[livinginhell333]

i wish that other people could understand what we are going through. like if i can give this to some friends or family for a couple of minutes just to see what its like so that they know and can be like wow that really sucks so they can stop making it sound so easy. i'd like to see them try going through this just for a little so they know what its like.

 

[Imagine]

Yes. I've had that thought many a time... just to describe how to people what I'm going through, embrace them with 5 minutes of DP/DR.

 

[bat]

i've thought that alot too. but i'd be scared that if people i love got it for a few minutes they wouldn't be able to be themselves again.

interestingly i read on a post here or on the london dp site that dp can be induced by a particular drug. i mean do those people just snap out of it and forget everything when the drug wears off?

 

[Guest]

you can't use this shit as a crutch

you gotta move on man, thats the only way your gonna get better.

 

[Guest]

you can't use this sh*t as a crutch
you gotta move on man, thats the only way your gonna get better.

Yeah... that's REALLY what someone who is going through a hard time wants to hear. Good work Mr Senior.

 

[Guest]

hmm maybe I should just tell him to keep dwelling on his problems and issues.

or better yet, i can give him a huge Janine like response thats 27 paragraphs long with all kinds of insight on DP/DR and whatever else comes to mind.

Lets be serious here, sometimes you gotta grab life by the balls and just say fuck it.

If all I did was worry and think about how fucked up I feel, I wouldn't have a job, I wouldn't be going to school, I wouldn't be doing music. I probably would still be that scared 18 year old who was stuck in the house for two weeks.

Two years later, im still here, still feeling weird, but have made progress.

You can't take this soft, gentle, or scared approach to this shit. You have to still live your life to the fullest despite how miserable you may feel.

DP/DR are SYMPTOMS

I have been told this by everyone professional ive seen and others that ive talked to.

You gotta get to the roots of your issues and start there.

What is the sense in complaining all the time????

oh and don't give me the " he's just telling us how he feels and looking for support" because Ive been there and done that, and It got me nowhere.

I speak to a few people who used to post here, who no longer do, sometimes, and most of them have gotten better and moved on.

I said this when I first came to this site, the days when I start feeling like my life is going in the right direction, are the days you won't see me on this website anymore. And I might be close..........

 

[Guest]

That's coz they're at a different stage to you. There's no use telling someone to run unless they can walk. In hindsight you can see what you should and shouldn't have done, but it's different for different people.

You may know how you snapped out of it and got on with life, but you would have had a whole load of life experiences which would have affected that decision. And I doubt any amount of telling you to just 'get on with life' would have made you move on from that stage any faster.

Yeah it's a symptom, but it's not very pleasant and if no-one in real life will listen to how you feel, it's good on the internet to be able to complain about it as much as you like. People move on in their own time.

 

[Sojourner]

There are forums that have psychologists on them who answer questions and offer their professional opinions. I think this board needs such a person. If you go to http://www.bddcentral.com/cgi-bin/yabb/YaBB.pl, you'll see how helpful it is to have James Claiborn there.

 

[Lilymoonchild]

That's coz they're at a different stage to you. There's no use telling someone to run unless they can walk. In hindsight you can see what you should and shouldn't have done, but it's different for different people.

You may know how you snapped out of it and got on with life, but you would have had a whole load of life experiences which would have affected that decision. And I doubt any amount of telling you to just 'get on with life' would have made you move on from that stage any faster.

Yeah it's a symptom, but it's not very pleasant and if no-one in real life will listen to how you feel, it's good on the internet to be able to complain about it as much as you like. People move on in their own time.

If you're sitting around daydreaming about running, but are wobbly every time you try to stand, so you sit back down and daydream about running some more, you will never get anywhere. Complaining about it oft times makes it worse.
My guess is, SoulBrotha simply was offering advice based on his own experience. And now so am I. Complain all you want, until you want to get better. When you want to get better, the first thing you'll do is stop complaining and start acting.

 

[Guest]

^ well said

 

[MrMortgage]

i wish that other people could understand what we are going through. like if i can give this to some friends or family for a couple of minutes just to see what its like so that they know and can be like wow that really sucks so they can stop making it sound so easy. i'd like to see them try going through this just for a little so they know what its like.

"I wish I was a little bit taller I was a baller I wish I knew a good looking girl I would call her"

Just a blast from the past LOL.

 

[Guest]

according to Dreamer I am " arrogant" and I don't have any compassion because I take a different approach to this whole situation lol.

In the beginning i used to make frantic posts, but I soon learned that didn't help. It got me nowhere. And im just trying to tell Living Hell and others that making the same kind of posts over and over, will do nothing.

You have to try to take control of your own situation and get on with life as best as possible.

oh and Dreamer you'll get a nice and meanigful reply to PM you sent me, when I get the time.

Im too tired to reply to your bull shit right now, seeing as I just got out of work.

 

[widescreened]

Compete with yourself.Dont wish u were someone else or wish dp on anyone else.Pointless and non productive.In fact it will only frustrate and anger you even more.

 

[agentcooper]

i suppose that most people really do experience dp/dr at one time or another in their lives (at least according to a survey i read once), it's just that it goes away for those people and for us it lingers. try explaining your mental state to your friends and family and see if they have ever experienced dp/dr...you may be surprised. most people to whom i've talked about dp/dr, say " oh yeah, i know what you mean"...

 

[livinginhell333]

yea i know what he is saying. its something i should do and something i'm not doing is getting on with my life. i understand that he's trying to help, other people say the same thing to me. its just really hard. i mean i try to enjoy stuff, but its hard. i currently do not have a car so i can't drive anywhere. my bro's car doesn't work. he uses my dads. most of my friends are away in college. soo. idk.