[anti-anti depressants]

Hi all,

Does anyone here find it difficult in resolving certain Issues in their life but find it difficult due to having DP/DR. I have quite a lot of things that I need to deal with but would prefer to GET BETTER before dealing with them. My psychiatrist thinks the opposite. He thinks I should deal with these issues to be able to GET BETTER. I disagree because I feel that I may make mistakes and regret decisions that I make when I GET BETTER.

Catch my drift?

 

[Imagine]

YES!

I was reluctant to get my testosterone treatment because of this, same with getting a job.

I felt I could only do and only WANT to do these things if I got better.

Same with many other issues right now thats going on at the moment with my life.

My psychiatrist also said I should tackle all my issues head on, no matter how I'm feeling as a way to get better.

 

[Guest]

Yes, I catch your drift - absolutely.

My head is full of stuff-I-will-deffinitely-do-just-when-the-DP-is-over. All that stuff should be driven by emotions etc., but I can?t reach those. Therefore, there is actually no motivation in terms of emotions. Everything that I can do now is based only on the reason. (I mean - you need reason AND emotions for everything, I?ve got just one of it now.)

But - as days and months pass by - I am adapting to the fact it will not be over just like that. And I don?t wanna loose time, so - in the end - I will probably have to do all that stuff even when the DP is not over. But I will have to base it on the reason and hope, it will resuscitate the emotions.

Yeah, that would be sweet.

 

[Isobel]

I have plenty of emotional issues , but at the moment if feels like theyere not even there

 

[Martinelv]

It depends whether the issues you need to sort out are causing your DR/DP. And is so, then obviously they need to be your first priority. Sorting one will (hopefully) cure the other.

However, when you start to delve deeper into this kind of thing, especially in the DR/DP frame of mind, things tend to get rather messy and strangulated. Make sure you know what you're doing, and that you're getting help and advice from someone who knows what they are talking about. And that, of course, is the big challange.

It seems to be that there are a hundred different (successfull - there are trillions of psudeo-nutball ideas) 'techniques' for dealing with DR/DP, but only one path, individual to each of us. And finding the one that helps you is the real trick. I have always savagely denied that there is a one single cure for DR/DP, and will continue to do so until someone proves otherwise.

 

[Monkeydust]

Your psychiatrist sounds broadly right in this respect. It's important not to avoid any aspect of life simply because your symptoms make you want to.

 

[rainboteers]

This is I believe one of my biggest problems. Waiting to get well to move on with my life. It is my excuse for everything... I cant go back to school like this...I cant work like this....I cant be around loved ones like this... I certainly cant let anyone REALLY know me or get close to me like this....

This is entirely ridiculous.. for one thing if I do not get well I am going to have to have a life... and for another thing it is not doing me one bit of good putting everything on hold. It really is time for me to make some drastic changes. Im actually quite sick of myself because of this and I am tired of being so guarded and afraid all the time. Sorry I just needed to get that out :wink: I really relate to what everyone has said here and I hope we are all able to start moving on with things... we have nothing to lose by doing so... It could help us get well... and even if it doesnt we need to have a life in the meantime.

 

[peacedove]

Yes. I remember discussing this over and over again in therapy. My therapist kept talking about issues I had other than DP... questioning me about them, trying to help me with them. And I'm sitting there like not even hardly listening cuz it's like those things don't matter. Who cares if I don't have a job or drive?! Get rid of this DP shit and I'll be perfectly fine and able to get on with my life.

But finally I became cooperative. And I've accomplished many of my goals and although this doesn't make my DP go away, it makes me feel a little better about myself. And it gives me a lot more confidence and courage to do other things... and I think this, in the long run, will help me overcome this DP. Or at least deal with it better. It definitely helps with my depression. Don't get me wrong, I'm still depressed a whole lot, but now I have a lot more things to be proud of and look back on with a smile.

Everyone makes mistakes and bad decisions, but that's how people learn. No one does everything right the first time. I wish I had started taking chances a long time ago. I'd be a lot better off now. Your psychiatrist may be able to help you in your decisions, if you think you might be about to make a major mistake, ask him and see what he thinks.