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If I could fix one problem right now with my dp, it would def be my talking

i remember before dp, if someone talked to me, its like, i would feel something in my heart to say or something would pop up in my head and i would just say it

now when someone talks to me, i honestly, always, feel like saying nothing, like i have to force myself to talk, like always feel like saying nothing, dont feel anything in my heart to say, nothing pops up in my head

its almost like.. i cant focus on what they said to me maybe?

like maybe there talking but im just not comprehending, i dont know..

anyone know what im talking about? anyone gotten past this part?

anyways

whats ur number 1 problem ud like to fix,

comment below and maybe i can help u out or others can to

interested in hearing what u guys well say
 

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Yeah I had read that the pre-frontal cortex is responsible for that kind of communication/bonding that is an evolved part particularly in mammals and when that part is fucked, it affects communication processes. (Mammals evolved to recognize facial expressions and communicate within groups unlike other animals) I get what you mean. I've always been an introvert but this is different. It is like certain things are not processing and so no response is conjured.

I'd say emotional numbness + the tenseness I feel all over my body and bruxism while sleeping. It's like there is something that needs to be let out and when it does I'll be fine. Things will make sense. Suffering will end.

I had an episode a while back where I went to put out the trash, on my way back inside I felt bad, like my mid was just filled with this ominous bad feeling (i get paranoid as when these things happen i always feel it around my heart and I really hope the dp and bruxism don't have an affect on my heart , - anyway) before I got inside I just sat on a chair outside and the feeling just slowly crept up increasing, just tremendous physical pain (my intuition tells me this is what my body actually feels like without the usual numbness of dp) and suddenly my whole body out of nowhere got really really sick, I was in so much discomfort, I threw up from the pain, I sat and could barely move. Every movement hurt and my jaw was contracting non stop, I'm sure it was a discharge of tension, afterwards the world looked more clear...my skin was more feeling, I felt more calm. Idk but stuff like that give me my ideas of what dp is.

I sit here and wish for dp to leave but whenever a moment comes where I can feel it leaving and some reality seeps in, I'm overwhelmed and my mind instinctively blocks it again because surely your mind knows what you can and cant handle.

Idk
 

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Yeah I had read that the pre-frontal cortex is responsible for that kind of communication/bonding that is an evolved part particularly in mammals and when that part is fucked, it affects communication processes. (Mammals evolved to recognize facial expressions and communicate within groups unlike other animals) I get what you mean. I've always been an introvert but this is different. It is like certain things are not processing and so no response is conjured.

I'd say emotional numbness + the tenseness I feel all over my body and bruxism while sleeping. It's like there is something that needs to be let out and when it does I'll be fine. Things will make sense. Suffering will end.

I had an episode a while back where I went to put out the trash, on my way back inside I felt bad, like my mid was just filled with this ominous bad feeling (i get paranoid as when these things happen i always feel it around my heart and I really hope the dp and bruxism don't have an affect on my heart , - anyway) before I got inside I just sat on a chair outside and the feeling just slowly crept up increasing, just tremendous physical pain (my intuition tells me this is what my body actually feels like without the usual numbness of dp) and suddenly my whole body out of nowhere got really really sick, I was in so much discomfort, I threw up from the pain, I sat and could barely move. Every movement hurt and my jaw was contracting non stop, I'm sure it was a discharge of tension, afterwards the world looked more clear...my skin was more feeling, I felt more calm. Idk but stuff like that give me my ideas of what dp is.

I sit here and wish for dp to leave but whenever a moment comes where I can feel it leaving and some reality seeps in, I'm overwhelmed and my mind instinctively blocks it again because surely your mind knows what you can and cant handle.

Idk
damn dude, yeah i wouldnt know what to do to help ur problem, i think the tenseness i would just work through it and just go throughout my day as if its not there or i dont feel it, maybe that could help, but idk

but that frontal cortex thing ur talking about how i cant communicate with people, what do i do to fix that.. or em i just fucked.. ive told doctors that ive felt like this, and ud thing maybe they would say something like ur saying but they just say they dont know lmao

i explained everything to a psych doctor and she told me she has no clue, and a day later i got a letter saying dont come back lmao

all that school for shit

idk man, what do u think would help that being fixed
 

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damn dude, yeah i wouldnt know what to do to help ur problem, i think the tenseness i would just work through it and just go throughout my day as if its not there or i dont feel it, maybe that could help, but idk

but that frontal cortex thing ur talking about how i cant communicate with people, what do i do to fix that.. or em i just fucked.. ive told doctors that ive felt like this, and ud thing maybe they would say something like ur saying but they just say they dont know lmao

i explained everything to a psych doctor and she told me she has no clue, and a day later i got a letter saying dont come back lmao

all that school for shit

idk man, what do u think would help that being fixed
and honestly, if weed triggered me to not feel like communicating, cus thats been like a day 1 symtpom for 2 and a half years, if i cant take this shit, i might just binge smoke til my brain comes back to normal, idk, im already fucked, i could careless if i get even more fucked, i say this now, watch me smoke weed and become 1 of those crazy people who walk all over the street talking 2 themselfs, i feel god would like that :)
 

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No identity/self, I thought having numbed emotions was bad until my brain decided to forget myself, Walking around with noone driving with no connection to anything and the world is the worst,your home isnt a home and your family just look like noone.
Really hoping I get out of this soon.
 

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Feeling disconnected when I go out into the world. Like when I am in a shop and I don't feel like I'm in my body. And when I'm outside on a sunny day and feel like I could fall off the earth because I am so ungrounded. I just want to feel connected and not the floating/detached sensations.
 

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No identity/self, I thought having numbed emotions was bad until my brain decided to forget myself, Walking around with noone driving with no connection to anything and the world is the worst,your home isnt a home and your family just look like noone.
Really hoping I get out of this soon.
the reason that you do not have an identity is because your emotions are numbed. The reason that people without DP can connect with their identity, their family, and their homes is because of emotional responses and emotional memory. You and I have very similar symptoms. Seen people get their emotions and identity back. Trial and error.
 

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I'd have to put in for the severe cognitive impairment. All these other issues stink to hell as well, but my number one fear with my state is being permanently institutionalized, or getting in trouble for unintentionally shoplifting, or having to deal with law enforcement in other ways with this condition, or getting shot by a cop because I'm so unaware of what's going on around me for some reason. So if that problem went away, then at least I could be minimally function and survive on my own. The emotional disconnect and everything else has to take a back seat.

But I do think that all the symptoms I have are intimately connected to one another, such that improvement or decline in one domain will result in improvement or decline in the other aspects of this illness.
 

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the reason that you do not have an identity is because your emotions are numbed. The reason that people without DP can connect with their identity, their family, and their homes is because of emotional responses and emotional memory. You and I have very similar symptoms. Seen people get their emotions and identity back. Trial and error.
Now I'm confused as to what I have. B/c I can connect with people and I have emotions, I just physically feel disconnected instead of mentally
 

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Now I'm confused as to what I have. B/c I can connect with people and I have emotions, I just physically feel disconnected instead of mentally
DP can come in many varieties. Do you mean physically disconnected from yourself? Because feeling out of body and physically disconnected are common symptoms however I don't have those types of symptoms often mainly just numb emotions and fragmented thought process.
 

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DP can come in many varieties. Do you mean physically disconnected from yourself? Because feeling out of body and physically disconnected are common symptoms however I don't have those types of symptoms often mainly just numb emotions and fragmented thought process.
Yeah like I can feel things but there's a slight off feeling like it's not me even though it is lol but I just try to ignore it. I had those two symptoms in the first month but with the anxiety it turned into the disconnect feeling but I'm slowly getting better
 

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Now I'm confused as to what I have. B/c I can connect with people and I have emotions, I just physically feel disconnected instead of mentally
damn dude i wish i could be like that, i say that not being in ur shoes.. but to be able to have good convos with people and be able to talk from my heart and be funny again.. like man, what is there to even trip about, if the world seems weird, idk man, i feel like id take that over not being able to connect with people, like dude, u can still b funny and get a girl, i just cant connect and im just awkward now cus i never know what to say, but i dont know what its like in ur shoes, but mine, id shoot myself, i got 3 years left of this bullshit, straight up, giving myself til im twenty six,

lost train of thought..

anyways if i was u.. just live ur life man.. be happy u cant talk to people.. i think the more u live and be social, ull get out of ur state of mind or whatever ur having problems with
 

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damn dude i wish i could be like that, i say that not being in ur shoes.. but to be able to have good convos with people and be able to talk from my heart and be funny again.. like man, what is there to even trip about, if the world seems weird, idk man, i feel like id take that over not being able to connect with people, like dude, u can still b funny and get a girl, i just cant connect and im just awkward now cus i never know what to say, but i dont know what its like in ur shoes, but mine, id shoot myself, i got 3 years left of this bullshit, straight up, giving myself til im twenty six,
lost train of thought..
anyways if i was u.. just live ur life man.. be happy u cant talk to people.. i think the more u live and be social, ull get out of ur state of mind or whatever ur having problems with
Lol I'm a female. But yeah I understand what you mean. I try to continue to do what I did b4 this even happened. Like go out, I always travel school work etc. but honestly, even though this feeling is uncomfortable you gotta push yourself and find out what works and what doesn't. Like you said "what is there to trip about?" I say that all the time? What am I tripping or getting anxious about when I wasn't feeling this way months ago. My thinking was different and not like how it is now. The way I see it is Your alive, your young just like me, you have the ability to even think what is on your mind and type it out. You're not brain dead. You can definitely get through this. What have you been trying to get you through this?
 

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the reason that you do not have an identity is because your emotions are numbed. The reason that people without DP can connect with their identity, their family, and their homes is because of emotional responses and emotional memory. You and I have very similar symptoms. Seen people get their emotions and identity back. Trial and error.
well that was not the case for me. at my first episode, i could feel very strong emotions despite dont having a sense of self. i was being able to fall in love and feel pleasure from ie gambling or sex. and i had a very great interest for the other sex. very high libido. bur despite no sense of self.
 

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well that was not the case for me. at my first episode, i could feel very strong emotions despite dont having a sense of self. i was being able to fall in love and feel pleasure from ie gambling or sex. and i had a very great interest for the other sex. very high libido. bur despite no sense of self.
I can relate to your first episode. I have an extremely fleeting sense of self yet I can still experience a wide range of emotions to a pretty considerable degree. Emotions certainly contribute to enforcing our identity but their are other factors at play it seems. I hope my ability to experience emotion can aid my recovery.
 

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I can relate to your first episode. I have an extremely fleeting sense of self yet I can still experience a wide range of emotions to a pretty considerable degree. Emotions certainly contribute to enforcing our identity but their are other factors at play it seems. I hope my ability to experience emotion can aid my recovery.
youre ruminating too much man. that seems to be your only real struggle. if you can do anything and feel pleasure then why the fuck youre ruminating? hold on the pleasure because thats the only thing why people wants to live. thats the biggest thing in the life. to feel pleasure.
 

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ha, I wish my rumination was my only problem. To think that all there is to life is pleasure is a very shallow, hedonistic way to look at the world. But frankly, I'm not surprised that you think that considering your gambling hobby. And it's not like the diversity of my emotional experiences are the same as before. I experience a lot more negative emotion than positive; hopelessness, anxiety, dread, existential terror. All that is left of my sense of self is my emotions, but what good are emotions when I don't even associate with the person that is experiencing them? What good are emotions when I feel like I have exited the human experience? But honestly man, you're right. In a weird way, shit isn't too bad. But what makes this bad is the fact that I am continuously getting worse with each new week, that's a big fucking problem. I guess If this was more stable I wouldn't be ruminating nearly as much, but im terrified for my future.

Ill take your advice, Im gonna try to stop obsessing over this, If im fucked im fucked right?
 

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I would be free of the floaters. No one will ever convince me that my floaters are not a symptom of some form of neurological damage. i can see the damn things in the dark. I understand they are physically harmless, but they

have a negative impact on my quality of life.
 
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