[jc]

while i sit in therepy every week i always sit and listen to everyone else and we all have problems otherwise we wouldnt be sitting in that room...
but im not sure if this is selfish of me but i feel like im the only one who actually feels different as a person i.e detached/unreal,we all talk about whats going on in our lives and offer each other advice and sure there are some that feel emotionally different but i feel alien because im always telling myself that my problems are worse because not only have i got to sort out my emotional issues but ive got to get out of this glass house im living in

what im trying to say is that i feel like it isnt going to work because its like a double wammy

emotional problem plus a mental shift of sorts,i wish this was just an emotional feeling

hopefully you can grasp what im trying to say

 

[Inflammed]

DP/DR is worst than anything to me...thats is a clear fact.

 

[person3]

hm...maybe some one on noe therapy

also...you have to realize...your emotions are the same as everybody else in that group...you all go through the same stuff. The reason you also have DP/DR on top of that is because somewhere along the line you decided that these normal feelings were way too much of a threat for you. You thought you wouldn't survive them. So you developed DP/DR as a safety net to hide from those strong feelings.

But you should maybe actually look at it as a good thing, that you have the same range of feelings as everyone else, and be as open about your feelings and life in that therapy room as possible.

 

[jc]

you are correct in your theory as to why i developed dp,i totally agree,i suppose what the group will allow me to do is file all the negative stuff in my head into the trash can and thus releasing alot of anxiety

 

[Guest]

you are correct in your theory as to why i developed dp,i totally agree,i suppose what the group will allow me to do is file all the negative stuff in my head into the trash can and thus releasing alot of anxiety

You feel different, and cynical, becau.se the you dont b.eli.eve the o.thers have "a.ltered st.ates".

Lac.k of b.eli.ef. You see anx.iety "talk" and arn't re.assur.ed th.at th.ey ha.ve al.tere.d st.at.e.s (Pe.ople i.n c.lass).

You f.ee.l al.ien t.o them un.less th.ey c.an "c.onvince" y.ou of al.ter.ed sta.tes p.erhaps.

 

[jc]

You f.ee.l al.ien t.o them un.less th.ey c.an "c.onvince" y.ou of al.ter.ed sta.tes p.erhaps.[/quote]

i totally agree..

whats with all the full stops by the way :?

 

[Guest]

I know this is one of the hardest things to believe about therapy and the recovery process, etc...but it's true: it honestly doesn't matter what specific symptoms a person has - the therapy work is basically going to be the same.

A person can be in your group who has panic attacks, someone else dp, someone else depressed, someone else OCD. The WORK to do together has nothing to do with the specific symptoms. The work is about talking about your feelings in general - about other people, about your goals and wishs, about aprehension and pain, about loss, about desire, about anger, about family, about sex/romance, about losing your temper, about wearing a mask, about drinking or using drugs, about shyness or arrogance, about black and white thinking (extremes), about envy and jealousy and fears of losing control.

If everyone of you did that, it wouldn't make any difference whether or not you could each relate to the specific symptoms that brought each of you there.

The WORK of healing gets done when you work on other areas of yourself, not your symptoms.

Peace,
Janine

 

[Guest]

You f.ee.l al.ien t.o them un.less th.ey c.an "c.onvince" y.ou of al.ter.ed sta.tes p.erhaps.

i totally agree..

whats with all the full stops by the way :?

I un.derst.ood what y.ou we.re wr.iting. I thin.k yo.u writ.e threa.ds where the point is highl.y ob.vious. I think it mu.st be annoying th.at people ofte.n ski.p th.e poin.t withi.n you.r threa.ds. You wr.ite thread.s with one centra.l idea and purpo.se and one stron.g questio.n. It mus.t be annoyin.g the wa.y people skirt th.e issue and answer in a peripheral fashio.n to your concern.s.

I writ.e with dot.s everywhere because my internal s.tress mountain is going to get me arrested and secondarily, bann.ed. but it isn't working, Janine thinks it's K.ewl.
(I a.m tryin.g to cal.m down. S.o I behav.e bett.er and writ.e in a mo.re coheran.t/contribu.ting manner. So I stop/start myself, it's actually causi.ng me pai.n to do this. But my ADHD is SO uncontroll.ed that I can't contro.l my emotional writing styl.e.)

I thin.k I'm doom.ed nomatter WHAT I do to cope, and socialise. You lend a good ea.r.


I alway.s do thing.s wron.g.

I think you are wa.y too accomodatin.g to other.s and too gracious. I think you can handle emotion.s quite well and that you have intern.al frustrations you are too polite to "spit".

 

[jc]

dont take this personally you are very very smart...but try not to be too smart :wink: cut out the full stops lol its freakin me out

i have no internal problems that im hiding i spill my gutts out to anyone that asks,but also i know when to not talk about my feelings

i talk about my feelings on this forum and in therepy exclusively,i dont think its fair of me to bore my friends with whats going on...

 

[Guest]

dont take this personally you are very very smart...but try not to be too smart :wink: cut out the full stops lol its freakin me out

i have no internal problems that im hiding i spill my gutts out to anyone that asks,but also i know when to not talk about my feelings

i talk about my feelings on this forum and in therepy exclusively,i dont think its fair of me to bore my friends with whats going on...

Full stops have been 'cut out'.