would most likely get worse and I could easliy become agoraphobic.

So I guess working doesn't make my dp any easier,in fact it makes it harder to cope with but the other pays offs out weigh this.
Sorry but I hope I explained myself.
I'm aware that I have to get off this computer and get ready for work lol

Wishing you all the best,Shelly
 
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