[Guest]

Recently I was struck by what a psychologist said on another site.
It's a site for chronic illness(physical).

She said that there is a difference between what we know as depression and what many of us who endure a long term debilitating condition experience.

This is more so called grieving.

As I read it I felt that it applied here as well with dp/dr.

We are sad because we grieve the person we once were.
We grieve all the things we used to do with ease,pleasure,fun,excitement.
We grieve the warm and loving connections we had with people.
We grieve the simplicity of life,the life unquestioned,the carefree casual nature we once enjoyed.
We grieve for the freedom we once had to move and live in the world.

Our grief will be a different story for each of us.
Some will grieve the fact they can't remember how it felt to be that other person.
Some will grieve because they can't grieve,they feel numb and robotic.

Maybe it's ok to express our grief.
Not to say that it's ok to dwell on the past to the point of misery and despair.
Apparently grief has a cycle but no set pattern.

Oh dear,hoping I don't sound too preachy.

All the best Cheers Shelly

 

[berlin]

This is a very valid view, Shelly. The 'anxiety' that lots of us on this DP excursion will cling to is the fear of never returning. Never getting back to our old selves or even at the very least to the old way of experiencing our lives. Its difficult imajine any sort of forward movement as long as we're stalled here, homesick... :roll:

 

[terri*]

Thanks for your post, Shell. At this point in time I am grieving and as Berlin said...I am homesick.

No matter how long you have dealt with this, some days last forever.

 

[Guest]

Thanks for your post, Shell. At this point in time I am grieving and as Berlin said...I am homesick.

No matter how long you have dealt with this, some days last forever.

Im in the same place. :?

 

[rainboteers]

WOW.. I read this and I actually cried. Something I haven't been able to do in awhile.

 

[rainboteers]

Have any of you ever heard of the psychic Sylvia Browne? She is on the Montel show some Wednesdays. Not sure if I believe a word out of her mouth, but I thought you might find this interesting. I stubbled across a reading she was doing on line and someone asked her about depersonalization disorder. She said, "don't worry you are just HOMESICK." She told them they were on their last life and that they were sick of being here and wanting to go home.

 

[Guest]

I haven't heard of this psychic but I have to agree with her, I'm sick of being here..................dp land that is lol

oh dear now I'm making peple cry,sorry rainboteers.Unless it was a much needed cry

Clover I think I am depressed,mostly due to my grief.When I'm having a better day and enjoying life again,feeling like a normal person I can feel happy.

 

[rainboteers]

No it was a needed cry. Sometimes all of my feelings scare me to the point that all I feel is fear. Feeling sad is better than feeling afraid.