i have those same thoughts too. here is a book that may help:
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0060987111/002-9306554-2027227?v=glance
Also cognitive behavior therapy has helped me a great deal.
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0060987111/002-9306554-2027227?v=glance
Also cognitive behavior therapy has helped me a great deal.