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Obviously there are often multiple causes but in terms of the trigger. To get over the issue one would have to properly address it and how it made them feel etc so it no longer makes you feel anxious? But when the dp is bad it's hard to think about, properly think about? Sometimes it feels so far away. So how can you get over something you can't properly feel? Should you try and think about it while dp is burying it? Surely burying things isn't the best way to deal with them, neither is ruminating. So how do you address it properly and get over it? Personally I think I'm over it but idk!
 

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I was taught by a friend that when I have a strong feeling, like when I feel the most withdrawn, to try and figure out the first time I felt like that, it’s been extremely helpful for me. By pin pointing the moments you started feeling that way it helps to process and address the feelings. I had a very traumatic childhood but I’m able to trace some of my feelings now to exact moments they started and describe every detail, it helps me a lot.
 

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I think you can still process things even though they feel far away. It can happen in the background as it's largely subconscious, and I've found it's not always helpful or necessary to re-live things in great detail. We can become stuck on past events and then it becomes ruminating which only causes more distress. The important thing is that any kind of working through of past events results in (what I think I've heard called) adaptive learning - or just coming to a new and healthier way of viewing things that happened to you and your place in them. Essentially this just means that you should feel better and be able to move forward. This can be done with self talk, which should be supportive and encouraging like a good friend would be, and can be simple phrases like "it wasn't my fault, I'm not a bad person, I never was" etc. It can be painful at first, but if there are tears along the way then all the better. As long as you always conclude with this kind of adaptive self-support it acts as direction for moving past old traumas and you can't go too far wrong.
 
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